Many parents believe that the responsibility of parents is to raise children, and the responsibility of schools is to educate children. Parents who think that education is the responsibility of the school often neglect to optimize their children's personality in family life and demonstrate and educate their children's good habits in time. When children show signs of problems, they are indifferent; Children don't make any noise when they are guided by this education; When children are distorted and have bad habits, they are still expecting that school education will have a fundamental impact on children.

Quality education is an education that lays the foundation for children's lifelong development, while family education plays the role of cultivating the vigorous roots of trees, that is, cultivating good characters and habits in daily life. Children's starting point is a blank sheet of paper, on which the most beautiful pictures can be drawn, but it may also be messy graffiti.

For most children, they lived with their parents for the longest time before their values and personality were formed. Children breathe the air that blends into their parents' personality and habits every day, suck the nutrients of their parents' personality and habits, and imitate their parents' words and deeds. In this infiltration, breathing and sucking, parents' values, personality and habits have a great influence on children. To some extent, this influence is hereditary and fundamental. Teaching by example is better than teaching by example. Parents can only help their children form good habits if they are consistent in words and deeds and carefully demonstrate.

Second, if you love labor, you will love life.

Now many children have stopped doing housework, neither cooking nor washing clothes. The newspaper also said that college students would send bags of dirty clothes home by courier and let their mothers help them wash them; After washing, his parents sent it back to him.

At school, primary and secondary school students are also unwilling to do cleaning and hygiene work. When they are students on duty, they are not serious and take the initiative; When cleaning, no matter what work is assigned, it is too dirty and tired, and try to avoid being lazy; When class cadres run for public office, at least some people are vying for the position of the labor Committee. The most terrible thing is that a small number of children have become unwilling to work, and it is difficult for them to agree with the statement that "work is the most glorious". They think that labor can be bought with money. Now the housework is done by parents and can be done by hourly workers in the future. How else can I do a part-time job?

Personally, self-care labor is the basic skill. Labor is also a means of individual survival. These reasons are obvious, and parents understand them, but they say that "children are still young, and when they grow up, they will naturally do things", or "learning is already very tense, and parents can help him a little." This is a wrong and dangerous idea. Labor is a habit and needs to be cultivated from an early age; Labor is a virtue, and people who don't work don't know how to be self-disciplined and cherish it. If children have not received labor education since childhood, they cannot form self-care ability, hard-working spirit, respect for the quality of others' labor and a sense of responsibility for others and themselves.

Third, quality education, health first.

Many schools, students and parents have formed the educational concept of "reading more and getting high marks in one exam-going to a prestigious school". A large number of learning tasks are on children's heads, squeezing their time to go to the playground to participate in physical exercise. They can only sit at their desks all day and study hard. More seriously, schools and parents are not disgusted with this phenomenon. In their eyes, improving test scores is king, and physical exercise is just for fun and will distract children. There are also parents who know the importance of sports, but think that compared with learning, the importance of sports can be basically ignored. Moreover, they think that giving children more good and nutritious food can make them healthy, and physical exercise is unnecessary.

Exercise really doesn't matter. Can you use nutrition instead? Physical fitness is the primary and basic function of physical education. Physical exercise can promote the growth of bones and the healthy growth of teenagers, especially the development of neuromuscular and cardiopulmonary systems. The full development of neuromuscular can ensure that the brain can get enough nutrition in intense mental work, significantly improve the brain's reaction ability and working ability, and also improve learning efficiency. In addition to being beneficial to health, physical exercise is the best tool to cultivate a sound personality, because physical exercise is an excellent way to exercise willpower, establish a sense of rules and cultivate team spirit. For example, taking part in a 90-minute football match will consume a lot of physical strength, so you must grit your teeth and stick to it; You can't kick the ball at will, and you must abide by the rules of the game; Playing football is not a single person's battle, it pays attention to teamwork.

Quality education, health first. Excellent physique can enable students to maintain vigorous energy, accurate judgment and outstanding creativity in the long-term fierce competition. "

Fourth, knowing how to be grateful is a responsibility.

In Tangshan earthquake, a mother and son were deeply crushed under the rubble, and half of their mother's body was stuck by a cement board. The baby of seven or eight months is safe under her. A few days later, when rescuers dug a hole to approach the mother and son, the mother had just swallowed her last breath and the baby still had her index finger in her mouth. Picking up the child, I found that my mother's index finger was only half. It turns out that in times of crisis, mothers have been using milk to extend their children's lives. After the milk was sucked dry, she bit off her finger desperately and let the child live on blood.

Every time I see these, the children are teary-eyed, drooping their heads and speechless for a long time. However, we also see the fact that the only children nowadays are almost all under the excessive care of their parents and grandparents, lacking the experience of surviving in the wind, frost, rain and snow, surviving in the competition of their peers and real growth experience. They are used to the dominant position in family life and have strong ideas about themselves. Due to the lack of experience in caring and helping each other between brothers and sisters, the only child does not know what modesty is. Such a child has not grown up yet.

5. Obey the rules and have a good life.

While paying attention to children's physical development, knowledge growth and skill improvement, we should also pay attention to children's moral development. The cultivation of children's virtue should be more specific and targeted, and the cultivation of children's sense of responsibility, honest quality, etiquette in getting along with others, respect and awe for nature, and awareness of obeying social order should be put in the first place in education. Cultivating students' moral quality requires not only the joint efforts of schools and teachers, but also parents and even the whole society. Starting with children's usual words and deeds, we should give specific guidance and let children become "people" first.

Education is to start from the details, establish children's awareness of rules, cultivate children's rules and behaviors, internalize rules into literacy, and then let children with excellent literacy usher in a better life. When re-examining the code of conduct of primary and secondary school students in China, we should further start from small things and guide children to form habits: should we have educational sensitivity and education mind in the face of every day in children's lives and some bad habits in children's behavior? Should we constantly examine ourselves and our family education behavior with a certain international vision and future vision?