Correctly understand sexual psychology
With the development of sexual physiology, teenagers' sexual psychology is also developing. Faced with the growing sexual interest and desire, how to establish their own "psychological gender" and how to control and deal with it to meet the requirements of social culture are problems that teenagers must face.
The maturity of sexual physiology is the main cause of adolescent sexual psychological problems. Therefore, adolescent sexual psychological health care must come from the scientific understanding of sexual physiology, and it is very important to carry out adolescent health education step by step. A correct understanding of sexual physiology depends on a correct understanding of human anatomical organs and physiological reality. In adolescent education, teenagers should be guided to learn the common sense of physiology and health in time and understand the scientific knowledge of sexual physiology in order to eliminate the mystery of sex.
If you don't understand the sexual impulse, sexual desire and sexual consciousness of adolescence, you may have psychological conflicts and pressures, resulting in tension, fear, shyness and guilt, and then depression and even suicide. There are also puppy love, premature sexual behavior and sexual misconduct caused by improper education and the influence or temptation of bad family or social environment.
Understand the direction of one's own sexual physiology and psychology development, make it develop to a healthy and normal mature goal, cultivate sexual morality and sexual adaptability, and promote the harmonious relationship between individuals of different sexes, that is, be good at getting along with the opposite sex, but also learn to get along well with the opposite sex and understand the significance of sexual interpersonal relationships.
A Study of Communicative Competence
French writer romain rolland once said, "With friends, life shows its full value. Wisdom and friendship are the only light that illuminates our night. " This shows the weight of friendship in life. Interpersonal communication is the contact process of transmitting information, exchanging ideas and feelings between people. Good interpersonal relationship and normal interpersonal communication can eliminate people's loneliness, relieve psychological pressure, cheer up the spirit, cultivate self-esteem and self-confidence, improve the sense of social value, enhance social adaptability, form an optimistic and open-minded outlook on life, and realize the all-round and healthy development of personality.
Teenagers are eager for friendship, hoping to expand their circle, make friends, learn from each other and help each other in communication. Therefore, the feelings between friends are very strong, and individuals are very concerned about whether they are liked by others and accepted by friends. Sensitive to the verbal contact of classmates or friends, easy to be jealous or compete for the concern of others. Sometimes under the pressure of group friends, I will force myself to take some actions for fear of being excluded by everyone. In view of the above situation, teenagers should strive to increase communication, expand the scope of activities, find people to talk to and avoid depression. At the same time, be careful when choosing friends. As the saying goes, "If you are near Zhu Zhechi, you will be black if you are near Mexico". We should not get into bad habits, but have the ability to identify and choose friends with good conduct, which is of great significance to promoting mental health.
You should deal with the interpersonal relationship with the opposite sex in adolescence. Modern teenagers should get rid of feudal ideas, face up to the inevitability of communication with the opposite sex and conduct normal interpersonal communication on the basis of self-esteem, self-love and sincerity. It is true that due to sexual maturity, communication between teenagers of the opposite sex is usually more sensitive and difficult to grasp than communication at any age. This requires teenagers to strengthen their knowledge and moral cultivation, establish a correct view of friendship, love and marriage, cultivate noble moral sentiments and develop a strong will to control themselves, which is an important measure of mental health care.
In the interpersonal relationship of adolescence, the first is the relationship with parents and teachers. Moreover, there are obvious contradictions and conflicts in this relationship. Parents and teachers should not only pay attention to the shortcomings of teenagers, but also give full play to their strengths: help them find problems and help them solve them.
If it is in a group. We should be honest with each other, trust each other, help each other and exchange ideas frequently. A democratic atmosphere is conducive to mobilizing enthusiasm. Realize that we should not only enjoy full rights, but also undertake certain obligations. This is of great benefit to the mental health care of teenagers.
Face up to the contradiction of reality
Most teenagers have lofty ideals, full of illusions and hopes for the future, and often "design" themselves for some specific things, such as study, job hunting, love and marriage. However, whether they can finally achieve it is limited by many realistic conditions. Therefore, teenagers must face up to the contradiction between ideal and reality and improve their psychological quality and social adaptability.
Teenagers should have a good understanding of the contradiction between ideal and reality, admit it and accept it. Optimism is the golden key to adolescent mental health. To be optimistic, we must proceed from reality and be good at using materialism and dialectics to analyze and deal with problems; If you are optimistic, you must always be ready to meet difficulties.
Teenagers should consciously temper themselves and cultivate strong will and good psychological quality. According to the characteristics of being easily stimulated and impulsive, learn to control passion and form the habit of doing things according to reason. Even when there is a sharp conflict between ideal and reality, we should keep a healthy attitude to treat it.
Take part in a colorful life
Teenagers are nervous about their study and work on weekdays, and it is inevitable that they will encounter unsatisfactory things. An important magic weapon to relieve these psychological pressures is to live a good amateur life and make life full and meaningful.
To set aside enough time for physical exercise, it is best to make a physical exercise plan according to your physical condition and objective conditions, and you must have a healthy and strong body. You should know that the body is the capital of all activities and the material basis of mental health.
Teenagers should make full use of their leisure time and engage in some beneficial recreational activities, such as singing, dancing and playing chess. Cultivate yourself to have several hobbies to increase your vitality and interest, and make your life colorful and full of vitality. It is also conducive to building self-confidence and enhancing social adaptability.
In the process of physical and mental development, it is necessary and feasible for teenagers to consciously read books on psychology and master some commonly used self-psychological adjustment methods, such as self-suggestion.
If teenagers read their favorite books and newspapers in their spare time, it is also a major part of their spare time life. Taking reading as a pleasure can not only relieve troubles and make people happy, but also increase knowledge, wisdom and enlightenment, which is conducive to the healthy development of teenagers' body and mind.
Adult is the prosperous period of life and the mature period of youth. People in this period are already very strong, knowledgeable, brave and tenacious, enterprising and indomitable, and full of confidence in everything in the future.
However, although people in this period mastered rich knowledge, they did not have rich experience, and their psychology and thinking were immature. I often do a lot of things that I should or shouldn't do with a moment of courage, and it is also the period when I make the most mistakes in my life. Many adults have been wandering at the crossroads of life for a long time and should not take their feet in which direction.