Look at this question, I don't know who the child loves. Is it his father? Mom? Or mother-in-law or someone else.

Or yourself? Because I don't know who dotes on my children, I want to make an analysis in various capacities, hoping to help you!

1, if the person who dotes on children is someone other than you. First of all, we should instill some educational common sense concepts into people who love children.

Each of our parents hopes that their children can become talents and become dragons and phoenixes among people. It is good to have such expectations for your children, and it is also a necessary responsibility and obligation as an elder. I believe that people who spoil their children really care about them. However, before educating children, we must first face up to our own behaviors and methods. These behaviors mean that some bad behaviors in your life should be corrected in time. We should know that when we get along with children every day, the views of elders on anyone and anything will be unconsciously accepted by children and become their basic cognition of these same people or things. In other words, if the elder complains about the people around him in life, then the child will also complain about the people he doesn't like around him within his communication scope. And if the elders show concern and warmth to the people around them, similarly, children will naturally develop feedback on the behavior perception of the people around them in such a family atmosphere. In other words, if a child's elders give selfless help to his colleagues, he will also develop selfless care for others in his later life. Whether you can care for the people around you selflessly is the primary criterion for a person's future success.

Generally speaking, all the actions of elders will have an impact on their children. Due to the influence of various aspects of the family, in school, it will be reflected in the performance of children in school. Being divorced from society is embodied in dealing with people or things in society and communicating with them.

In this way, if the concept that the child received in the early stage is positive, it will help him in the future, and vice versa. Therefore, before educating children, we must first change our behavior. Parents' behavior will directly affect their children!

As mentioned above, parents' behavior will have a potential and greatest impact on their children's future. So how to better influence children's morality and knowledge to develop in a better direction?

1, some bad behaviors and incorrect values existing in yourself should be reformed in time. If you can't do what you ask your child to do, it will definitely cause the child to complain to others. For example, parents themselves like to ask their children to understand the different ideas of their classmates when arguing with others in front of their children. At this time, the child thought, you have never done it yourself, and you are still educating me. You are quarrelling with Aunt XXX!

There are some examples: in a family, there are mother-in-law, father, mother and son. Every day after dinner, the mother-in-law washes the dishes, but the mother-in-law doesn't wash them once. Soon my mother-in-law passed away. The child is 6 years old, and the mother asked her son to wash the dishes in order to let the child develop the habit of living independently. The son said, "If you didn't wash it when my mother-in-law was here, I won't wash it!" " "

It can be seen that the behavior and way of thinking of parents and elders in daily life are the fundamental factors affecting the development of children's own quality.

2. When the child has bad behavior, give appropriate guidance. I believe everyone is familiar with Ms. Song Dandan.

Song Dandan once went shopping with her when her children were very young. When they saw their beloved toys, they clamored for her to buy them. She didn't go directly to buy toys, nor did she tell the children not to buy them. She just said, "son, I know you like toys like that, but if mom buys you toys, we don't have enough money to buy you clothes." Today, mom only brings the money you want, but we can't buy clothes, and it's not easy for mom and dad to find money. Money to buy clothes and toys for you is hard to come by. You are a good boy, and I believe you can appreciate the hardships of making money. " A good boy must first learn to be thrifty and hardworking. If you want to buy a toy, your mother has no objection, but after buying a toy this time, you will have no money to buy clothes. What do you think we should buy? "

You see, such wise guidance not only makes children fail to realize their desire to buy toys without hurting their self-esteem, but also indirectly tells them some very simple financial knowledge and experience, and children will also learn to be considerate of others. I won't quarrel with my parents in the mall, but I also believe that my parents love me. Is it better?

3. Try to instill more experience into children. Don't think that children don't understand jade and don't carve it. Once the jade is shaped, it is good, but it cannot be changed if it is broken. Life is always chased by children's curiosity. It is precisely because children are curious about the world that they are instilled with some basic knowledge necessary for their future life, such as care, hard work, study and personality, etiquette and morality. And if children can feel it, they must do it themselves! This is the premise!

4. Competition between parents!

Parents with children in kindergarten may have such distress. Children will tell their classmates what their parents bought for their children and show off in front of them. At this time, parents have two choices. The first is to buy the same thing for children. The second is to use this opportunity to guide! According to Ms Song Dandan's experience. Parents of classmates who meet children talk about their children in front of them. Don't point out children's bad behavior when children are good to other children and their children are not as good as other children. But guidance! If there is, suggest to change it, if not, encourage it! In a suggested way, not an order! ! ! ! Adults are unwilling to accept criticism from others in most cases, let alone children.

When children see everything their parents do, they keep it in mind and act on it. If you find that your child has a problem, you must find the reason on yourself! ! ! ! ! ! !