On the issue of sex education, family sex education is very important, and parents must not be absent. The lack of sex education will make children lose their weapons to protect themselves from the beginning. We should let the children know that "you care, you value." "
1. Let children know the boundaries between intimacy and sexual assault. This generation of Kochi parents are more advanced than the previous generation, and will not hide sex education. However, what we often instill in children are some vague suggestions-don't talk to strangers, don't let others touch you at will ... but children are still ignorant about how to distinguish bad people and how to distinguish the boundaries between intimacy and sexual assault. If children want to protect themselves effectively, they must first know that their bodies have several private parts, and parents can explain them through sex education picture books or cartoons. VVC, an American organization focusing on children's health education, published a book called Good Contact, Bad Contact. An educational color &; In the activity book, children can mark the private parts of the human body by coloring, and let them know their body better and understand what is untouchable through interaction.
-How To Tell Your Child, an American educational institution, also produced an animated film on children's safety education, which lasted only over 7 minutes. In a very clever way, it not only teaches children the knowledge of identifying bad people and protecting their bodies, but also protects their innocence and beauty. In the funny animation, sex safety education is the ultimate. This cartoon will teach children five warning zones, including seeing the police (visual warning), talking about the police (verbal warning), touching the police (touching warning), being alone (solitary warning) and hugging the police (hugging warning). At the end of the cartoon, in order to make the children apply what they have learned, they also gave these puzzling quizzes. Parents and children are advised to find out the answers to these questions together after watching the video: 1. With your mother's company, can the doctor check your private parts? 2. If a man touches a girl's chest, is it ok? 3. If a nanny, grandparents and other caregivers help a boy dress, can you? 4. If a man takes off his clothes in front of a girl, is it ok? 5. If a woman says to a girl, "Your breasts are really beautiful", is it ok? 6. If a woman wants to take a girl to a remote street, can she? 7. If the teacher calls a group of children into the classroom, is it ok? 8. If a woman shows a photo of a naked woman to a boy, is it ok? 9. Can a strange man hug and kiss a child? 10, can uncle hug his niece? ..... Of course, these problems are not all. Every child's situation is different. In this link, parents and children need to discuss and solve together, and more importantly, more problems with room for discussion are extended. Through thinking and discussion, let children realize the potential danger of sexual assault, help children solve potential safety hazards, and let children enjoy the warmth of the family.
2. Parents need to communicate with their children more, build trust and understand their inner thoughts. In child sexual abuse cases, the proportion of acquaintance crimes is very high: UNICEF points out that 90% of children's first sexual abuse is "acquaintance crimes", and friends, classmates and peers are also the most common abusers.
Therefore, what we have to teach our children is not only vigilance against strangers, but also vigilance against close people. In Fang Siqi's first love paradise, the abuser is the girl's neighbor. The girl can't tell the boundary between intimate behavior and sexual assault. The worship of teachers and the lack of sex education lead her not to know that the neighbor's behavior has exceeded the bottom line of teachers and students. This temptation comes from people around you, and it is often hard to prevent it. Moreover, because it is difficult for the victim to prove, the perpetrator often gets away with it. In the face of this temptation, in addition to teaching children the most basic sexual knowledge, family ties are also particularly important. Parents need to communicate and chat with their children frequently, especially same-sex parents. They must talk to their children more often to find out what they really think. Temptation is a process. If parents communicate with their children more, care more about what happens in their children's school and chat casually, they may be able to find the clues of animals in advance and stifle the danger.
3. Teach children to be "defensive" and let them understand that true kindness needs boundaries. We should give our children a kind lesson. It's not that we forget to teach our children kindness, but that we need to help them be clear and truly kind, need boundaries and need sharpness. The premise of kindness is not to wronged yourself. Kindness without boundaries is basically equal to self-harm.