In fact, most children love to dawdle for a reason, so if you want to correct your child's dawdle, you must first work hard and patiently find the crux.
The reasons for children's dawdling are as follows:
1. Improper parenting style
Nowadays, many children have been completely arranged by their parents since childhood, and they have gradually lost their enthusiasm and initiative for anything, thus gradually developing the habit of procrastination and lack of opinions.
2. Lack of time concept
Children's concept of time is vague. They don't know the advantages of doing things quickly, and of course they don't realize the disadvantages of doing things slowly. This requires parents to pay attention to strengthening their children's concept of time at ordinary times, otherwise it is difficult for children to feel the meaning of time to themselves and it is easy to form a bad habit of not hesitating.
3. Poor self-control
Children's self-control ability is generally weak, their attention is easily influenced by the surrounding environment, and they are easily attracted by new things. They will soon forget their original intentions and cannot concentrate on what they are doing. In this way, children can only leave a "tail" for everything, from beginning to end, thus slowly developing the habit of procrastination.
4. The mind is willing but unable to do so
Sometimes children are slow to do things on purpose. It may be that the child is doing things beyond his ability, or that the child is not skilled in operating skills, so it is inevitable that things are not so handy and slow.
5. Lack of self-confidence
Some children lack courage and confidence in doing things, demand too much of themselves, and are afraid of making a fool of themselves or not doing well. They are always hesitant and hesitant, so they naturally slow down.
6. Natural slow temper
According to temperament types, people can be divided into four temperament types: choleric, sanguine, mucinous and depressive. People with mucus temperament and depression temperament are inherently "chronic", which is an innate temperament that children are unlikely to change all their lives.
7. Passive confrontation with parents
Some parents are too strict with their children and give them too many tasks, which leads to serious resistance, so they may fight back by "muddling along" and pursue the principle of "never finishing on time" to avoid more tasks.
Find out the crux of procrastination in the above children, and you can "prescribe the right medicine".
Parents should learn to be tolerant.
Children's procrastination is one of the most common factors that cause parents' anger. Parents always think that their children should start doing something serious, but he does this and that for a while and never starts doing anything serious, and then parents can't help shouting at their children. However, this is also an opportunity for parents to grow up. If you don't reflect every time you get angry, you will find yourself with two unreasonable habitual thinking.
The first unreasonable habitual thinking: time is tight, so hurry up.
Many people are angry because their parents feel that time is tight, so they are anxious. In fact, it is only a matter of course. In fact, time is not as urgent as expected, even if it takes three or five minutes. Therefore, parents should learn to tell themselves, don't worry, it doesn't matter if they delay for three or five minutes. If you meditate like this, you won't get angry easily.
The second unreasonable habitual thinking: you should start.
Another reason for being angry is that I always think he should start. So seeing that he hasn't started yet, parents' emotions will accumulate bit by bit. After a while, if the child hasn't started yet, he will get angry at once. Parents should learn to reflect on themselves: the child has his own rhythm, he can have his own plans and arrangements, and what he does is reasonable.
In order to cure children's procrastination, the most important thing is to strengthen children's concept of time. The plan of the day lies in the morning, and planning the morning time is the key. Bian Xiao initially summarized the "morning schedules" commonly used by several foreign families. Parents may wish to give it a try.
be clear/manifest at a glance
Our "morning things": going to the toilet, brushing teeth, changing clothes, eating breakfast, wearing shoes and coats, checking schoolbags and lunch boxes, and going to school!
Further, there is not only a task list, but also a timetable. However, it is also difficult to be so punctual every day. The use of timetable is more reflected in cultivating children's sense of time.
Get up at 6: 0015
Feed the dog food and water at 6:20 (still have time to take care of the pet? Although it's only 5 minutes, it's not easy to stick to it every day)
Make the bed at 6:25 (there are not many children making their own beds in China now).
Brush your teeth and wash your face at half past six.
6:35 braid your hair (there are girls at home)
Change trains at 6: 40
Take medicine at 7 o'clock (maybe vitamins or something)
Get on the school bus at 7: 10-20.
Parents can adjust according to our children's schedule and study time. )
Step by step
This plan goes further and has the function of inspection. Putting a tick after completing the task will bring a sense of accomplishment to the child. But this design needs to be printed every day, which is a bit of a waste of paper.
If you think it is troublesome and wasteful to print every day, you can consider such a form, which can be used for one week.
In fact, in addition to morning plans, many foreign families also help their children make bedtime plans. The reason is the same, and the practice is similar.
Generally, children pay more attention to the recognition or recognition of the outside world, so parents should change their evaluation of their children if they want to stop fooling around like this. If parents can often say to their children, "Hurry up, you will be better", "You are better than before", "Look at how fast you are doing", "Well done, come on" and "Great, now you don't need to remind you all the time", the children will be stimulated by the outside world, and these sincere encouragement will impress them. In order not to disappoint parents, children do things next time.
Don't forget, children's behavior is the most direct embodiment of parents' educational achievements.