Are parents still struggling with their children's disobedience, and are they still talking about their achievements every day? Don't do this again, it won't educate the children well, but it will be counterproductive. Let me talk about the impact of these practices first.

First, a good boy is not equal to a good boy.

"Look at how obedient other children are, and then look at you. Can you listen to something ... "Does this look familiar to you? I believe many parents have said this to their children.

Every child is an independent existence with his own thoughts, personality and opinions. Children who are very clever in their parents' minds may not be physically and mentally healthy. Children who behave well in front of teachers and parents will also have a dark side inside. They just pretend to be smart. They may do some bad things that parents and teachers can't see, such as bullying classmates and stealing things.

I have such children around me. He studies very well, is a really good student in front of the teacher, and is highly praised by his parents. But the actual situation is surprising. As far as I know, this child who smokes, drinks and fights often comes into contact with people in society. Once you go back to school, you will become a smart boy in the eyes of teachers. This kind of child is very good at observing words and feelings. They can accurately analyze the psychology of parents, teachers and others, then ponder their ideas and try to please adults. This is what we often call "worldly wisdom".

Adults will think it is a great good thing for children to obey. Children can save themselves a lot of trouble and don't have to spend so much effort to discipline them. However, parents should know that such children generally have some psychological problems. They suppress their true character for a long time, and it is very dangerous to show people with masks. Once they are emotionally stimulated, they will explode and do incredible things.

Parents teach their children to let go and not to imprison their nature. Once a child is labeled as a "good boy", the child will be very restricted, afraid of doing something wrong and being looked down upon by people. These are all possible.

Second, don't talk about grades all day.

Parents should be clear: "children's learning can't represent everything."

Don't force children to study when they are young. What parents should do is how to cultivate and improve their children's interest in learning. What parents in China generally like to do is to compare themselves with their children. As long as parents get together, it is inevitable to talk about their children. "Our children won the first place in the exam again" and "Our children won the Olympic Prize". Every achievement can be the object of parents' talk.

Parents should not only pay attention to their children's grades, but also take remedial measures. Children who do well in exams and make progress should be encouraged appropriately, but they should not be proud. Parents must not scold or deny their children when their grades are not satisfactory. Never say "Why are you so stupid?" in front of children. Look at your children, others will get the first place in every exam ... "This statement will make children lack self-confidence, and parents will lose interest in learning if they don't trust themselves enough.