A professor in Tsinghua once pointed out that there are three bowls of "poisoned chicken soup" in education in China. If parents blindly follow the trend, they may destroy their children step by step.
1, blindly advocating "happy education"
For children, their nature is to love to play, and few children will be willing to learn. But in traditional culture, strict education is advocated. Now, these concepts are outdated, and many modern people can't accept educating their children by strict means, so the concept of "happy education" has emerged.
This concept first appeared in Japan. 2/kloc-0 At the beginning of the century, Japanese educational institutions greatly reduced the burden on children and increased many extracurricular activities. Only after ten years, the Japanese generation of children has become lax. They have no sense of competition, no ambition and only know how to have fun. Therefore, in 20 16, Japan began to implement intensive education.
In fact, many young parents' educational ideas are influenced by those of western developed countries. What they see is that children in developed countries enjoy a lot of spare time every day, and children are developing their own interests, creativity and imagination are constantly improving. Therefore, these parents also gave their children great freedom to do whatever they want, and the final result was that the children collapsed before they became adults.
The essence of "happy education" is education, not the happiness without education, but the happiness for children to feel in education. Without the happiness of education, they are conniving at children's mistakes.
Therefore, parents need to make their children feel happy in education. When children fail, they should be encouraged to try again. When children can't persist, parents should support their children to move forward. Parents need to participate in education, study with their children and grow up together.
2. Think of letting go as stocking.
When we fly a kite, no matter how far the kite flies, as long as the thread is still in our hands, the kite can be taken back. Stocking education is similar to flying kites, but many parents think that stocking education means putting down all the strings in our hands and finally really can't come back. The core of stocking education is not "release" but "cultivation", and "cultivation" is education.
Stocking education is not to let children grow up freely, but to give children room to grow up, to let children fully accept and be accepted by children, to carry out knowledge education, to cultivate virtue, to form personality, and to let children abide by their bottom line in a free environment.
3, that success has nothing to do with education.
In today's society, with a fast pace and continuous progress in science and technology, many people can reap wealth in a short time. The idea that reading is the only way out pursued by the older generation has also begun to be doubted by young people. Nowadays, young people are more willing to pursue the benefits brought by "network celebrities" and are more willing to spend their time in a way that can harvest wealth in a short time. However, what they get through these methods is not real success, which cannot be maintained after the baptism of time. Success that cannot be maintained is a temporary pleasure and excitement.
"Reading is useless" has existed for many years, and the concept of "entertainment to death" is constantly encouraging the emergence of this idea, but people who really want to succeed will not ignore it, because their knowledge is constantly correcting these wrong ideas, and their academic qualifications are giving them confidence to cross the industry threshold.
The reason why these "poisoned chicken soup" will affect some parents' education for their children is that parents have not thought deeply, but just think that these words are "reasonable" and correct. In education, parents need to constantly think, constantly improve their own educational ideas and methods, be patient, have confidence in their children and themselves, find an education suitable for their children's growth, and stick to it.