Seeing the world with children's eyes, in the process of educating children, many parents have begun to try or change their way of thinking, communicate with their children through empathy and understand many naughty behaviors of their children. Share the world in children's eyes below.
See the world through children's eyes 1 Experts point out that the first thing to communicate with children is to see the world through their eyes. We all have the experience of being misunderstood. When misunderstood, we feel wronged, lonely and angry. I will close my heart and don't want to say anything; Will alienate each other.
After being understood, you will feel warm, helpful and soul mate; Willing to open your heart and speak freely; Willing to be close to each other. People misunderstand me because they can't put themselves in my shoes.
I misunderstand others because I can't put myself in others' shoes. Therefore, parents can see the world through their children's eyes and empathize with them, so they can understand their children and not misunderstand them.
Second, care about the children, and don't talk about conditions. When children are valued by others, children feel safe, loved, respected and valuable; In order to be valued again, children will repeat their actions and even ask themselves to make continuous progress.
Everyone is eager to be valued by others, because children will work hard when they are valued by others. If you are satisfied with the child's behavior, you should attach importance to the child. If you are dissatisfied with your child's behavior, it means that you don't value him.
In order to satisfy you, children will give you what you want, report good news without worrying, and they are duplicitous. Over time, they will stay away from you and be silent, which will lead to communication barriers. Therefore, parents must attach importance to their children unconditionally, and children will speak freely, eager to communicate, discuss and discuss with you, so that you and your children can be intimate and harmonious and talk about everything.
First, give more encouragement to children.
It is often said that "mom can do it, so can you", "mom can't do it, so can you", "mom can only cook for you, so you can give you advice", "mom's ideas are worthy of reference, children can do it, and your views should be considered", "mom can do what you can't do, children can do it, and you can do what mom can't do"
As long as you respect your children, they will naturally respect you, and on some important matters, they will naturally listen to your opinions.
Second, talk to children objectively.
Because of objectivity, children have no unnecessary pressure; Will feel understood; Willing to communicate with you. If you subjectively say to your child, "Son, you must be the first", "Son, you must study against time, no rest and no entertainment", "Son, you must be able to do what others can do" ... These words are unwilling to listen, and the child can't do it after listening.
. Hearing these words, the child "wants to say that it is not easy to love you." If you objectively say to your child, "Son, you have to work hard, but you are not necessarily the first", "Children should take time to study and take time to rest and entertain", "Children, what others can do, you may not be able to do it, and what you can do, others may not be able to do it", and so on, children are willing to listen and can do it after listening.
Hearing these words, children are willing to talk to you and communicate with you.
Fifth, put yourself in the other's shoes and look at the problem from another angle.
Look at the problem from the child's point of view and imagine yourself as a child, so you won't feel that the child's idea is unreasonable. When a child conflicts with you in understanding.
For example, if you are sick, the child doesn't want to take medicine. Parents say that it is useless for a good medicine to taste bitter and help the disease, because the child's idea is very simple, and the medicine is too bitter to drink.
Parents should not be angry if their children don't want to sleep at night. Just think from the child's point of view, because children are playful. This is nature. If we force it to stop, we will destroy it. Therefore, empathy can make the relationship between parents and children more harmonious.
Sixth, respect children's own choices.
Many parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. I have enrolled countless interest classes and super-long classes for my children, forcing them to study and cultivate those hobbies that parents think. In fact, the child is not happy at all. It is better to give them the right to choose and respect their own choices, and their children will repay you with Excellence in the future.
Looking at the world with children's eyes 2 1, looking up at children: squatting down and looking up at children are the principles that every parent should follow. If parents want to be accepted by their children, they must find their own position, squat down, listen to their children, understand their thoughts and know what they want to do.
There are many things that we can't understand from the perspective of adults. This requires parents to have the consciousness of changing roles, abandon their own prejudices, and look at their own world with children's eyes in order to understand children.
2, discuss with children: mutual respect, the charm of discussion is to let yourself learn to think from the perspective of others. The most important thing in the communication between two generations is mutual understanding and respect. The way to achieve mutual understanding and respect is to learn to discuss.
Children are an independent world with great potential. The development of potential depends on individual efforts, as well as parents' respect, appreciation and affirmation.
Parents should believe that their children's world will be brighter than their own, because they belong to the future. With this understanding, we can face them equally, truly respect them and sincerely praise them, and they can repay us with their healthy growth.
3. For children: Respect children, dignity is something that cannot be trampled on in the human soul. Children learn to be human and learn self-esteem with the respect of adults. If a child lives in shame, he will feel inferior.
The last thing that human beings can hurt is self-esteem. At home, parents are the enlighteners of children; In school, teachers are role models for children, and their words and deeds and even hobbies will have a subtle influence on children.
Nothing is more important for teachers and parents to treat their children than to protect their self-esteem. Therefore, for a child, the most feared thing is to lose dignity. Therefore, when you are not sure whether your child has made a mistake, you should stay calm and never wronged your child.
4. Apologize to the child: Say sorry, the child is wrong, and apologize to the adult. If adults do something wrong, they may as well boldly admit their mistakes. You can establish a friend relationship with your child, give and take, and whoever does something wrong will admit it.
In this way, adults are very aboveboard and carry a lot of weight in the eyes of children. Those who only know how to decorate themselves must be weak.
Probably every mother won't feel that what she said is wrong, so she will take pains to say it, so that she ignores the reminder out of love and becomes nagging and annoying.
Looking at the world from a daughter's perspective, a child said a few strange words, said a few naughty words, and even a boy said rude words. Although it is wrong, it is not worth criticizing. Tell him not to do that in the future.
Children's world has a strong fault-tolerant mechanism, so children quarrel today and make up tomorrow. Every time I turn over a page, it's true to let bygones be bygones.
Seeing the world through children's eyes may be closer to the essence of the world, and when children see the world as "complex", they often use what they have learned to analyze the reality rigorously.