1, control your emotions and admit your child's temperament. We often only care about our own feelings and ignore the feelings of our children, which is the shortcoming of many parents and teachers. When children are in an emotional state, they won't listen to any advice. Because when you yell, the child's heart is closed, because the psychological protection mechanism will let the child protect himself. When your child shows disobedience, try saying, "Are you a little angry now?" "Are you a little dissatisfied now?" That is, the inner feelings for children.
2, don't fight or scold, choose the correct communication method. It is normal for many parents to threaten their children with "harsh words" when faced with the question of what their children say or listen. If you don't go, you will be left here alone. The "heartfelt words" came out, because the fear of children was immediately restrained. However, this "big move" won't take long. The more frequently used, the faster the failure. The more times you threaten loudly, the child will get used to it, as if listening to you. In fact, their attention has gone elsewhere, and they don't care what you are saying.
3. Simply and simply ask the child what to do. The requirements for children must be firm and firm, and they cannot be delayed. Nagging will only make children change from initial guilt and anxiety to impatience. When impatience increases geometrically with the number of times children are told, children will become "antagonistic". The more you say it, the more children will retaliate against your parents with "disobedience".
4. The contradiction between independence and dependence. On the one hand, they yearn for independence and feel that they have no dependence on their parents and the conditions and possibilities for family independence. On the other hand, they can't do anything without the food, clothing, housing and transportation provided by their parents.