In a state of extreme anger, parents certainly can't discipline their children in a rational way. Therefore, when parents can't calm down anyway, Mr. Cheng suggested that parents leave the scene temporarily, or divert their attention to other things, such as calling friends to chat and listening to music. When you calm down, talk to your children.

2. Revise expectations for children

Sometimes parents are really too eager to achieve success, and often take the standards that they can't do (maybe parents think they can do it, but they have never done it! ) ask the child. You know, it is normal for children to be young, active, stubborn and forgetful. If parents really want to make demands on their children, they should also consider their growth. Don't always look at their performance with a magnifying glass.

Negotiate with children

Don't always ask children to live according to the wishes of adults, so not only children are suffering, but even adults are suffering. Children are human beings, and of course they have their own things to do. Therefore, it may be a good idea to negotiate with your child and take a step back. For example, if the child wants to jump on the sofa, but the parents have something to consider, they can let the child jump on the bed in the bedroom, or let him jump later, or try to take the child to the park to jump after the parents have handled the matter.

4. Let the children experience it

If children always don't listen to adults, parents can also let their children "eat their own fruit" on the premise of ensuring safety and not having adverse consequences. Through their own practical experience, children will deeply understand how correct and important their parents' teaching is.