Second, parents should respect their children's personality and treat them as an independent person. But many parents regard their children as their own private property or their own accessories. They ask their children to listen to their parents. You have to do what I tell you to do, and you can't do anything unless someone calls you. Whether you like what I say or not, you can't talk back to me. Parents become commanders, children become parents' puppets, obedient.
In fact, at home, parents should communicate with their children equally. Instead of always parents talking and children listening. You can't talk like parents talk to their children. You have to listen to me.
Third, parents should respect their children's personal hobbies and give them free space. Every child has his own personal hobbies. Some children like painting, some children like singing, and some children like playing ball. Parents should not impose their hobbies on their children. At the same time, children should have time to play instead of always studying. Parents should not give their children all their time, but also have their own free space.
Fourth, parents should spend more time with their children. Children's growth needs not only material nutrition, but also spiritual companionship and psychological nourishment. Spend as much time with your children as possible when they are young. Even if you go to elementary school, you should spare half a day or a day to play with your children every week. And have a chat with children every three to five times, play games with children or do something together. When children grow up, they should also communicate with them often and participate in some meaningful activities together.
Parents should cultivate their children's good habits, whether it is study habits or living habits. Once bad habits are found, guide them early and correct them early. Otherwise, once bad habits are formed, it is difficult to change them. When parents don't like it, it will not only change, but also cause conflicts between parents and children.
Parents should love their children unconditionally. You can't love a child just because he studies well and listens to his parents. If you don't study well, be naughty or do something wrong, you will hate him. Any wrong behavior is just a child's behavior, not the child's whole. You can not accept the child's behavior, but you can't deny the child.
When encountering some things, parents should think more from the child's point of view, understand and care about the child's feelings, and meet the reasonable needs of the child. Besides, you must keep your promise to your children. Many parents have promised their children many demands in order to make them obedient, and some parents simply can't do it. Some let parents do it, forget it when they say it, and don't care at all. But this kid is serious. Once your promise can't be fulfilled, children will not trust you in the future. He won't even talk to you about it.
Usually, parents should affirm and recognize their children more, and criticize and blame them less. This is also an important aspect of establishing a good parent-child relationship.