Will it affect learning and disturb the mind, and should be resolutely stifled in the cradle? Or as a normal phenomenon of adolescent hormone secretion, should let nature take its course, perhaps the two can urge each other and make progress together? Let's first analyze why adolescent middle school students fall in love.

Pressure is the catalyst.

In senior high school, especially senior three, the tension of study is self-evident. Many students are struggling under heavy pressure, full of sadness and grievances, and want to talk to someone, but they are afraid that their parents and teachers will not understand and there is a generation gap. In this way, intimate friends naturally become life-saving straws. In the long run, every time you speak your mind, your feelings will increase by one point. If it is the same sex, the opposite sex will easily have feelings!

rebellious mind

Adolescent rebellion will also appear under the pressure of the second half of high school. Especially in the third year of high school, it is obvious that parents and teachers strongly oppose and resist. It is precisely because of this that the inner desire for independence hopes to get rid of the control of adults with self-reliance and self-control. Love becomes the most powerful weapon.

Conformity psychological guidance

Everyone has a little herd mentality. The reason for this herd mentality is that the actual or imagined class pressure makes students have behaviors and beliefs that meet the requirements of the class. Individuals will not only show it, but also change their original views on faith and give up their original opinions. There are not many classes, and four or five couples can set off a small climax of love. Even if many students think that they have strong self-control, they will inevitably be influenced subtly, but to different degrees.

What should parents do in the face of puppy love?

Adjust cognition and face the love of high school students calmly.

When children arrive in high school, they are basically adults, both physically and psychologically, and it is inevitable that there will be a demand for pursuing the opposite sex. With the development of social progress, they are not allowed to prepare for their feelings at this time. Because it is more difficult to survive in society, they should first learn to live independently in society, and then think of others on this basis. So they have to suppress and postpone their emotional needs to adapt to this society. In fact, the seed of love, a high school student, is the only way to grow up, just like changing his teeth when he was a child. Then, treat their "love" as calmly as when they lost their first tooth!

Desalinate the concept of "puppy love"

It is the most terrible thing to label the feelings of high school students as "puppy love". In this period of high school, the essence of "love" of some high school students is just an emotional sustenance sought under pressure, not real love. If you blame blindly at this time, it will only widen the psychological distance with high school students, and the result will get deeper and deeper. It is wise to show understanding and respect to high school students, and to show that making friends should not be limited to the same sex. Having more easygoing friends of the opposite sex is a sign of maturity. As for the nature of this relationship with friends of the opposite sex, there is no definition.

Share feelings

With the understanding and respect of parents, high school students will unload their psychological defense. At this time, parents can follow suit and discuss the following issues with them:

What characteristics of the other party make him look particularly important. No matter how high school students answer, they are all affirmation of their own vision. What's it like to be with each other? No matter how high school students describe it, they cherish this feeling like children. How does it help to interact with each other? No matter how high school students elaborate, they should also sum up the conclusion of their lifelong development. Finally, I must say that after listening to the description of senior high school students, I think this friend of the opposite sex is a very worthy friend, and I hope I can have the opportunity to know him.

Accepting attitude

If the previous link goes well, high school students will be willing to introduce their heterosexual friends to you. You can choose to invite two high school students to eat KFC, or you can choose to invite them to have a casual chat at home. The content of the conversation can involve family situation, academic performance, future ideals, etc., but we should keep in mind a main line-asking two high school students to encourage and help each other, improve their grades and jointly realize their respective ideals!

Don't forget to encourage.

While paying attention to frequent communication, don't forget to affirm any small achievement of high school students. For example, the monthly exam results have improved and the living habits have improved. Even if you find him when you are going to wake him up one day, make sure. Every affirmation can be passed on to high school students' appreciative information, which can help them build up confidence and narrow their psychological distance.

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