This is the meaning of my two-way search in Baidu. Before yesterday, I thought it was a bit far-fetched to describe the relationship between teachers and students, but after yesterday, I understood that the seemingly unbalanced relationship between teachers and students, parents and children actually has a clever balance.
Yesterday afternoon, at the quality analysis meeting of the mid-term exam in Grade Three, the math scores of Class Seven and Class Eight can really be described as rapid progress. Teacher Mao briefly shared some specific practices about the rapid improvement of math scores in Class 7 and Class 8. In the same office, I know very well that she has done far more than she said. Every day, an endless stream of children flock to the office next to Mr. Mao, asking him questions or asking for corrections. Teacher Mao will carefully and patiently explain to them and gently tell them the problems that need attention in the future. I sit in my own position and feel that if there is such a teacher, I will definitely learn mathematics to the extreme. When I encounter problems, I would like to ask the teacher why, because the feeling of spring breeze is really warm and can gradually smooth out the deep gap between teachers and students. I will think of those children who can't wait to turn back when they see me, and hate that they didn't choose the right path. I wonder, if Class Three is too strict and the head teacher is avoiding me, why is Class Four? I didn't do anything! Today, Teacher Mao said that the children in Class 7 and Class 8 have poor computing skills, so she took 10 minutes in class every day and asked the students to complete three to five calculation problems on the problem cards she sent. All the students who answered correctly accumulated five times and got the points card. Students who made mistakes have to find time to take the initiative to find her to correct their mistakes that day. As long as the students who go there are students who still have expectations for their studies, no matter how poor the foundation is, she will teach and speak patiently. As long as the children do something right, she is never stingy with praise. On that day, Teacher Fiona Fang read the weekly diary of an introverted girl in the class, saying that it was the math teacher who made her feel the teacher's attention for the first time and found that she had the ability to do well in a certain aspect, which was affirmed by others. During this time, the children silently planted the seeds of trust and self-confidence in their hearts. They are teachers who respect and love them from the heart, but their expressions are euphemistic and subtle. Teacher Mao also dedicated this full love and persistence to the germination, growth and blooming of these seeds. Isn't this a two-way street? It suddenly dawned on me that the children in Class Four were not afraid of me, but I didn't pay much attention to them!
I went back to work after the quality analysis meeting. To my surprise, the classroom is orderly and everyone is learning by themselves. Even Xiao Bai, who always takes learning seriously, is doing his homework seriously, and I suddenly relented. Xiaobai is a girl, but she always dresses up as a boy, imitating from the outside to the inside. I can generally understand her thoughts, but it is difficult to agree with her behavior. She is also a girl with a ponytail in the first grade, but this girl looks ordinary and her parents always say that she is too boyish. At the age of being ignorant of beauty, she may think that the looks of boys may attract more attention. So, the next day, she cut off her hair, tore off all the disguises of good girls, gave up studying, indulged in the internet, made irresponsible remarks, called names and fought, didn't study, and ignored school discipline. I tried to communicate with her parents, and the result of communication was often that she was beaten. Her mother said, "I am desperate for this child. Stole the late grandfather's mobile phone and invited people out to dinner with the family money. There is no truth in my mouth. I tried to kill her when I hit her. " I regret everything her mother said. Maybe I shouldn't complain. Children of this age, especially girls, are really not suitable for fighting. There must be something wrong with her family upbringing now. I told her mother to calm down and try to warm her children.
After the quality analysis meeting, I want to go back to work and have a look, and then go home, because I feel really uncomfortable. When I first saw Xiaobai doing her homework carefully, I remembered that I still owed her an explanation, because I just pried open her two new friends yesterday, and I called her out to sit on the stool I prepared for her. She hesitated to sit down, and I said sit down, and I didn't want to talk to you with my head up. After she sat down, we started the following conversation.
Me: Do you know why I called your new friend yesterday?
Xiao Bai: I don't want them to play with me.
Me: Why do they play with you?
Xiao Bai: I'm afraid I'll lead them astray.
Me: What you said is wrong. I didn't think you were bad when you were angry with me. My original words are that you are not a bad boy, just temporarily unsuitable for making friends, just temporarily!
Xiao Bai: Why? I can't live without friends.
Me: You are not suitable to make friends now because the messy things you are interested in will be strengthened and recognized by them. To be fair, do you really think these things are right?
Xiaobai was silent.
Me: You did it knowing it was wrong. How can you do it if no one agrees with you? So I don't think you are suitable for making friends in the near future. You can have the idea of stabbing people with a knife because the bangs are not trimmed properly. The object is still your mother. I know you hate her for being cruel. Every time she told me that she was desperate for you, regardless of you, but you insisted on punching in the homework for the longest time in the summer vacation. Even during the operation, she tried her best not to let you fall behind. Read early. You get up at six o'clock and insist on punching in and reading early. Don't say you did it yourself. Didn't your mother push it? Dear child, you hate her knife mouth. Why can't you understand her tofu heart? I went to your house twice to learn about your family conditions. Your father supports a family and sleeps less than five hours a day. I can see your father's efforts. Can't you really tell? I still want to hear a word from you today. Do you want to study or not?
Xiao Bai: Quiet!
Me: You must understand that if you study hard, you will certainly learn. You may become the first college student in this family. Even if you are a junior college student, you are the greatest pride of this family, and no one will be willing to say a mean word to you. At that time, you may really get the respect and attention you want from your family.
Xiao Bai: Learn, I will learn! But I really don't understand English!
Me: I can help you. I can find someone to help you. As long as you can do it, we will work together!
Later, Xiao Bai gave me a small note that said, "Teacher, I have always respected and feared you. I didn't want to rebel against you when I was hanging out again, because I know you have been very kind to me. Your first home visit convinced my dad that I have potential and I can learn well, so I worked hard in the first year, but I don't know how I became what I am now. I really need to study hard. Thank you for your disagreement. When I saw this note, I was deeply moved, and all the hardships and injustices in the past were melted. I love every child in this class wholeheartedly, but they are also very kind to me, but they just said nothing!
Teachers and students have a meeting and can walk in both directions, so they don't have to meet each other!