In fact, in many cases, life after marriage is not much different from that before marriage. What really changes is after having children.
Some people say that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law basically begins after the birth of a child. In fact, the emotional problems between husband and wife often originate after the birth of the child.
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With children, men's minds will become lazy.
How to say this sentence? Men are creatures who are good at pleasing women. Before and after marriage, they are willing to spend some time making small surprises to make women happy.
After being married for a long time, especially after having children, you will have the psychology of being an old couple anyway. Sometimes they know what to do to make their wives happy, but they are too lazy to do it and feel it is unnecessary.
Xue Ruigang knew Xiaoxue and knew that she loved traveling. After being together, he travels around the world with Xiaoxue whenever he has time.
Go to go on road trip on weekends, take a small holiday to the island, and travel abroad on annual leave. When Xiaoxue is birthday, send two air tickets. When Xiaoxue is angry, drag a suitcase to take her away.
At the wedding, Xue Rui promised Xiaoxue that she wouldn't love her all her life, but would accompany her wherever she wanted to go.
Not long after marriage, Xiaoxue became pregnant. Xiaoxue, who has been shuttling from pregnancy to one year old, has never been out of the city for two years, even to the neighboring city 100 kilometers away.
After the child was weaned, Xiaoxue suggested to Xue Rui that they go out for a trip together. The child is in such a hurry that he has no time for his honeymoon.
What's more, being tied up by children in the past two years made her feel like she had been in prison for two years.
But Xue Rui refused: "What are you thinking? Why are you so selfish? How old is the child? Do you have the heart? " ? "Leave it to my mother to take care of. Aren't you worried about the old and the young? "
Xiaoxue also felt very wronged: "You are not ignorant. I used to spend a third of my time on the road. Now, for you, for your children, for this family, have I offered to go out in the past two years? " What did you say at the wedding? How long has it been since you completely forgot it? "
They quarreled for a long time that day. Persuaded by their parents, they stopped quarreling and turned into a cold war.
A week after the end of the Cold War, Xue Rui complained to me. He said: "I used to spoil her when I was a child and drove her crazy everywhere." Now that I have children, I don't think it is necessary. "
Later, Xiaoxue went out for a trip with her best friend. In every trip after that, Xue Rui was not in her plan.
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With children, a woman's energy and love will be transferred, even all.
Women are born with maternal brilliance. Once they become mothers, they will unconsciously transfer all their love and energy to their children.
To a certain extent, they will ignore their husbands' feelings and make them feel inexplicably lost.
Yao Yao and Dabin are a loving couple. Yao Yao is very attached to Dabin, and Dabin is used to Yao Yao twittering around him every day.
But since having children, Yao Yao seems to be a different person. There is no room for anyone else in her eyes except children.
The child didn't sleep honestly, and the three of them slept a little crowded. She didn't hesitate to drive Dabin to the second bedroom.
On Friday night, Dabin asked her to go to the movies to relax after work. Yao Yao shook his head. "No, I'm going back to see the children."
When eating, Dabin wants to chat with her. She didn't keep looking at Dabin. She interrupted Dabin several times to coax the children, making Dabin feel that he had been talking to himself.
Even in the life of husband and wife, Yao Yao will cry because of the children, and this matter will go away.
Later, Yao Yao turned to the ambiguous information about him and other women on Dabin's mobile phone and found that they sometimes talked all night. She suddenly realized that she and Dabin had not talked well for a long time.
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Marriage is the longest compulsory course in a person's life, and children are just one of the report cards.
As we all know, it's never too late to study. Never stop at a report card, because you never know if there are any problems below.