First equality principle
Psychological research has proved that the equal debate between children and parents is not only a manifestation of mutual love, but also helps children build confidence, distinguish right from wrong, and enrich their imagination and creativity. The influence of "dictatorship" on children's character is disastrous. Many parents feel that children should listen to themselves and obey their own efforts to earn money and raise their children. This concept should be changed, and children should be treated as equals.
The second principle of respect: only when we respect children can children respect us. Some parents just want their children to do what they say, but they can't have their own opinions or defend themselves, otherwise they will reprimand their children loudly. This kind of child is likely to parrot when he grows up and has no opinion.
The third principle of emotional communication
Many parents mistakenly think, "You have books to read, food to eat and clothes to wear. What else do you want? " But human growth needs not only material things, but also spiritual and emotional needs. Parents ignore children's spiritual and emotional needs, and children and parents have nothing to say. In the long run, it will become more and more embarrassing for children to get along with their parents.
Fourth freedom principle
Many parents are very strict in the management of their children, but they are often thankless and even cause tragedy. We should believe in children's ability and give them a space for free development.
Fifth unification principle
Family education should be unified with the school, otherwise the children are at a loss. In addition, the educational concepts among family members should be consistent, otherwise the children don't know who to listen to, and no one will listen.
Sixth example principle
Parents are the first objects that children imitate. Parents must set an example and don't plant bad seeds in their children's young minds.
Seventh trust principle
Lies come from distrust. If you trust your child from an early age, there is no need for him/her to lie.
The eighth principle of tolerance
To err is human. Children will naturally make mistakes when they grow up. Parents should be tolerant, and there is no need to "swear at small mistakes and serve at big mistakes."
The ninth incentive principle
Many parents have a bad habit. When their children get good grades, they will say, "Did they peek?" When the child's grades are poor, he said, "You have been so poor." Although it was a casual sentence, it greatly hurt the child's heart. Children should be encouraged more in family life.
The tenth law changes the principle
Every parent hopes that their children will grow up as soon as possible. In addition to intelligence, they should also cultivate children's good personality, because children's personality directly determines their life's fate. Specific methods:
First, let him have strong self-confidence. Only when a person believes that he has the ability to meet all kinds of challenges can he overcome them. To do this, parents should first discover their children's talents and abilities as soon as possible, consciously induce them and encourage them to have confidence in success.
Second, let him have full enthusiasm. If a person lacks enthusiasm, no career will succeed. Passion, for most children, is innate. However, it is not easy to keep it from being hurt. Because enthusiasm is fragile, it is easy to be dampened or even destroyed by exam results, ridicule from others or successive failures. Therefore, parents should pay great attention to protecting their children's enthusiasm and never hurt them at will.
Third, let him have compassion. Most children are sensitive to the pain of animals. If a family always cares about others, it will naturally sow the seeds of sympathy in the young hearts of children.
Fourth, let him be flexible. We should treat children with the love and feelings of adults as soon as possible, so that they can grow up as soon as possible, and avoid being too naive and fragile to bear all kinds of social shocks.
Fifth, make him full of hope. Always teach children that failure is the mother of success. In this way, when difficulties really come, children will dare to face the reality and be fearless in times of crisis, thus establishing a strong personality and endurance.