This book collects many cases about children and tells some practices in children's education by case writing. Based on the classical theories of pedagogy and psychology, with the rigor of scholars and the affinity of mothers, the author makes a thorough and detailed interpretation of various educational problems faced by everyone, points out various misunderstandings faced by education, and provides readers with many operable methods. The biggest feature of this book is to be close to the current educational reality, restore the educational truth, and let everyone see that a good education is not complicated, and an effective education is often simple and simple! At present, I have benefited a lot from attending preschool classes. From this book, I learned how to look at the problems when children grow up. At the same time, some ideas are also suitable for the teaching management of primary school students.
Although I haven't finished reading it, I was deeply attracted by the opening preface "The Most Beautiful Gift of Life", and mentioned that as a parent, it is not reliable to leave only some consumable wealth for children; Only by leaving some productive and sustainable wealth to children can we really be responsible for them. Three things are the most precious: the first treasure is that "reading" can not only shape children's intelligence, but also shape their psychological quality. Extensive reading can promote children's thinking development. To improve children's reading ability from an early age, only by constantly letting children read, reading with children and spending more time, there is no shortcut. The second treasure is the freedom advocated by teacher Yin in the book Freedom. It is not laissez-faire, but to give children "three rights": the right to choose, the right to try and the right to make mistakes. Nowadays, the more educated parents are, the more they take care of their children, the more they plan and demand, and the result is often counterproductive. Sambo is a "good example" for children, not only what you look like in front of outsiders, but also what you look like when you get along with children. In the growth of every life, there is no teacher more important than parents. The child is simple, immature and has a unique personality. They need care, love, help and more respect. Management management can't be called management unless it is unreasonable management. Everyone who is managed is a living individual. If you don't put the managed people in a proper position, don't respect them, don't understand them or even love them, your management won't have much effect. An important goal of education is to let children have a healthy psychology and a sound personality. Both parents and teachers should understand and respect their children, and be tolerant, understanding and concerned about their mistakes.
Now share the following three points that education needs to adhere to:
First, give students a chance to make mistakes.
Childhood without trial and error is terrible. Does not mean that children will live more correctly and better in the future. Perhaps on the contrary, without the foreshadowing of childhood exploration, his cognitive foundation is very thin, so he should spend more energy to recognize the world and adapt to life in his later life; It is very likely that you will live a rigid, boring and cautious life, and even live in the depravity of self-abandonment.
Einstein said: "Imagination is more important than knowledge, because knowledge is limited, and imagination summarizes everything in the world, promotes progress and is the source of knowledge evolution. If teachers are eager to regulate students with their own thinking and standards, it is easy to suppress students' positive passion and prevent their free will and creativity from growing.
For example, in the teaching class, if a student raises his hand and says the wrong answer, and the teacher does not give active guidance and encouragement in the class, then the student's classroom performance will be suppressed; Emotions will also become passive. Giving students the opportunity to make mistakes is not to indulge them, but to give them a platform space to play as freely as possible. Understand the requirements of students to try, provide them with opportunities to try as much as possible, give them a confident and happy way of thinking, and let their talents and potential be fully exerted in their future growth.
Second, students should not be severely educated.
Teacher Yin's so-called "strict education" refers to an act of compulsory reform of students by means of beating, cursing, punishing and humiliating. Although the goal is good, I hope the students can do better. But because it doesn't respect students, it doesn't conform to human nature, and in fact, it has no educational elements, which makes knowledge a destructive force.
Students who are often criticized learn to be harsh, and students who are often beaten and scolded learn to hate; Students who are often criticized can easily become inferior; Students who are often restricted will become more and more rigid and stubborn. "Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words" is a truth conclusion that has been verified by time and countless times in education. Strict education itself is also a demonstration. If teachers only criticize and beat and scold students, how can they cultivate their friendliness, peace and harmony?
Recently, when I was listening to a book, I heard an example: a mother saw her brother grab his toy. She went over and said, we should learn to share. You should give your toy to your brother. I said twice that my brother didn't give it to my brother, and my mother took the toy directly from his brother, saying that toys are for sharing! This move not only didn't let the younger brother learn to share, but also misunderstood the meaning of sharing, so that the children could rob others of what they wanted in the future! Or never share it again!
Students' emotions are fragile, and their growth only needs constant encouragement rather than severe punishment. All severe treatment hides some kind of harm. It is especially obvious in preschool education that children's world is innocent and their hearts are very fragile. Teachers must have all kinds of encouragement programs in their hearts to guide children patiently! The teacher should put down the stick and put down the stick in his heart; No stick in your heart is more important than no stick in your hand. A tolerant and sincere education will always be the most beautiful, moving and influential for students.
As teachers, we should understand, tolerate and respect students with a peaceful and tolerant heart. When we have inner wisdom and strength, and the space increases, students will naturally be influenced by us subtly!
Third, give students a kind of trust.
What can make children feel proud and happy than trusting them? How can students be confident when we question and deny their behaviors, thoughts, words and deeds every day? Such doubts are actually depriving students of the right to grow up (many parents of primary and secondary school students now have such a common problem, but they are always eager for their children to be excellent to the extreme), and they have set a "rule" by themselves. In order to please their parents, students struggle for life and lose the motivation of self-development. Although we are educators of students, we should not always instill in students what we think is right, that is, to replace students as masters of their souls. Simply put, always remember that you are equal to your children, and don't pretend to be a teacher. Once this equality is lost, it is difficult for students to communicate with teachers. Give generously to students' reasonable demands, and don't question students' motives, which is difficult everywhere.
I remember there was a boy in my class in grade one, who usually failed in English dictation. Once, the teacher accidentally found that he got 90 points in listening and writing, and then went to his desk and said sarcastically, "You got 90 points in listening and writing this time, but you have made great progress." The boy looked at the teacher with clear eyes and said, "teacher, I went home last night and recited it carefully." I also want to win the progress prize. " The teacher replied helplessly, "I believe it is the result of your efforts." Can you spell these phrases? " The boy confidently spelled out several phrases that the teacher asked to recite. Afterwards, I felt that the teacher's distrust of this boy may have brought him a psychological shadow. Boys never took the exam again 100.
The way one life expresses love for another life should first be respect and trust. Teachers' good expectations of students can promote students to develop towards the goals expected by teachers and establish good self-confidence. In the teaching process, teachers should treat every student equally, instead of wearing "colored glasses" to examine those so-called underachievers. The most beautiful education is often the simplest. We just need a normal heart, trust students and cultivate ourselves. Students have unlimited life possibilities and often bring us unlimited room for growth. Please don't block the students' psychological space with a box with rows.