In our country, from ancient times to the present, people often regard gossip as derogatory. In fact, this is biased. Gossip is not only necessary for human society, but also very necessary. Long and short are not only contradictory, but also very close and indispensable. There are long and short, contradictions, unity, mutual contrast, mutual coordination, interaction, mutual promotion and sometimes mutual exclusion. If you don't cherish the short, it will affect and waste the long; If you don't look at the long, you must look at the short and make the long shorter. You see, being long and short is not a university question, but a philosophy of life.

Let's talk about six related issues from the perspective of long and short in combination with life practice.

1. The road to life is long, starting with "short". Pay a little attention. In real life, you can often hear someone say that no matter what you ask him to do, he will answer you with the phrase "there is still time".

For example, some young people are energetic, physically strong and have good cultural quality. A friend advised him: "Learn a skill or two while you are young, or study a subject." But he always replied, "Never mind, there is still plenty of time." As a result, he didn't master the same technology when he was old, and he didn't do a few decent things in his life.

There is a skilled and experienced middle-aged famous doctor. His wife advised him: "While you are in good health, take the time to sort out your treatment experience and publish a book in the future for future generations!" " For his wife's kind words, the famous doctor smiled and said, "There is still a long way to go, and it is not too late for me to retire." Who knows that before he retired, he had a stroke and got hemiplegia. By this time, he could no longer write. In this regard, he regrets it very much.

There are many people and things like these who have a long way to go, but unfortunately they all waste their time because they are not used at ordinary times, and finally accomplish nothing. So this tells us such a profound truth: the Japanese road is long, but it's Xiu Yuan, starting with "short"!

It's a long way to go in Xiu Yuan, revealing that a person's life in the world, according to the existence of 70 or 80 years, does have a long time on the whole. If we want to make full use of it, there is a lot of leisure time to use. As long as we work hard, we can accomplish many things. But to accomplish many things, we must correctly handle the relationship between life, though long, from short to minute, from small to large, from near to far, from thin to thick, from weak to strong, from small to many. If you don't pay attention to your usual efforts, don't start from scratch, blindly sing the song "time is still abundant", read the classic "time is still abundant", or prevaricate others with "time is still abundant", don't know how to cherish time, waste time at will, or waste time at will, the wonderful time in your life will be wasted, you won't be able to do a few decent things, and there won't be anything that will satisfy you.

Some people say that human life is the most precious. However, if you deeply analyze this life, you will find that the most precious thing for a person is not life, but time. As Lyubyshev, an entomologist in the former Soviet Union, pointed out: "Life is made up of time, which is accumulated by one hour, one hour, one minute and one minute." Without time in life, there is no life. So, what attitude should we take towards time? In the words of Schiller, a German playwright and poet, there are three attitudes: "The future comes late; Now fly like an arrow; The past will never stand still. " I think if all of us can really establish the concept of "short time", then we should adopt Schiller's second attitude: from now on, we should treat and use time "like an arrow". In this sense, life doesn't know that time is precious and can't make full use of it, that is, it can't talk about the real value of life.

2. "learn from each other's strengths" should be appropriate for people and things. The idiom "learn from each other's strengths to complement each other" has been circulating for many years. People have always praised it and think it is correct and completely correct. But I have observed, thought, analyzed and pondered for many years in practice, and more and more I feel that this sentence is not perfect or completely correct. There are also some doubts, even obvious defects and incompleteness. Because, for some people and things, if we all follow the method of "learning from each other's strengths", it is likely to be counterproductive and have little effect. So how to deal with "learn from each other's strengths" is very debatable. "learn from each other's strengths" should be appropriate for people and things.

As we all know, the main meaning of "learn from each other's strengths" is: First, for yourself, you should be able to learn from others, learn from their strengths and make up for your own shortcomings; The second is to tell subordinates to give full play to his strengths, that is, strengths, and at the same time pay attention to helping him overcome shortcomings and make up for deficiencies; Third, for a team, I hope that he will develop in an all-round way, paying attention to both his advantages and his shortcomings. In short, "learn from each other's strengths", for yourself, for subordinates, for children, for the team, are all working hard for their all-round development and improvement. They all hope to absorb the strengths of others and make up for their own shortcomings, but they can't let themselves have any shortcomings. Obviously, this "learn from each other's strengths" has been put into "learn from each other's strengths". Therefore, based on this kind of thinking, no matter how much effort, energy and effort, we must find ways to make up for the "short" of a person or a unit. As everyone knows, the result of this is often thankless, and the blind light the lamp-in vain. Some "complement each other" makes the short shorter, which also affects its long play.

For example, a family has a child who went to high school to take the college entrance examination. I like literature and writing since I was a child, but I am not interested in mathematics and physics. My grades in these two subjects have been unsatisfactory. Therefore, in order to "learn from each other's strengths", his parents forced their children to let go of the "strengths" of literature and writing, and they had to "make up" the "weaknesses" of mathematics and physics. As a result, his children failed not only in math and physics, but also in Lian Wenxue and writing.

For example, in some enterprises, some people like to stick to their production posts and work hard in the workshop, some people are good at business promotion, some people are good at reception and communication, some people like learning and inventing, and so on. In short, all kinds of 100 people, most of them have their own strengths and weaknesses. According to common sense, what is most needed at this time is to vigorously carry forward and give play to their "strengths" and let them give full play to their talents. However, some people are superstitious about "learning from each other's strengths". As a result, everyone has a lot of opinions. In the end, we can't learn from each other. There is no new improvement in their work, which has seriously dampened their enthusiasm for study and work. Therefore, this lesson of "learning from each other's strengths to make up for each other's weaknesses" is very profound.

Now there is a saying that has been proved to be correct and fashionable by practice, which is called "keeping pace with the times". I think it is especially applicable to the sentence "learn from each other's strengths". Of course, "learn from each other's strengths" has its advantages, but it cannot be applied across the board and should be treated differently. In other words, it is better to make up for "short" than "long". Sometimes or in some cases, isn't it better to make the strengths longer? Especially in the treatment of talents, we should adhere to the humanistic thought and concept of "people-oriented", should not seek perfection and blame, should not be high, big and all-round, but should pay attention to cultivating and giving play to everyone's advantages and strengths, so that some talents with expertise and skills can be unique, emerge suddenly and strive for perfection. We should do everything possible to help them constantly sum up their experience, make their strengths longer, and become top talents and leaders in various fields. Paying attention to and giving full play to everyone's strengths is actually concentrating the superior strength for a team, which is the most important thing.

Of course, we advocate that it is better to make up for the "short" than the "long". It's not that people don't want to learn from the advanced and deny learning from each other. That's not what we meant. "learn from each other's strengths" involves both methods and scientific attitudes. I'm focusing on the latter here, and I'm talking about how to help talents stand out. Many times, "people who know what to do" are not as good as "one move is fresh".

3. It is better to make up for each other. In real life, many people advocate and adhere to the idea of "fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses". The author thinks that although this is a good choice, it is not necessarily a good choice. Because "developing strengths" is ok, "avoiding weaknesses" is not necessarily desirable. While giving full play to our strengths, why not turn "fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses" into "complementing each other's strengths"? In this way, your "shortcomings" are constantly being repaired, and your advantages are more prominent. Isn't this more conducive to your growth?

Of course, the shortcomings mentioned here are not those hopeless bad habits, but some shortcomings or relatively weak working ability. In fact, some shortcomings or weaknesses of people can be avoided without trying to avoid them. So, why should we avoid or ignore this objective existence? For example, compared with some economically developed coastal areas, the central and western regions have obvious gaps in economic strength, science and technology, education level and ecological environment. Many enterprises have weak anti-risk ability, lack of core technology and innovation ability, and low product quality. In a sense, this is the "soft rib" of the central and western regions. Since there are such shortcomings in the central and western regions, we must dare to admit them, face them bravely and not evade them. It is a desirable attitude to take active measures, analyze the reasons and make up for our own shortcomings. Obviously, we can't take an evasive attitude towards our own shortcomings. Disadvantages are not only unavoidable, but may become "short" more and more! Complementing each other is not only a correct working method, but also a positive attitude towards life. Complementing each other can enhance your confidence and courage, and help you to accelerate the pace of achieving your goals.

For another example, what should a person do if there is a weakness of caution in his personality? If we adopt the thinking mode of fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses, it will never be corrected! Doing so is harmful to life. If you make up your mind to learn from each other's strengths, get rid of your shortcomings and work boldly, you will make your life more perfect.

Practically speaking, it is often more important for a person or a group to "learn from each other's strengths" than to give full play to their strengths. You can't avoid talking about strengths or advantages, and it won't cause any loss or harm. But if the shortcomings or deficiencies are not corrected, they will be extremely serious. Because of this, in some cases, it is better to make up for each other's shortcomings than to develop them.

4. Look at people and strengths. As the saying goes, "a good word warms three winters, but a bad word is cold for life." This shows that a person needs to pay attention to the way and method of speaking. Because saying good things, saying good things, saying good things and saying bad things will not only affect other people's mood, but more importantly, it may also affect their own future and destiny. This is not only a question of speaking, but also a question of how to look at people.

In America, a stepmother turned a "bad boy" into a model of a great man. /kloc-at the end of 0/9, a child in Virginia, USA, was very stubborn. He secretly threw stones at the neighbor's window, and put the dead rabbit in a bucket and barbecued it in the school stove, which made it stink. The angry father beat and cursed, but with little effect. The child is still keen on all kinds of practical jokes. When the child was nine years old, his father married his stepmother, whose family was better. The father introduced the child to her and said, "honey, I want you to pay attention to the worst boy in this state." He gives me a headache. " Maybe I'll throw stones at you or do something bad before tomorrow morning. In short, it is impossible to prevent. "

However, the stepmother walked up to the child with a smile and looked up at him. Then she looked at her husband and said, "You are wrong. He is not the worst boy in the state, but the smartest boy, and has not found a place to vent his enthusiasm. "

A compliment from the stepmother warmed the boy's heart and tears almost rolled down. It was this compliment that inspired him. He created twenty-eight golden rules in the future, and helped millions of ordinary people in Qian Qian embark on the bright road of success. This boy is the famous Dale Carnegie, one of the most influential figures in the 20th century.

On the surface, what one person says to another is just a compliment or encouragement. Essentially, it tells us that we must look at the strengths of others, be good at looking at the strengths of others, and look at others with appreciation. It gives great power support to others, which is more important than material support and help.

In the complicated world, in the long course of life, everyone will often get into trouble unexpectedly, so that some people give up on themselves. At this time, what they want most is not material things, but sincere and enthusiastic praise from the outside world. Because at this time, it is likely that a compliment can change their lives. Just like Dale Carnegie listed above, as long as one person thinks he is good, say he is good. As long as there is a compliment from others, it is an affirmation of him. For a cold and desperate soul, even a greeting, a person's affirmation, is a ray of sunshine that warms people's hearts, a blessing is a drum that inspires people to forge ahead, and a praise is a sail that goes forward bravely. Anyone who has experienced hardships knows that words of praise from the outside world contain sincere and kind hearts.

For life, since a compliment has such great charm, our correct attitude is never to be stingy with compliments to others. As the saying goes, feet are short and inches long. Everyone has his own shortcomings and advantages. What we should do is to accommodate our seniors and learn from each other's strengths.

In a sense, a person praises others more, is willing to cheer for others, and can also be praised by others. Similarly, he can also bring himself a good mood, and perhaps change his fate and make himself more glorious. It is because of praise that a beautiful world is created. Then, of course, a beautiful world cannot be separated from the language of praise.

Of course, we advocate praising others more, not deliberately raising, pleasing or pretending to flatter, but sincerely appreciating, hugging and wishing.

On policy issues, it is necessary to be relatively stable, and what is long is long. Don't take "time-varying" as a hymn. Here is a typical example. 20 10 a newspaper published several articles in succession, praising the practice of a municipal government of "changing orders frequently". We are full of praise for "changing the rules" because it originated from the Guangzhou Municipal People's Government. On the eve of the Asian Games, in order to avoid the pressure of ground traffic congestion and ensure the normal Asian Games, the municipal government decided to give subway passengers a free ride for one month. I never thought that after only one week of implementation, the subway passenger flow was twice as high as usual, the subway station was crowded with people, and passengers got on and off in a "fierce battle". This has undoubtedly become a major hidden danger of subway traffic safety. Obviously, this decision of the Guangzhou Municipal Government is wrong and divorced from reality. Helpless, I soon had to make another decision, changing the free subway ride to family subsidized transportation expenses. Facts have proved that the latter method is still effective, and the subway traffic pressure will be relieved soon. As a result, some people wrote an article praising the Guangzhou Municipal Government's "changing orders from time to time" as a wise move, and called it "praised by the general public". Obviously, it is a decision-making mistake that is divorced from reality, but it is praised as a "wise move" and should be promoted as an experience that changes with time! After careful consideration, we can't blindly sing praises for the Guangzhou municipal government. We should learn a lesson seriously.

Of course, we should fully affirm the sincere attitude of the Guangzhou Municipal Government to correct mistakes. Otherwise, if the government takes care of face, does not correct its mistakes, and goes its own way, causing major traffic accidents, causing heavy casualties and causing major adverse effects in society before correcting them, then the losses will be great! From the perspective of no casualties and loss of public interests, it is not too much to affirm the "willful change" of the Guangzhou Municipal Government this time.

But on the whole, the wrong decision of the Guangzhou Municipal Government to "give subway passengers a free month" is divorced from reality. Although it is "changing with each passing day", it is impossible to praise it anyway. Because, if correcting mistakes is so obvious, it will be said to be a wise move to "change the order". As a first-class government, one is too reluctant, the other is that there is no ideological right and wrong to talk about, and the third is childish and ridiculous. Since it is a policy or regulation issued by the people's government at the next higher level, it should be extensively investigated in advance, but the policy should remain relatively stable for a long period of time, and try to avoid the phenomenon of "changing rules".

It is reasonable for our ancestors to pass down the idiom "change one person's mind at a time" and give it a derogatory definition. Why does oversoul change overnight? It means that government decrees are changeable and changing too fast, which is unacceptable. Because, not to mention a country, as a first-level government, if the decree issued in the morning doesn't work for a day, it will have to be changed at night. What decree is this? Is it too hasty? Therefore, "changing the rules" is a taboo for politicians! We can't sing "changing the rules" as a hymn at any time.

Analyzing the "decree" of Guangzhou Municipal Government that "subway passengers are free for one month", it is obvious that there is a lack of serious investigation, analysis and judgment before making a decision. Don't say that during the Asian Games, the floating population in Guangzhou will definitely increase greatly, which will bring some pressure to traffic. Even in normal times, if the subway is free, it will definitely cause subway traffic congestion. In a big city with a population of tens of millions, there are so many people coming and going that it is nothing to go out by bus. It's just a pie falling from the sky. Who doesn't want to touch such good light? Even those who have private cars and bus monthly tickets will give up the existing convenience and take the subway for free, because those who have private cars and bus monthly tickets are individuals who have to pay a certain cost. Moreover, in the current primary stage of socialism, in the market economy society, people's ideological consciousness has not yet reached the level of self-consciousness, that is, they will automatically relieve the traffic pressure for the society and share the worries for the government without money. If this is not the case, it may be more effective to appropriately reduce the subway fare or subsidize the transportation expenses of Guangzhou citizens' families.

We don't agree to sing praises for "changing the rules" This doesn't mean that we can't correct mistakes in government decrees. We should persist in seeking truth from facts, find problems in time and correct them immediately. This is a correct idea worth advocating at any time.

6. If you want to live a healthy life, you might as well learn the philosophy of life of your predecessors and short people. Recently, a new word, "0.8" philosophy has become popular in society. The so-called "0.8" philosophy is not full, extreme and paranoid. It advocates harvesting eight hopes with great efforts, spending every day with a relaxed attitude and dealing with the world in a mean way.

This "0.8" philosophy of life reminds me of how to keep healthy. That is how to deal with the relationship between "0.8" and "0.2". This should be regarded as a new concept in our modern life and a moderate pursuit of life. To do a good job in the article "0.8", we should do the following in real life:

Physical and mental health should not pursue perfection excessively, but the ultimate. If you can achieve "0.8" or 80% satisfaction, you will be satisfied. If you are "0.2" or 20% dissatisfied, it doesn't matter. Otherwise, extremes meet, the strings are stretched too tightly and the bow is stretched too long, which is not good and is not good for health. The ancients in China said: "Nine times out of ten, life is unsatisfactory", which is also the truth, and there are also long and short philosophical thoughts in it. On the surface, there is "0.2" or 20% dissatisfaction, but if you can achieve "0.8" or 80% satisfaction for a long time, you can achieve the goal of being very satisfied with life.

In work and career, don't rush for success, you can slow down appropriately and finish the task on time to achieve the planned goal. In other words, a "0.8" enterprise is enough. Give eight points, hold 80% expectations, and naturally relax. You can't leave yourself a little space, leave no room, and let yourself run straight ahead. Sooner or later, you will stumble, because if you work too hard, you will not be able to go further and you will not be able to maintain the momentum of sustainable development. Facts have proved that human development is spiraling upward, and if we only take the diameter, we are likely to go to despair. Sometimes it's not terrible to make mistakes at work, as long as you sum up your experience in time and learn lessons seriously. In fact, those who persist in "0.8" enterprising work for a long time have far better results than those who are good at doing a good job with immediate strength, and their contribution to society must be great.

On the issue of diet, we should make full use of "0.8" philosophy of life, which is a healthy outlook on life. For example, when eating, you should eat eight points full. Only in this way can the stomach absorb better and digest faster, so as to live a healthy and happy life and stay healthy.