Pay attention to children's feelings
It has been mentioned many times in the book that we should pay attention to children's feelings, understand their feelings from the perspective of children, and understand the influence of what some parents with different attitudes say on children's psychological feelings. Although a child is young, he is a person with feelings, independent thoughts and independent personality. Only by truly treating children as independent individuals and communicating with them can we truly respect them.
listen attentively
For example, for some children who love to lose their temper, parents are given four skills to help their children face their feelings: 1. Listen carefully. 2. Respond to their feelings with "Oh …", "Um …" and "So …". 3. Tell them how they feel. 4. Realize your wishes in a fantasy way. In this way, children will be comforted and understood, and communication will be easier.
Control emotion
In reality, many parents are inevitably mixed with venting their emotions when educating their children. When they think about it, they will say it when they are happy. When communicating with the parents of underachievers, I always emphasize repeatedly: don't beat and scold children when you go home, you should care about their mood and spend more time helping them overcome their learning difficulties. When tutoring children, you must control your emotions. If you feel angry, go out quickly and ease your mood.
Small exercise
There are small exercises in the book to train parents to communicate with their children.
interpersonal communication
I think this book is essentially a book of interpersonal communication, and many of its ideas and methods are applicable not only to parents and children, but also to communication with everyone.