Guide patiently and systematically
Children's growth, success and success are inseparable from their parents' education. But education is not equal to responsibility and blame. But to be persuasive and guide them step by step. It's not that it's wrong, it's that it's wrong, and it's to respect their ideas. It is not that you want to control them, but that you want to guide them.
get over yourself
In some ways, you are just getting older. A lot of things, don't think you understand, children have children's world, adults have adults' world. So, don't be self-righteous, think from the other side's point of view.
A little more understanding
Expect the son to succeed and the daughter to succeed. But they may not grow up according to your meaning, so we should give them more understanding. The road to growth will not be smooth sailing, so don't worry too much.