? There is a big misunderstanding in this educational way that "elder sister should make way for younger brother". Light will make my sister dislike my younger brother, while heavy will make them hate their parents and younger brother. As for the influence on my younger brother, under the abandoned wings, my younger brother will be spoiled and overbearing, and even when it is serious, he will be duplicitous and please his parents.

Why did Kong Rong let the story of pear spread to this day and become a classic moral education story in China for thousands of years? It is mainly because China's education method since ancient times has given way to the small, while Kong Rong, as his younger brother, has an amazing level of thought. ?

Therefore, for a family with two children, if the elder is the elder sister and the younger is the younger brother, parents will think that it is natural for the elder sister to let the younger brother go. Once the elder sister refuses to let the younger brother go, she will be labeled as disobedient and ignorant by her parents.

First of all, China is a country where son preference is particularly serious. There are two children at home, especially the eldest girl and the second boy. Often asking my sister to let go of my brother will have a bad influence on the mental health of my sister and brother.

Such examples were often seen when we were young. Often some eldest brothers are sister families, and younger brothers will take care of their younger brothers instead of their parents after birth. There is fun and delicious food at home. The younger brother plays first and eats first, and the younger sister can only watch. There are also some family difficulties, but also to let my brother go to school and let my sister drop out of school.

When my sister was young, she couldn't resist the strength of her parents. Even if there was no amount of unhappiness in her heart, she could only let it go, but the seeds of hatred had already taken root in her heart. When such children grow up, they will either be far away from home and never want to go back; Or it will be poisoned too deeply by this kind of thinking and become accustomed to it, resulting in the common "helping brother magic" in today's society.

What about the younger brother who grew up in this family? Because for a long time, under the protection of their parents and elders, they will bully their sister unscrupulously first, thinking that everything about her sister belongs to them. What's more, some children will become duplicitous and please their parents.

Now with the opening of the second child policy, the market pays more and more attention to children's psychological education from an early age. All kinds of families who have a second child also pay more attention to their eldest brother. In big cities, many families will consult their eldest brother if they want a second child. Even so, families with two children will feel that it is normal for the older one to give way to the younger one. Few families will consider that the boss is actually a child.

There are also many people around me who want a second child, although they all know that they have to take care of the boss after giving birth to the second child, and they can't let the boss feel that mom and dad don't love her. But when you really have a baby, you will know, and everyone understands the theory. But when two children are quarreling at home, you will unconsciously yell at the boss and scold him loudly for being disobedient and not modest. When one day your sister is sensible enough to help you take care of your brother, you will praise her intentionally or unintentionally. She is really obedient and good, and everyone knows how to let her brother go.

In this way, in my sister's view, let my younger brother make my parents happy. In order to please mom and dad, my sister will unconsciously give way to her younger brother. After a long time, my brother will feel that it is natural to be abandoned by my sister.