First of all, parents should not be "tyrant" educators. The so-called "tyrant" not only refers to physical punishment, but also includes spiritual ruling authority. Tyrant-style education can't give children a sense of respect, which will lead to a lack of self-confidence. It is also easy to kidnap children's thoughts, restrict children's freedom, let children learn to choose, have the freedom to choose, and have the freedom to do what they like.
Second, parents should grow up with their children and guide them to become independent people. He should know clearly what the future he wants, and adapt to and promote his own development. Let him know how to pay, learn to be independent and find the meaning of life. Guide him how to love the world, know what contribution he should make to this society, and adapt to and promote the development of society.
Third, parents should always support their children. I read Kafka's book the other day, in which he wrote: "I often think of the time when we undressed in the dressing room. I am thin, weak and thin, and you are strong, tall and wide. I am already ashamed in the dressing room, not just for you, but for the whole world, because you are the standard to measure everything in my eyes. " In the eyes of children, parents are their backing, and they want to rely on when the world is not friendly to them. When bullied, what the child expects is not a "brave counterattack", but an action to help him support.
Second, from the aspect of teachers' education to students.
An important part of our education is to observe children. So a good teacher first helps students find themselves, what kind of personality he is, what he can do and what he is not good at, which is more suitable for exam-oriented education or quality education.
Secondly, stand in the children's perspective on an equal footing and don't treat them differently because of some differences. I don't think you have to be admitted to Tsinghua Peking University to succeed. Is it right to attribute most people to failures?
The lively CCTV documentary "After Zero" said: "Chinese people are no longer competing to make money as officials, and they are developed countries." Similarly, I want to say that when education is no longer barbaric and utilitarian, it is developed education.