According to traditional preaching and social prejudice, people should be tired of sex life when they enter middle age, and they should lose their sexual desire when they enter old age. If the elderly still want sex, it will not be serious. "People spend an afternoon over 40, don't go to bed at 50, and don't look for women at 60." The sexual concepts and interests of the elderly are greatly suppressed.
In human beings, sex is a normal physiological function that accompanies death. When people get old, they still have sexual function, sexual requirements and sexual ability. Although the elderly women have lost their reproductive ability, they still maintain a certain sexual ability, and they can get excited, happy and beautiful feelings, which is beneficial to their physical and mental health.
With the growth of age, the structure and function of the body are inevitably declining, and sexual function is no exception. After entering old age, sexual dysfunction and decreased sexual desire are common physiological phenomena. But ... there are great individual differences in sexual concepts, interests and abilities of the elderly, which are not directly proportional to their age. This is because sexual function is not only affected by sex hormones in the body, but also by psychosocial factors and health status. Generally speaking, male sexual dysfunction is later than female sexual dysfunction; People who have been in good health and have no serious diseases in their later years are much slower than those who are weak and sick.
Understanding the physiological changes of men and women in old age may eliminate the ideological burden of sexual anxiety, anxiety and fear, change negative attitude into positive attitude, and take corresponding measures to improve the quality of life.
Old couples should achieve sexual harmony according to their own characteristics, not according to the model of youth. The main thing to pay attention to is to prolong the time of foreplay, and it is not required to ejaculate every time. Choose a posture that suits your body and focus your feelings on your mind and emotions. Maintaining a moderate and harmonious sexual life can delay the decline of reproductive organs and benefit health and longevity. Some people think that although they are old, they are still full of energy and their sexual ability remains unchanged. It will lead to excessive physical exertion to show that they are not old enough to have strong sexual desire and frequent sexual demands.
Sexual activity of elderly couples cannot be equated with sexual intercourse. More emotional attachment is needed. In old age, life depends less on intense orgasm and more on mutual caress in sexual life. If you expect to reach orgasm every time, it will inhibit the sexual pleasure of both parties. The needs of the elderly for the opposite sex, in addition to sexual life, also need emotional communication, which is the backbone of the life and spirit of the elderly. Old couples have experienced many years of sexual experience. They naturally changed the way of making love and had a deeper and more realistic understanding of love. Love is not just sex, it contains more contents than the original meaning, such as mutual commitment, protection, consideration, care, understanding and loyalty. The mutual attachment of elderly couples is more about the interest and sustenance in life. Their language agreement, the closeness of body and skin, and the comfort from love are the main sexual behaviors of the elderly-"companionship" and "small couples come to accompany", and their real significance lies in this.
Maintaining proper sex life for the elderly is a sign of good health. Beneficial and harmless. For the elderly, sexual life should not be unrestrained and should not be interrupted for a long time. Too much sex will lead to premature decline of sexual function, because frequent, delayed and interrupted sexual intercourse will cause excessive tension of nerve-muscle tissue and congestion of sexual organs, which will lead to inflammation and damage of the sensory conduction part of reproductive system and lead to premature loss of sexual desire. On the contrary, premature cessation of sexual life will shrink the sexual organs, which is not conducive to health. Keeping a moderate, regular and temperate sex life can make you energetic and cheerful, help keep your brain young and prevent it from aging; It can promote blood circulation and metabolism of various tissue systems.
Satisfaction of sexual life of the elderly. It can enhance confidence in life and help to overcome depression and mortality of various diseases in the elderly. There is also a relatively decreasing trend.
The mental health of the elderly is the core problem that affects their life span. Elderly couples should treat their sexual life with a scientific attitude and a sound mentality to prevent mental decline. You can maintain a moderate and harmonious sexual life, but you should "emphasize feelings and despise lust."
The elderly have long-term sexual experience, and their spouses are widowed or have sexual dysfunction, which leads to dissatisfaction and disharmony in sexual life. Older people get no social support when they remarry, and sometimes they are despised by society and opposed by their children, which makes them psychologically paranoid about sex.
A happy marriage is indeed one of the important reasons for people's health and longevity. Long-lived elderly people have good living habits, and most couples live in harmony. Cheerful. Care and consideration in life, spiritual comfort and support are undoubtedly good medicines for health and longevity. The average life expectancy of divorced men and women and people with happy families is much shorter. Although some people have new lovers after divorce, compared with men of the same age who are happily married, the incidence of heart disease, lung cancer and gastric cancer is twice as high, the incidence of cirrhosis is seven times higher and the incidence of hypertension is about three times higher. According to statistics, it is not uncommon for people to die when they are widowed. People's mood and mood depend on whether the relationship between husband and wife is sincere and harmonious. Loving couples and happy families have undoubtedly laid the foundation for the health and longevity of both husband and wife. A loving family will be full of warmth and joy. A good mental state helps to mobilize positive factors inside the body, resist the occurrence and development of diseases and prolong people's life. On the contrary, the husband and wife turn against each other, and the widowed or unmarried elderly men and women are unhappy all day long, which will interfere with the normal secretion of hormones in the human body, the dysfunction of internal organs, and the increase of blood pressure, thus causing heart disease.
Sexual desire can be divided into contact desire and satiety desire. The desire for contact means that both men and women have the desire for physical contact. For the elderly couple, apart from spiritual family communication, another important aspect is physical contact, mutual caress and mutual stimulation of sexual organs. The desire to relieve satiety is also called excretion desire, which means that under the action of sex hormones, there is a feeling of fullness in the body and a desire to excrete these things. For example, male penis erection and ejaculation, female genital congestion during sexual impulse, vestibular glands and vaginal secretions increase. The desire to excrete is affected by age, and the number of elderly people will be significantly reduced. The elderly can enjoy this kind of family happiness through the above-mentioned sexual activities that do not necessarily lead to sexual intercourse, such as hugging and being hugged, expressing feelings and accepting others' feelings. This is of great benefit to physical health, emotional harmony and the elimination of loneliness.
It is also unscientific to emphasize the beneficial side of sexual life to health and longevity while ignoring the physical characteristics of the elderly.
Old age has the following characteristics: aging is not a pathological state, but a normal natural phenomenon, but there are often some pathological changes in the process of aging. The adaptability of the body to the environment gradually declines, and the risk of death increases. The human body's ability to respond to the environment is gradually declining. The aging process comes from internal factors, and external factors can also change the body and accelerate the aging process.
Therefore, the elderly should pay attention to the following issues in their sexual life:
1? Old people lose body fat and are more likely to be afraid of the cold. The body's ability to regulate cold and heat is weakened. Pay attention to the adjustment of smothering temperature in sexual life, avoid cold in winter and sweat and collapse in summer.
2? The cortex of the elderly becomes thinner, elasticity disappears, body fat decreases and wrinkles increase. In addition, the skin feeling has also changed and become dull. Therefore, the elderly should not take excessive baths and pay attention to protecting their skin. Some elderly people are particularly sensitive to touch and don't want to receive too much caress as in the past.
3? Due to muscle atrophy, muscle contractility and flexibility decrease. Therefore, we should also pay attention to the action not to be too fierce and too big, so as not to cause backache, muscle soreness and muscle injury, and pay attention to choosing a more labor-saving position.
4? The decrease of cerebral blood flow during aging can reduce the whole body function. Therefore, excessive neck bending or stretching should be avoided during sexual intercourse.
5? Pay attention to the characteristics of sexual life of the elderly, be patient, and don't rush for success. The man must wait until his wife is fully excited before he can have sex. The wife should not be upset by her husband's slow erection, but should patiently help him get excited.
6? Excessive intense exercise makes the elderly shortness of breath and deepen, causing dyspnea. Therefore, the choice of sexual intercourse position is very important, and the lateral position makes it unnecessary for both sides to bear each other's weight, which is conducive to maintaining stable breathing, so the lateral position or sitting position is more appropriate.
7? The elderly should avoid excessive tension and strenuous exercise, and do not increase the extra burden on the cardiovascular system. The energy required for sexual life has a great relationship with their intensity, and extramarital sex is more dangerous. If you find yourself short of breath, flustered or have a sharp loss of appetite during or after sexual intercourse, you should seek medical advice in time besides suspending your sexual life.
8? Don't overeat before sexual intercourse, and don't have sexual intercourse immediately after eating, which will affect the digestive function of gastrointestinal tract.
9? Emptying urine before sexual intercourse and exercising pubic coccyx muscle at ordinary times are helpful to solve some problems that may occur during sexual intercourse.
10? The number of sexual intercourse among the elderly is reduced, and the refractory period of male after ejaculation is obviously postponed, but the sexual intercourse time can be prolonged.
1 1? Healthy men have high blood pressure during orgasm. Systolic blood pressure can be increased by 40 ~ 100 mm Hg. Diastolic pressure increased by 20 ~ 50 mm Hg, respiration increased by more than 40 beats/min, and heart rate increased by 50 ~ 100 beats/min. These changes happen quickly, and the severity of their reactions may induce a heart attack. Cardiovascular patients should pay attention to the following issues:
At present, doctors believe that it is not necessary to avoid sexual life too carefully after suffering from heart disease, and sexual intercourse can be carried out within the limits allowed by heart function. Patients with a history of angina pectoris should be determined by doctors according to their condition.
For acute myocardial infarction without heart failure or arrhythmia, sexual life can only be resumed after 6 months of rehabilitation and doctors' diagnosis, and sexual life should be suspended in case of the following situations.
(1) palpitation after sexual intercourse, even heart failure, at this time obviously abstinence.
(2) When chest pain occurs during sexual intercourse, stop taking the medicine immediately and take nitroglycerin in time.
(3) insomnia after sexual intercourse or extreme fatigue the next day.
(4) accompanied by fever or other infectious diseases.
If you are nervous, angry, in a bad mood, and your body temperature is too high or too low, you should temporarily avoid sexual contact within 2 to 3 hours after drinking, strenuous exercise, and work fatigue for a few days. You should also pay attention to the fact that sexual intercourse should not be too long, too hard and too frequent. I should take the most comfortable sexual posture. Patients with hypertension should also control their sexual life, especially when blood pressure control is unstable, in case of accidents.