1, don't make a fuss, infinitely amplify the deviation behavior. When some parents see their children drinking or smoking, they will panic, feel like enemies, preach and reason, and even link up with their children's morality, saying that their children can't learn well, what will happen when they grow up, and let them bear moral shackles. In fact, all kinds of deviant behaviors of adolescent children are normal. These deviant behaviors are all to solve their own needs. Adolescent children have conflicts and contradictions in their hearts, confronting their parents, being discordant with their classmates and not dealing with their teachers. Such children can't get the recognition and attention of others in normal behavior, so they will attract others' attention through deviant behavior and make others feel special through deviant behavior.

2. Objection and neglect will aggravate children's deviant behavior. Some children drink secretly, and parents can't find out even if they know. However, it is inappropriate for parents to pretend not to see their children drinking because they are afraid of conflict. The reason why children are found by parents is to attract their attention and test their attitude. At this time, my treatment should not be to pretend not to see it, but to respond. However, if you respond in a negative way, it is useless to criticize and accuse the truth, then you will let the children confirm one thing, the parents' change is false, and your unconditional acceptance of me is also false, which will further worsen the relationship. As my son said: Objection and neglect are unacceptable and will aggravate children's deviant behavior.

3. Face the problem directly and turn it into an opportunity for communication. As the teacher I consulted said, the child's problem is beyond our control. Let's bless him. Let's just be free and easy. Adolescent children drinking alcohol is not so harmful to their health. If we can temporarily accept his behavior, in fact, children also know that such behavior is inappropriate, but if we oppose him, it will intensify, and the deterioration of emotions will hurt children far more than alcohol.