If the scale is not well grasped, it will not only hurt the child's self-esteem and self-confidence, but also stimulate the child's rebellious mood.

Criticism education pays attention to methods, and praise education also needs to grasp the "degree".

Some parents may say, how can praise children go wrong? Isn't it beneficial?

But in fact, if parents praise blindly, they are likely to praise their children as "blx"!

So, how should we correctly criticize and praise children?

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The correct way to criticize children

Children should be criticized for making mistakes, but how can parents criticize to make their children listen?

Parents should write down the following six correct ways to criticize their children:

Listen to the children first.

Listening to children's explanations before criticism can not only avoid misunderstandings, but also make criticism education more targeted.

Be practical.

Compared with turning over old accounts or making a mountain out of a molehill, it is more helpful for children to grasp the key points and correct their mistakes with a more positive attitude.

Maintain consistency.

Only when parents are consistent in words and deeds and parents and the elderly stand in the same position can children better understand and remember the truth.

Protect children's self-esteem

Criticism is to make children correct their mistakes, not to humiliate them. It is recommended to avoid public places, eat and sleep.

Don't beat and scold children.

Neither verbal nor physical violence can make children learn well. When criticizing, parents should match words with deeds, not words with deeds.

Give comfort afterwards.

Pay attention to children's emotional changes, comfort them appropriately, and let children know that parents still love them even if they make mistakes.

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The correct way to praise children

Children's growth needs praise, but how can parents praise to bring positive effects to their children?

The following four correct ways to praise children, parents may wish to try next time:

Praise hard work rather than cleverness.

Emphasizing clever praise will only make children complacent and then fall into blind self-affirmation.

Paying attention to the praise of hard work will give children the motivation to make persistent efforts and make them more confident in doing things.

Praise the process, not the result.

Parents pay too much attention to the results in praise, and children are prone to the idea of being afraid of making mistakes and avoiding the importance.

By paying attention to the process and affirming the attempts made by children, they will be more motivated to meet new challenges.

Praise details rather than generalities.

General sentences such as "well done" and "very good" are neither painful nor itchy, and it is difficult to improve children.

Only by paying attention to details in praise and letting children know where "good" is can they remember and keep it.

Praise in time, don't delay

What happened last semester will be praised next semester, which will not inspire children and make them feel neglected.

Praise children in time when they need their parents' affirmation most, so as to strike while the iron is hot and help them move on.

Criticism is not exaggerated, hitting the pain point directly; Praise is not perfunctory, but accurate and appropriate.

Parents educate in the right way, and children will certainly turn criticism and praise into motivation for progress!