Lesson 1: guidance and demonstration
We often say that what children do is not what we say, but what we do, and they do it with us.
Teacher Zheng said that when you become a parent, you should learn to be an actor, one is a born actor and the other is an acting actor. I try my best to be the first. I am myself and influence my children. Aren't actors more tired? Teacher Zheng said that if you don't like reading, pretend to read.
Well, whatever I ask my children to do in the future, I will try to do it myself first.
Lesson 2: Teacher Zheng: If you are sincere and equal to your child, your child will not be addicted to Internet.
What is addiction? It is caused by the lack of affirmation and recognition of psychological nutrition as mentioned in the psychological nutrition class. Children can't get the affirmation and recognition of their parents, but they can get it on the internet and in that virtual world, so they are addicted. Nowadays, many people are addicted to playing mobile phones. In real life, there are too many disappointments, and I don't know how to adjust them, so I entrust other time to my mobile phone and spend it between those squares.
Will there be satisfaction? Just staring at the screen, leaving the screen is endless, because Moro continues to stare, how many people are ready to go to bed, and the mobile phone is in his hand, never leaving.
I like children. I love them according to the rules. I'm not obsessed with machines or anything. Be myself. Everything is asleep at this time, and I am alone. The wind blows outside the window, and I wash my face. Everything is with me. I don't need anything to enrich myself. I am who I am. Everything is with me. I love myself.
How can you love your children if you don't have something? Very happy, I began to be myself, so I began to supplement my children's psychological nutrition.
Lesson 3: Filial piety
Yeah, just the same. You should treat your parents as you want your children to treat you in the future. Well, I'm not very good at this. I'm far married, so I can't be around to be filial to my parents. The holiday is about to begin. Go back to my mother's house, take my mother to buy new clothes for the New Year, make her something delicious, and help her clean up the house for the New Year.
Lesson 4: As parents, the safety of children comes first.
Teacher Zheng bought a safety book and read it with Yang. He learned a lot, learned a lot and benefited a lot. Watch it several times, because peaceful growth is more important than success.
Lesson 5: Learn from children and grow up with them.
Yes, love grows together. I found that my children gave me a lot. I don't know what to do if I don't have children. Because of my children, I read many picture books, taught myself English, participated in various studies, raised children and educated myself. Because of my children, I start over.
Lesson 6: What will happen to children whose parents are cheerful outside and behave well at home?
That's who I am, mom. It's time to drag it out and cut it
What is it that the boss often scolds you in the company? After many efforts, will you quit? Yes, but what about our children? I can't jump, but my heart is beating. Once a child's heart changes jobs, it will form a situation where he is now and his heart is in Han. This "Han" is homeless, people are at home, his heart is wandering outside, he is homeless and lonely, and he feels friendless when he is around.
Yes, I feel the same way. I often feel this way when I am a daughter at home. Very hateful, I also gave this feeling to my daughter. It's not much, but it still exists. As long as it is once, it will seriously hurt the child's heart. Yang said, mom, you hurt my young heart. I'm sorry, son. Mom was wrong. Mom changed it.
Teacher Zheng: Children who grow up with beautiful voices are happy physically and mentally, without resentment, relaxed and happy, tolerant and glorious, and full of love for the world.
Teacher Zheng: If I see something wrong with my child, I will look for the root cause from myself, and I will definitely find it.
Yes, as a matter of fact, Yang is like this now. I am the root of everything, the source of everything.
Change, must change.
Lesson 7: What should parents never do for their children?
1, you can't belittle children.
At this point, Yang's father did a terrible job. In his eyes, no one can do it. He always, always wants us to change this and that. Looking back suddenly, I felt inferior for so many years, and let him push me to the bottom step by step. If I didn't want to live, didn't take part in the study, if I didn't have the third year of high school, I would still be in the pit of inferiority.
2. Compare other people's children. Well, I'm doing well, and so is Yang. But Yang's father often compares himself with Yang when he was a child. At that time, your father got 100. When your father was your age, he had to get firewood. At that time, Yang sometimes got angry and said that you were you, not me. At that time, you didn't have so much homework and your schoolbag was not half as heavy as mine. Where can I get firewood now?
Yang is right, you are you and I am me. Any life is an independent individual, and there is no comparability. You are a tree, and I am also a tree. You are raised by the earth, so am I. You give me life and your parents give you life. This is the process of life. You can't tell me how great and noble you are. You have nothing to be noble about. If you go to the roadside and pick up a child to raise, consider it your own.
Parents portraying themselves as family victims will make their children feel guilty. And a person who feels guilty will often spend his life in self-abandonment.
I accept my children unconditionally, and I take care of them at home. This is my wish. Actually, it's my selfish behavior. I want to have a baby, and I want to raise it. This upbringing has brought me great happiness. Just looking at the children's little faces makes me feel happy. How come? I can't say my mother is like you.
I brought up two children, especially piglets, and spent a lot of effort, but these are nothing. It is the greatest happiness to hear a child call his mother.
4. Tell your child that you are so stupid. How did I give birth to something like you? Don't you have eyes? Have you no guts?
These words, um, just wait for the child to become like this. This labeling behavior is the end result. Why do you have to think about whether this sentence will increase the strength of the child or decrease the strength before speaking to the child? Say these words to children, not to reduce their strength, and finally have no strength?
5, do not give children freedom.
Only when children are free can they develop themselves and expand themselves.
6. Show the ugliness of children in public. This is the killer weapon to completely destroy children. Insult him outside, belittle him and make him feel ashamed. From a psychological point of view, this will make people feel scared and ashamed. It is difficult for a person who is afraid of society and ashamed of himself to gain a foothold in society.
The essence of human nature is the desire to be appreciated, especially for children. Appreciation can make children grow into towering trees, while belittling can make children wither and deformed.
Lesson 8: Teach children the magic weapon to win in life.
Let children learn to communicate with others in the form of telling stories. We won't do that. It doesn't matter. We read a lot to our children, and then they will learn slowly. Because it is a truly universal language, children can travel all over the world.
Yes, Yang often talks about me. Mom, you don't speak well. Yes, I don't speak well, so I don't want to listen to you and play with you.
Lesson 9: the secret of letting children finish their homework efficiently before coming home from school
Or parents lead by example. I will try my best to correct this. For example, I got up early today to write something. I can't seem to concentrate too much at night. I'm a little tired after a busy day. If I can't write well, it will be inefficient. I often put it off until twelve o'clock. So is Yang. After school, I grind around and end up late.
I learned to work efficiently and influence her. Because it will be practical to finish the most important work in the most efficient time, I decided not to stay up late to write in the morning.
And practicality is not bought with money. Only when you finish the important things can you get practicality. Only in this way can we play steadily. She said that herself, but I can't do it well. I want to show it to her. Dad, Yang is hopeless. He is always driven away by work and time. He is always busy and idle, because when we looked up, we saw him watching videos and brushing WeChat. As soon as we turned around, we invited him to dinner 100 times, and 99 times we all said we were not available. I can't say you can't be like your father. I want to do a good job, tell my children the correct way to work and study, and take my destiny into my own hands.
Lesson 10: Children who take "don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you" as the bottom line are invincible.
At this point, we don't do well, how can we ask children? Do it yourself first and do it well. At the same time, I will give Yang emotional training and psychological nutrition, and will get better gradually.
Lesson 11: What is more important to keep children than to give them?
Keep children's curiosity and imagination. This is possible. All the toys she bought are building blocks. Let her create her own world. There is no mobile phone to play with, no TV to watch, stay away from those sounds, lights and colors, return to the true nature of children, quietly immerse yourself in your own world and do what you want. It is a hundred times better than any interest class.
Lesson 12: Having the last trump card in life competition has nothing to do with the exam results.
Love our children unconditionally, let them grow up in a loving environment, and let them have self-confidence and self-esteem. With these, children can better develop themselves, be themselves, explore their own life path, and all roads lead to Rome.
Lesson 13: Cultivate children into conscious principals.
This requires two conditions, the first is the habit of reading, and the second is the interest in this matter.
Well, Yang teaches herself the electronic piano now, and she likes it. I asked her to sign up for class, and she said she didn't want to teach herself, so she bought a book to teach herself electronic piano. She plays for a while after school every day, and she has begun to look good. She knows which finger controls which key in front of the book. Anyway, I'm not going to become famous and have a family, just have fun.
Like me, no one taught me how to learn computer. I learned it in front of a book. Because I love reading and I am interested in it, everything is not difficult. Reading is the foundation. If you don't have enough reading ability and understanding of that sentence, you can't learn it.
Lesson 14: What is the key to a child's success or failure in life?
It's not that we tell our children what you can't do and what you need to change, but that we tell them what you can do and do best. Every day, children can't do this and that, and finally children can't do anything.
Lesson 15: People should have taboos: the law lets children know what they can and cannot do. Yang has read Mr. Zheng's 4 19 crime many times and told me how many years he will be sentenced for abandonment and theft-well, it's quite good. That's enough. In a book we are reading, there is a saying, do what you think is right, regardless of other people's eyes and ideas. How about Yang's father killing and setting fire? You should have the ability to distinguish right from wrong. Yang and I despised him together. We have been studying, learning all kinds of things that make us progress.
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Lesson 16: As parents, we should try our best to make our children write good articles. Writing a good article is to make children fall in love with reading.
Well, I will continue to do it.
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Lesson 17: Children's distraction will produce all kinds of inspiration.
Give the child a space to be alone. If the child is playing with something, don't disturb it easily, so that the child has room for independent thinking.
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Lesson 18: ruler is good, inch is short.
Every child has his own growth trajectory. We just need to find the children's strengths and let them develop themselves.
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Lesson 19: Cultivate children's sense of humor and people who are good at and dare to laugh at themselves, which shows that children have strong self-confidence.
Well, Mr. Zheng also asked to start from himself. Well, Yang's father always told me not to tell my children that I didn't graduate from junior high school. I used to be very obedient. In fact, this is the real situation of me and her mother. After speaking out, she is more confident, because there is no end to learning. Although my mother hasn't read any books, they are not only in school, but also in life, anytime and anywhere. She said that whether at school or at home, she should study like her mother. She said that she would write fairy tales like Miss Zheng in the future. She said she could play in her toy area for half a day and make up many stories. If she wants to write later, she can write it down.
Ok, mom believes you! Come on!
Now Yang has painted a series of swans with dozens of pages. I feel happy looking at them.
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Lesson 20: If you really want your child to do it, you can only rely on pushing or pulling, not pressure.
Yes, reading to children is a push, chatting with children and understanding their psychological activities is a pull. We just want our children to do this and that, but if we don't do this or that, we will put pressure on our children and ask them to do things that we can't do ourselves.
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Lesson 2 1 lesson: let children prevent sexual abuse
Yes, the people who can hurt children the most are the uncles and teachers in the neighborhood. They are the people closest to children. I want to read the book on preventing sexual assault several times. Freedom, physical freedom, should be grasped by children themselves, how to grasp and teach her.
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Lesson 22: Parents should talk to their children in the language spoken by adults. When talking to children, you should squat down and keep your eyes level with them. Yes, we can't talk to children condescendingly.
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Lesson 23: the main factors that affect children's height the most
1, let the children go to bed early and get up early.
2. Keep children away from candy.
Don't let children drink drinks, drink more white water.
4, don't scold your child, it will make your child uneasy and have a long-term impact.
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Lesson 24: Don't let children learn knowledge in advance, which will affect their curiosity in primary school.
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Lesson 25: It is very important to defecate once a day. Waste should be discharged at any time, which is very good for your health.
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Lesson 26: Never drink the liquid given by others, it may be drugged. All the children that Mr. Zheng saw in juvie were drugged by his best friend in the liquid.
Well, we really don't notice it at ordinary times. Well, we should pay attention.
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Lesson 27: Tell others as soon as you receive something, and tell others as soon as things have a result or change, which makes people confident and thinks you are reliable.
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Lesson 28: The correct way to educate children is to find out their strengths and tell them where to go.
Well, this is a copy of the one above.
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Lesson twenty-nine: Throw a stick at it to hate. Well, do you still want to hit the child?
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Lesson 30: What did you spoil? Just being nice to children is spoiling them. While being good to children, it is also good for children and other family members, such as grandparents. Being kind to people outside your family, such as neighbors, is not doting, but loving.
Spoiled children are disorganized and short-sighted. A beloved son, tolerant, elegant and glorious.
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Lesson 31: Never treat children before the age of three lightly. You should be careful what you say and do when talking to children.
I didn't do well before and said a lot of things that hurt children. It's late, but it's better than nothing. Come on!
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Lesson 32: Do you need to give a gift to the teacher?
No need. What did you prepare for the teacher shower?
1, the teacher's heart looks down on you and knows that your kindness to children is a valuable exchange behavior.
2. The teacher is not sincere to your child after receiving the gift. Of course, the child will feel that the child grew up in an insincere environment.
3. When children know that their parents give gifts to their teachers, they form wrong values.
Giving gifts to teachers may send them to prison.
Want your child to be a schoolmaster? Teacher Zheng: Trust the child, trust him!
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Lesson 33: The secret of surpassing is to fall behind first.
Life is a marathon, and preserving strength is the most important thing. Why has the country been emphasizing that kindergartens should not be primary? What is the truth? Let children recharge their batteries, recharge their batteries first, and they can be curious when they get to school, so they don't have to worry too much about their primary school grades. As long as you set aside time to read a lot, you can provide a steady stream of nutrients for junior and senior high schools. At this point, Yang did a good job, that is, he reached the upper-middle level and spent a lot of time studying. Many teachers in the college said, you Yang, you don't have to worry. She is different in high school. She reads so much.
All right, keep walking.
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Lesson 34: What Mr. Zheng writes most is not fairy tales, but plans. Everything should be predicted, and it will be wasted if you don't predict. He is the best example of Ivy's way of doing things. He has written thousands of words of fairy tales for forty years, by what, planning and self-discipline.
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Lesson 35: The main reason for the failure of family education is that parents ask their children, but the children can't do it themselves.
At this point, I want to call names. Yang's father is like this, and he is also arguing irrationally. So what? I am her father. but I cannot do it. I want to be self-disciplined, confident, and be myself, strong enough to influence my children. Come on! Because one person cannot change another.
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Lesson 36: Don't let children become the core of the family. Let the children really feel that everyone in the family is busy, and they are busy and have a successful career. We can't sacrifice anyone to fulfill them. Love grows together. When the children grow up, let alone what the mother has done for you. No, love grows together, and we can move forward together. When I was in Yang, I didn't do well or did it wrong, giving her a lot of time, which led to today's situation. In fact, children themselves can be fine. Nowadays, piggy can play by himself, eat by himself, dress by himself, read by himself, play the piano by himself, go to track and field by himself and sleep by himself. I did all this with Yang before. I lost myself and restricted my children's growth.
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Lesson 37: As a child in China, learn China culture, and don't lose China culture by learning a foreign language. Especially the ancient prose, which is the root of China.
Well, yes, so we continue to study. Tao Te Ching is to be memorized, but it is wrong to take Yang to recite the three-character classic when she was two or three years old. Children can't learn mechanics, and some parents like to let their children recite poems in public as a show-off capital. A child's mother is like this. Every time she comes to our house, she will ask her children to recite poems for us. Yang likes Tao Te Ching now. I said, what is Lao Tzu? No matter what he asks others to do, he must do it first, which is the highest state of the teacher, but Confucius can't do it himself, so he has to ask others to do it. Yang said, Lao tze is better. We learn from Laozi.
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Lesson 38: As a parent, please shut your mouth, lift your legs and show your children the life you have lived.
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Lesson 39: In childhood, we must give our children more play, which is to accumulate wealth. Children can grow well and learn well if they play more. This is not wealth, what is it?
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Lesson 40: Let children be masters of time control. Most successful people are time control masters.
Well, starting from today, I will use my time more efficiently and set the best example for my children, because wasting time means not cherishing the most concrete performance of life!
In two and a half hours, I wrote about 6000 words of reading notes, and my work efficiency was also very high. Come on, it will get better and better! Through studying and thinking, I will grow up in my daily growth.
I've been writing for a long time, and many things need to be changed. First, change the problem of staying up late. If you master the morning, you master the day. Well done today, give yourself a compliment! Continue tomorrow!