If you only think about how children can be smart, how to get high marks and get into an ideal school, you don't pay attention to the cultivation of children's minds. If parents only pay attention to inculcating their children with culture, but neglect their acceptance of themselves, others and the cultivation of friendly and correct outlook on life and values, then children will not feel happy and happy, but will gradually become indifferent, selfish, anxious and willful. ...
"/kloc-before the age of 0/8, it is an excellent opportunity to cultivate children's emotional intelligence."
First, teach children to survive and stand on their own feet.
There is a story about a group of children who had a picnic in the mountains who got lost and spent a terrible night in humidity and hunger. They cried in despair. "People will never find us." A child cried in despair and said, "We will die here."
However, Avery, who is 1 1, stood up and said, "I don't want to die!" She said firmly, "My father said that as long as you walk along the stream, the stream will take us to a bigger stream, and eventually you will meet a small town. I want to walk along the stream, and you can follow me. " As a result, under the leadership of Avery, they successfully walked out of the forest.
Maybe people think that a girl like Eveley is born with talent, but in fact, talent is not born, thanks to her father's acquired education. At present, western countries, including Japan in East Asia, attach great importance to children's survival education. Since children are sensible, they are taught how to survive and stand on their own feet, learn to eat by themselves, arrange things by themselves, and know how to protect themselves under what circumstances.
Second, cultivate empathy.
An empathetic person can keenly perceive the happiness and sadness of others. She has good interpersonal relationships, and good relationships make her happy. If she can think of others, she must be a moral person, not a delicate egoist with empty knowledge; At the same time, people with empathy are human beings, which is the foundation of being a man.
Because many parents always complain: I paid so much for getting up early and being insatiable, but I didn't expect to raise a small white-eyed wolf and didn't understand me at all!
Why is this happening? In fact, it is usually not focused on cultivating children's empathy, which leads children to be unaccustomed to thinking from the perspective of parents. A good way to cultivate children's empathy is to express your feelings with your children more often, and then ask: What would you do if it were you?
Third, cultivate a sense of responsibility.
Children with high emotional intelligence have a clear understanding of the rules they should abide by and the obligations they should perform. When you make a mistake, you can face it bravely and take responsibility instead of crying and cheating.
Educated children are often responsible children. They promise their parents to do as much as possible, instead of breaking their promises and showing off at will because they are young.
Children are curious and want to touch everything, but they are very casual and always do things anticlimactic. Therefore, parents should check, supervise and evaluate the results of things given to their children, even if they are very small, and cultivate their children's good habit of perseverance and serious responsibility.
For example, when a child wants to raise some flowers and animals, parents can make the child promise to water or feed the small animals regularly, and then agree to the child's request. Of course, in the process of taking care of children, it is inevitable to fish for three days and dry the net for two days. At this time, parents should supervise, tell their children the consequences of neglect, and let them take responsibility.
Fourth, the ability to manage emotions.
A child with high emotional intelligence will not show off his 100 score in front of the deskmate who failed the exam, because it hurts people and has no other benefits except making the deskmate hate you more; Similarly, an educated child will not vent his grievances at school on his parents, because we can't let innocent people pay for our bad emotions.
Managing emotions includes two aspects. First, you can fully express your emotions and not suppress them. The second aspect is to be good at restraining one's emotions and grasp the discretion of expressing emotions.
Here, children express anger as an example to illustrate. When some parents criticize and punish their children, they are not allowed to explain, cry or even express some dissatisfaction. Over time, such children will become resigned, depressed, or passive to Nuo Nuo's face, but will vent their anger in extreme ways, which is not conducive to the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence.
The correct way is to allow the child to explain and let him tell his own truth when criticizing the child. When a child is punished, he should also be allowed to cry, and he should also be allowed to be dissatisfied and angry. Let the child fully express his emotions and don't suppress him. We don't want to make the child angry, but we just want to teach him how to express his anger appropriately.
If we can educate and guide children with great tolerance, they can gradually learn to control their emotions. When you meet happy things, you won't be happy to the extreme. When you meet sad things, you won't be desperate and helpless. When you encounter angry things, you will not be impulsive. You can resolve negative emotions by waiting, transferring and adjusting.
/kloc-before the age of 0/8, that is, before the child reaches adulthood, parents must cultivate his high emotional intelligence. By this time, children's psychological development has been basically stereotyped, and it will be more difficult to cultivate in the future. For a person who is about to enter social life independently, EQ is more important than IQ. It can make children have a sound personality and adapt to society, and there will be no psychological and spiritual problems in the future. It can also make your children sociable and attractive; It can also make children strong, brave and face all pressures and difficulties calmly. ...