I went to see a friend that day. In the process of chatting with her, her 5-year-old son jumped around the house, ran around and shouted. The friend pulled him to the front and said sharply, what's the matter? Do you understand the rules? Don't blame me if you make trouble again. Get out! ?

Her son made a face and ran to the other room to hide, but soon, he continued to jump in another room, louder than before. My friend is angry. Get up? Hey? Fight the child slowly, shouting while fighting: Let you make trouble, let you make trouble?

I hurried over to stop the fight and said it was normal to make trouble with the children. Talk to him. The friend said angrily:? No, you don't. Every time I talk to him properly, I don't listen. It always makes me angry. Do you think I can relax? What a fool! This kid! ?

Discipline the children, really? Don't listen to what you say? Really? I don't think so. If this kind of scene always appears in your family, it proves that your education method is wrong.

Second, what impact will strict education have on children?

Education like friends is strict, which is common among many parents, but it can't make children obedient.

I don't know if you have noticed that when you yell at your children, you will only get short-term results. After a while, children will continue to destroy or make trouble in other ways or in another place.

When children are young, you educate them in a strict way, and they will be because? Afraid? Or? Worried that you abandoned him? It changed immediately, but then it happened again.

There are two reasons: 1, children's self-control is not strong; 2, parents in addition to say? Can't you? Outside, not letting the kids know? Why not? . Over time, children will be suitable for you? Huh? Have immunity.

When children grow up, they begin to have their own ideas and opinions, and they also begin to compete with their parents. At this time, where will they learn from? Afraid? Convert to? Resentment? Especially for children in adolescence, this aversion will be particularly obvious, and even begin to contradict, which will bring more severe tests to future education.

Third, how can parents avoid too strict education?

Every parent wants to give their children the best education. They are too laissez-faire, afraid of spoiling their children, too strict and worried that their children will be suppressed. So what kind of educational methods are most worth learning? Here are a few points for reference.

1. Take every mistake a child makes as an opportunity to learn.

Every time a child makes a mistake, it should become an opportunity to learn, not a punishment. Only by turning every mistake into learning can children make continuous progress.

For example, if a child plays football in the room and accidentally breaks a vase, the child must be afraid of being scolded.

2. Kind and firm

Parents can neither be too strict with their children nor too laissez-faire, so the best way is to do so? Kind and firm? In other words, it is necessary not only to set boundaries for children, but also not to attack children verbally or physically, so that children can feel the unconditional love of their parents and know where the boundaries of freedom are.

For example, when you go out, you still refuse to take the safety seat. Parents should not yell at him or force him to submit with a tough attitude, nor should they let him go, but do it? Kind and firm? .