First, learn to resist pressure. No one doesn't want to be praised as "you are great, you are doing great!" " Bian Xiao still remembers that when I was in kindergarten, the teacher always rewarded Xiao Honghua to praise everyone, and never said any child seriously, because I was afraid of hurting our self-esteem. This kind of education will undoubtedly weaken children's ability to resist stress. For Japanese teachers and parents, they have always adhered to the "3+2 principle" when educating their children. What do you mean? This is like a child doing five things right. You can only praise him for three things, but criticize the other two things and point out their shortcomings. The purpose is to cultivate children's moral character of not being conceited and complacent, so that children can accept other people's suggestions with an open mind and know that they still have room for improvement. This kind of education is also beneficial to cultivate their strong psychology in the face of criticism and attack to a certain extent.

Second, learn to be independent. Why are China's parents so tired? Because they have been running for their children all their lives, from birth to school, to work and get married, to have children, and so on. Can they not be tired? Some people even make money to buy a house for their sons in their seventies and eighties. On the contrary, in Japan, various factors will force children to be independent from childhood. When a child is one year old, Japanese parents will not feed him any more, but teach him how to eat and buy something suitable for his age, such as chopsticks, spoons, bowls and toothbrushes. , on the exclusive shelf of baby equipment in the supermarket. Even if you go out to eat, you won't always hold your children, but put them in a special seat and let them eat whatever they want, even if you are everywhere on your body and hands. It is in this educational environment that Japanese children are urged to grow up and gradually become independent.

Third, learn to be patient. What Japanese parents often say to their children is "I am slow", which translates as "you should learn to be patient". For example, if you encounter a headache training class, a delicious dish, a toy you want ... you should learn to wait and wait. Whether you like it or hate it, you must first be patient and rationally restrain your feelings. So we seldom see children lying on the ground crying because their parents don't buy her anything in Japan.

Fourth, learn to be self-reliant. In Japan, both boys and girls have strong hands-on ability since childhood, ranging from research to making furniture and repairing cars. Whatever you can do well will not disturb others. Including buying a house and getting married, I will not ask my parents to prepare a set for myself. Even if I have no money, I'd rather rent my own house than bother my parents. In this educational environment, children are naturally obedient.