This situation is caused by family education, school education and social environment, but in comparison, it is mainly a family problem. Family is a child's first school, and parents are a child's first teacher. "Nature is good at the beginning of life" is actually a blank sheet of paper for children at the beginning. If it is dyed black, it will be black, and if it is dyed yellow, it will be yellow. Parents can draw an optimistic and strong picture on this white paper, or they can draw a fragile picture.
Under normal circumstances, optimistic and strong children generally come from optimistic families, while psychologically fragile children generally come from families with disharmonious atmosphere.
It is undoubtedly sad that the life of a flower has withered like this. However, learning from a painful experience, no matter what the specific reasons are, failed to withstand some pressures and setbacks in study and life, which is the main reason for its going to a dead end. However, frustration education is a key lesson that is easily overlooked in current school education and family education, and many problems and tragedies that happen to young students are mostly related to it.
Adversity quotient is as important as IQ and EQ in a person's growth process. Many people who have made brilliant achievements in their careers may not be the smartest people sometimes, but most of them have experienced setbacks in life. It is setbacks that teach them to be strong and give them courage and wisdom to overcome difficulties.
As parents and teachers, we must never deprive our children of the right to receive frustration education in the name of love. When children encounter setbacks, we should guide them correctly, encourage them to strengthen their confidence, cultivate their spirit of hard work, their firm belief in being a man and doing things, and their tenacious will to overcome difficulties. These excellent qualities are the necessary qualities for children to engage in any career in the future.
Children's mental health is cultivated from an early age and is greatly influenced by parents and family environment. After parents destroy their children's mental health, let the teacher pay the bill. Although children seem to be in contact with teachers for a long time every day at school, they are at home for six or seven years before school or with their parents before kindergarten. Moreover, everyone's education in the embryonic stage is very important. Can children have healthy psychology when they are scolded by their parents at home? Parents have a sense of responsibility. They can no longer suppress the child's strong heart. Don't put the blame on the teacher.
It has nothing to do with education! First of all, some children's suicides are influenced by their own personality. Even children born in the same family have different personalities. Some children are naturally sensitive, suspicious and withdrawn, while others are naturally cheerful, lively and philosophical!
Secondly, children's suicide is closely related to social factors. In the past, most children had brothers and sisters. They have lived in a friendly group since childhood, and it is easy to form a relatively sound personality in a subtle way. Today's children, many of whom are only children, lack the companionship of friendship from childhood, and are prone to form selfish, withdrawn and self-centered unhealthy personalities. Externally, it is characterized by weak pressure resistance, low degree of integration into society, unbearable injustice and easy to go to extremes.
There are also some rural children whose parents go out to work all the year round, and most of them are elderly grandparents as temporary guardians. Children have no one to rely on and talk to. The long-term lack of family ties has led to children's psychological state of extreme anxiety and insecurity. It's hard to say which tiny thing will be the last straw to crush the camel!
There is also the current high divorce rate, which leads to many children living in single-parent families, and some children even become the objects abandoned by both parents. Children witness the disintegration of the family, lose hope for the family, affection and their own future, give up on themselves in their studies, and break pots and falls in their lives, especially in the sensitive period of adolescence. They are willing to degenerate and give up on themselves, and will go to extremes if they are not careful!
Children's psychology is formed imperceptibly and cannot be changed overnight. Once an imperfect personality is formed, it can't be reversed in a few words. Pale education can play a very small role in it!
Nowadays, students are not bitter or tired and don't know how to work. The whole middle school and below are spoiled. School life is hard, and fish are delivered at close range. Generally, on Fridays, parents will go shopping to improve their draught. Besides homework, they also play mobile games.
Besides grades, what are the virtues, intelligence, physique and beauty of schools? Students rank higher than grades, while heroes rank lower than grades. The school walls are everywhere.
The teacher's focus is on further studies, except; In order to make up lessons or make up lessons, there is nothing else, some exercise, some nothing. At most, I work to clean the doorman, and I have plans for winter and summer vacations.
Going to school is the most important thing, and all schools serve it. The enrollment rate is performance and word of mouth. If the students taught by such schools and families are not vulnerable, who can be vulnerable?
There is no distinction between primary and secondary, and the overall atmosphere determines the premise. The previous teaching methods have completely changed, just like the "sissy" phenomenon in literature and art, especially in the entertainment circle, where Korea and Japan are models. The phenomenon of clearing the north of universities is not isolated, but is based on the following primary and secondary schools.
It's time for an urgent change!
In the classroom, not only students are fragile, but also the whole human society is very fragile. Students and migrant workers are vulnerable groups, so are G employees, rich people and successful people.
As far as the reasons are concerned, there are families, schools, society and government. People's psychological feelings are mainly influenced by the sad social environment. Families, schools and teachers also played a role.
Because of the previous one-child policy, every family was surrounded by two generations or two generations of children. I have high expectations and strict requirements for them. I will teach my children how to protect themselves from time to time out of some doting.
From an early age, I have to participate in various training courses and cram schools, and I have to participate in the ranking. It is euphemistically called: Don't lose at the starting line of life.
With the progress of society, the material conditions are much better now, and some students have followed, not only math and physics, but also parents. They will never grow up, and some of them have to be picked up by their parents when they go to high school.
Some jiaozi who can go to college are spoiled by their grandparents, parents and friends at home. Everything goes well, there are no setbacks, and they can't stand grievances and criticisms. In addition, the current teachers dare not really control their own education because of their awareness of rights protection. They are always afraid of what will happen to them. Usually always educate them, it is better to be timid.
But once you go to college, friends from all over the country get together, which is equivalent to a small society. At this time, we should consider dealing with people. However, we college students are not ready.
There is a great contrast between what I read in books and what I see in reality. In addition, people nowadays are self-enclosed, exquisite and self-interested, and life is like a play. You can't tell whether they are good people, bad people, good people, bad people, superior people or villains.
Now, there is less youthful romanticism and more reality and heaviness in the university campus. Families from all walks of life unconsciously divide students into three categories.
Not only students feel vulnerable, but people living in the world are also vulnerable. In order to survive, people must rack their brains and try their best to rush forward and rush forward. After all, there are only a few. Who is not vulnerable behind?
In the past two years, all the steps and rhythms of our life and work have been beaten because of the epidemic.
Really: who is young and who is not weak,
There is something in the play of a heart of stone and a mouth of iron.
Harmony, goodness and goodness are the foundation.
When will similar competitions stop?
Let me first put forward my point of view: family education is the mainstay, supplemented by school education.
Being born in a family has a great influence on children, which cannot be completely changed by school education. He brought some things from the womb, and after the child was born, he was raised by his family. Children's personality is formed from childhood, and everything formed in this period is accompanied by children's life, so I think family education has far greater influence on children's personality development than school education.
Nowadays, school education advocates cultivating children into "people with all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor", and "morality" ranks first, but the present situation is that "intelligence" is the goal pursued by school education, and others can be tied for the bottom or ignored. While pursuing achievements, school education has left the cultivation of "morality" behind, and many parents have fallen into this strange circle. Children with good grades are good children, and children with poor grades must be useless. Parents and teachers often show boredom or neglect to children with poor grades.
The fragility of students is not formed overnight, but is caused by family education, school education and, more importantly, family education.
Family is the warmest harbor for children. Parents are the first teachers of the children. Many qualities, habits and behaviors of children are formed in early childhood, so family education is particularly important!
Personally, I think family education is the main thing, supplemented by school education.
Parents' words and deeds play a vital role in children's growth. Children should encourage his self-confidence, let him have the consciousness and ability to know and cherish himself, and know that he has an extremely important position in the family. No matter what difficulties and setbacks he encounters, confident people will generally not be defeated, but children must communicate and correct their mistakes in time, and they must correct them. They must have a sense of right and wrong and cannot touch the legal and moral bottom line. The family will be very stable in this respect, and the latter will follow.
Therefore, every desperate child has a bad family or an elder who destroys his self-esteem.
Of course, there are also a small number of children's fragile nature, which belongs to extremely fragile personality.
Nowadays, children have poor stress resistance, and many students are tired of studying, depressed and even suicidal. The reasons are very complicated, and the situation of each case is different, but in general, this is the result of the interweaving and infiltration of personality, family factors, school factors and social factors.
For example, we list some common phenomena:
1.30 years of one-child policy has resulted in a large number of one-child families, left-behind children families and single-parent families.
The only son became the "little emperor" in the family, and everyone loved him. In the process of growing up, especially in adolescence, he is often full of loneliness in the face of pressure. This makes children lack normal communication with their peers and opportunities to learn to cope with setbacks in peer interaction.
Left-behind children, single-parent families, often face the lack of family education, and even suffer some injuries. For example, some children become punching bags for their parents' unsatisfactory marriage, and even encounter domestic violence after their parents drink too much.
Social development has brought unprecedented pressure to ordinary families.
3. Social development also makes education involuted, and the excessive competition of scores brings great pressure to schools, parents and children.
Schools will constantly put pressure on parents, teachers and students for the sake of teaching achievements and enrollment rate. Together, students' time will be squeezed infinitely, and courses such as art and physical education will become furnishings. Students are driven to study all the time, and the pressure has no time and no way to vent.
4. The development of society has brought about the progress of science and technology, the popularization of network and electronic products, and endless entertainment programs and online games, which have produced great attraction to teenagers.
Children's free time is already small, and it is also occupied by electronic products such as mobile phone network, which further weakens the communication between children and their families and peer groups.
I watch too many entertainment programs and indulge in games, so I can't settle down to read. I can't read good books How can my thoughts learn lessons and mature?
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Come to think of it, there are many such situations.
Therefore, the vulnerability of students is the result of the comprehensive action of individuals, families, schools, society and other factors; In a child, some factors will be more prominent.
Therefore, the problem of education is not only a problem of education, but also a problem of family and society. To solve these problems, we can't just rely on parents or teachers, but the whole society should work together to make a comprehensive layout and play a good game of chess.
Many people should say that it's a school problem and parents have problems, but I think the biggest problem is family. The specific reasons are as follows.
First of all, family background plays a decisive role in the development of children's personality. The family atmosphere of family background, the way husband and wife get along with each other, and the way parents get along with their children all help children understand interpersonal relationships from the beginning and have a certain pattern.
The second parents' education and guidance have a great influence on children's acquisition, especially in preschool, many children imitate their parents' actions. Because children are born with a blank sheet of paper, parents' actions have left a deep imprint on their hearts through daily subtle influence.
It is said that parents are children's first teachers. Many parents, after many years, realize what detours they have taken in their children's education, which they regret most.