Adolescents are eager to grow up and be independent. Most people think they are adults and have the ability to solve their own problems. Their parents can neither interfere with them nor stand idly by, for they have insufficient social experience and limited ability to solve problems.
The best way is to face the problem with your child, maintain respect for him, and let him feel that he has a certain dominance in handling things. You can discuss the solution, or give your child a chance to try and make mistakes on the premise of ensuring safety.
Secondly, communicate in time, listen more and talk less, understand the inner needs of children and guide them correctly.
It is difficult for a few parents to take the time to pay attention to their children's psychological needs. They don't know what the child is thinking, so forget it and often change the child's wishes into their own.
These parents often say, "I'm doing this for your own good." They use their parents' will and authority to suppress their children, discipline them with orders and reprimands, and beat, scold, scold and satirize them at every turn, which will only make them more and more disobedient.
Children can't understand your good intentions from the words you accuse, but they will feel that they are not valued and respected. Over time, children no longer communicate with their parents, because past experience tells them that communication is useless, not only useless, but also attracts beatings.
Then, set an example and cultivate a common hobby with your children.
Parents are the best teachers for their children, but many parents only instill truth when educating their children, but they chase dramas all day and play mobile phones all night. If you are such a parent, even if you dry up your saliva, your children won't listen to a word, because you didn't do it yourself. say
Words and deeds, many parents only do words and deeds, but example is the most important. Many parents give full play to their words and deeds, but they don't want to spend a little time on their role models. Children's character, conduct and so on are mostly influenced by their parents. Even as adults, we have more or less the shadow of our parents in dealing with people.
Finally, respect each other, communicate more, listen more and discuss more.
Of course, every parent wants to live in harmony with their children, but if they have had bad experiences before, will parents "give up on themselves" from now on? Remember, it's never too late to mend.
The best time to improve the parent-child relationship is now, between relatives, and it is never too late. The biggest fear is that you know there is a problem, but you still have no regrets. When there is a rift in the relationship, it is the key to keep an open attitude, listen more and not criticize.
Parents can't listen with the purpose of changing their children's minds, but should "understand each other". You understand your children and let them understand you. Only in this way can you really see the child's deep desire.
Get to know them better and see their real desires and needs, instead of letting them do what we think. Children who don't do it will be scolded for disobedience, bad children and so on. All children with problems have no problems for no reason. There must be a reason. The first is to find the reason on parents.