Second, develop good study habits. Study habits mainly include: like reading, be diligent in writing, be good at expressing, be brave in questioning and make good use of media. Parents should cultivate their children's interest in learning. Once children are interested in learning, the improvement of academic performance is more than half successful. Cultivating children to respect knowledge and books from an early age is an important foundation for their growth. Some children cultivate reading interest and gain extensive knowledge by practicing interesting jint speed reading memory training tools.
Third, develop good exercise habits. Good health is very important. As long as children are healthy, they can successfully complete their studies and ensure their brains are flexible. Children should be allowed to take part in more sports. For example, walking with parents and playing table tennis with parents can help children improve their immunity, improve their brain and other functions, make them smarter and help them get better education.
This stage is a sensitive period for children's curiosity and active exploration.
Science education has two inspirations:
1, good at accepting and being patient with children's curiosity, and good at guiding and stimulating children's interest.
2. Seize the sensitive period of children, protect their discovery and interest, and follow suit.
This stage is also an important period for establishing rules, and it is very important for fathers to participate in educating their children!
Education is very important for a 6-year-old child. It's just a little rebellious period, when he may not listen to your opinion.
For a child of this age, you should treat him as a friend, not a strict parent. Thinking and playing with him from his perspective certainly set an example for him.
Parents are children's first teachers and lifelong teachers, and your manners and way of thinking are unconsciously influencing children.
Don't give instructions to children when educating them. This one won't work, and neither will that one. You must tell him why he can't do this. The child is very clever. If you help him analyze the pros and cons, he will understand, otherwise he will think you are torturing him.
As the old saying goes, you are old at the age of three, and you are old at the age of seven. Six years old should be the period when habits are basically formed. From food, clothing, housing and transportation to treating people, children's habits should be regulated in accordance with the Disciples' Rules or the Three-Character Classics. However, this is also the nature of children. In the formative period, some good habits should accompany children to release their nature, burn their enthusiasm and dare to think and do. Confined to the rules, he is naturally vertical and horizontal, and he knows both propriety, justice and shame, and he can be unconstrained. Be unconstrained and unconstrained, and act impartially. This is the golden mean.
Psychologists have found that childhood experience is the insurmountable beginning and foundation of a person's psychological development, and plays a decisive role in the formation and development of a person's personality, temperament, emotion, attitude, values and way of thinking. Freud said that every early stage of a person's thought development process still keeps pace with the later stage from it and exists at the same time. If a child doesn't realize what he should have in his childhood, then his later life will be incomplete because of his childhood!
Therefore, children should have the following psychological experiences in childhood:
1. Experience happiness in the game.
Games are children's second life. Children often like two things, one is eating and the other is playing. Children can get many new experiences from games, which also helps them to experience the learning process. Chen Heqin, a famous educator, told his parents in How to Be Parents that children should have time to play games and should not be deprived of the right to play games.
However, in reality, it is quite common for parents to deprive their children of the right to play games. According to the survey, only 22. 1% of parents think that children should be allowed to play at an appropriate age and should not be over-restrained. In the cities of China, children aged 4 ~ 12 lead a busy "work" life: 5 1.6% of children aged 4 ~ 10 take extra-curricular classes or extra-long classes, and nearly 30% of them take two or more extra-curricular classes:10 ~/.
Without games, children's childhood is sad and their physical and mental development will not be healthy. For children, games are not just fun, but a part of their lives.
2. Experience love and learn to love others.
Love is the unique and greatest emotion of human beings, and it is the key factor needed to cultivate a sound personality. Love is a tender and cordial feeling from the heart, and it is a deep understanding and acceptance. Parents' love is the first emotional experience after a child is born. For children, these are all happy and warm. Father's strong arm and mother's gentle touch are the best gifts for every child's childhood.
Of course, mom and dad can also seize the opportunity to let the baby experience the happiness brought by the act of love to themselves and others, and let the baby form a kind, cooperative, sympathetic and tolerant character, caring and helping others. A caring child will help an old man when he sees him crossing the street. He will feel very happy whether he hears others' thanks or not.
Of course, not every child has a full experience of love. Many parents don't give their children proper love, which leads to their inability to love. For example, parents' doting, indifference and utilitarianism will make children have problems in expressing and accepting love. Some children hate their parents and have no filial piety. In fact, many problems are caused by the failure of parents' love education.
3. Successful experience and self-recognition.
In humanistic psychology, Maslow put forward that people have seven needs, one of which is the need of self-realization, that is, the need to realize all personal needs or ideals. Of course, children's demand for this is no exception. A 3-year-old baby put up a pile of building blocks. Tall buildings, he will be very happy, he will invite his parents to appreciate his masterpieces, and then he will experience the self-realization brought by success.
Psychologist Suhomlinski said, "The joy of success is a huge emotional force, which can promote children's desire to learn from time to time. Please be careful not to let this inner power disappear under any circumstances. Without this power, any ingenious measures in education will be of no help. " So, if you want your child to love learning, don't beat him all the time. On the contrary, we should hint and encourage him with positive thoughts.
4. Experience of responsibility and independence
An employment survey of college students shows that 20% of college students become "neets" after graduation. Although I can find a job, I don't do it myself and rely on my parents at home. Psychologists believe that most young people of "NEET" did not get the experience of responsibility and independence in their childhood, and they relied on their parents since childhood.
Many parents have this experience. The child tripped over the stool. Obviously, he was careless, but his parents would say, "Who told you to trip over my son when you hit the stool!" " "Why don't you tell your children to pay attention? Since you are not careful, you must bear the consequences of "falling down".
It is normal for children to be unable to take responsibility and rely on their parents when they are young. However, parents should not deny their children's responsibility and independent experience just because they are young and dependent on their parents. This kind of education can only make children "useful waste".
Parents are the best teachers. The most important thing is not to teach children how to do it. But learn how to be a qualified parent by yourself. Study more and read more. Knowing can let children know, and knowing can educate children. The simplest thing is to learn classics with children. Three-character Classics, Hundred Family Names, Thousand-character Works and Disciples Rules are widely regarded as the most representative excellent enlightenment books. These classic textbooks of China ancient enlightenment education. These four books are read and recited with children. It is very helpful for children's growth.
Look at what Fan Deng said, you are the best toy for children.