Psychologist Dr Laura markham said, only "practice".

For young children, it is normal that ta has almost no self-control ability, because the part of the brain that controls young children-the prefrontal cortex-is not fully developed. As the child grows older, the prefrontal cortex will gradually mature.

It is very important for our parents to instill discipline and life etiquette into their children responsibly, strengthen the prefrontal cortex and step up practice when children are still easy to be instilled and educated.

How to start to let children learn self-control?

1, Rockefeller family rules-rewards are often more effective than punishments.

Unfortunately, many parents instinctively don't want to use rewards. Maybe they regard the reward as "doting" or "bribery".

As one of the most successful means of education, "reward" has been greatly ignored because of a conceptual misunderstanding.

2. "I really want that toy, but my mother doesn't like it." -Don't be a strong parent.

You should always explain your behavior, why you scold him, or why you praise him, pass on your view of right and wrong to your children, and ensure that your behavior conforms to your view of right and wrong.

After a period of training, your children will also use your view of right and wrong to restrain their behavior.

3. "You are still young, let me help you!" Unnecessary help hinders the development of children's wisdom and character.

Parents who lack the knowledge of children's psychological development do not understand their children's needs, and often because they love their children or are afraid that their children will be hurt, they delay the time process of their children's perception of the world, development of intelligence and self-development, and miss the precious and sensitive period of development.

4. The temptation of a marshmallow-learn to exercise restraint while waiting.

If parents passively meet their children's every request, then parents will become their children's slaves, and even if they are busy, they will not let their children get half the satisfaction.

Try to let children know that temptation is everywhere and desire rises at any time. However, the world is not centered on him, so we should learn to wait and control our emotions and behaviors.