How to praise children now? In fact, beating and scolding children only has a short-term deterrent effect on children. Children may obey their parents' wishes in a short time because of fear, but they cannot accept and understand the truth of just words from the bottom of their hearts. After being afraid, they will still do things according to their own habits and wishes, so beating and cursing is not an effective way to educate children. The definition of Rosenthal effect and its magical effect, Rosenthal effect was put forward by famous American psychologists Rosenthal and Jacobson in primary school teaching. Also known as pygmalion effect or BiMeng effect, BiMeng effect and expectation effect. It tells us that under the influence of others' evaluation and emotions, people will have psychological hints to themselves and achieve certain results according to this psychological hint. In other words, the higher expectations others have for themselves, the easier it is to be influenced, so as to achieve certain expected results.

Rosenthal and L. Jacobson conducted many experiments in a primary school in 1968 to verify their views. One of them is that they randomly select three students from a class of 18, and then list the names of 18 students and give them to the principal, telling him that this 18 student is a genius with great development potential. About half a year later, Rosenthal visited the school again, and found that 18 people on the list had made outstanding progress, not only being among the best, but also becoming more cheerful and lively, showing strong self-confidence and being very popular with classmates and teachers. Later, through continuous follow-up observation, Rosenthal found that these 18 children had achieved very good results in their respective jobs after entering social work. This is the magical function of Rosenthal effect, which fully illustrates the stimulating effect of expectation, especially on children. Therefore, parents may want to use the Rosenthal effect to educate their children and help them achieve a better self.

What can the Rosenthal effect bring to children? Enhance children's self-confidence. When parents express high expectations for their children, children often feel the trust of their parents more deeply, which will become the source of their motivation and self-confidence. With enough self-confidence, children can overcome their fear of difficulties and challenge themselves more actively. Make them more motivated to do things, just like the children in Rosenthal's experiment. If parents can give their children high expectations from the beginning, then children will put themselves in a higher position, set higher standards for themselves, turn expectations into motivation, make continuous progress, and redouble their efforts to achieve their goals and expectations.

Can make children more responsible. Parents' benign hints can not only be the driving force for children's progress, but also give them a sense of mission and responsibility. Therefore, under the high expectations of others, children will unconsciously form psychological hints to themselves. In order to live up to expectations, they will turn pressure into motivation and constantly strive to realize the expectations of others. Yan Yuan, an educator in Qing Dynasty, once said, "It is better to have a prize than to have a prize." This is about the importance of praise to children. Therefore, parents should abandon the harmful educational method of beating and scolding and educate their children with positive encouragement and praise. Proper use of Rosenthal effect can make praise stronger, a hundred times stronger than beating and cursing!

Learn to use white lies; Praise children's hard work and serious attitude; Tolerate children and discover their advantages; Praise your child with a sincere attitude and wait patiently for your child to change step by step. In fact, every child has unlimited potential. The key is whether parents can stimulate their children's potential to the maximum in the right way. The Rosenthal effect can effectively help parents educate their children in a more positive way and show the magical power that expectations bring to their children. Therefore, it is suggested that parents may wish to look for the bright spots of their children and praise them from now on, and there may be unexpected gains.

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