1, let children experience more setbacks. Children who have not experienced setbacks are easy to develop selfish personality and take extreme actions when they are disappointed. For example, someone jumped off a building because of the failure of thesis defense, and someone committed suicide because of the failure of love. They only consider themselves, and will not consider the feelings of their parents or others behind them.

Therefore, in daily life, parents should give their children proper frustration training, instead of obeying everything, so that children can learn to bear the blow.

2. Learn to share, have a family concept, and exercise children's sharing awareness from an early age, such as eating oranges, first for grandparents, then for aunts, fathers and mothers, and finally for themselves, so that children can have a family concept and do things not only for themselves, but for the whole family.

3, explain the harm of selfishness, novice parents should combine life examples to explain the harm of selfishness to their children. For example, clarify the relationship between selfishness and individualism, and give some examples of people who have made mistakes and even embarked on the road of crime because of the vicious expansion of individualism since childhood. Let children have a clear understanding of the consequences of selfishness. If the child does something wrong, he should point it out in time. If parents don't point out their children's mistakes in time, children will form wrong habits, and it will be difficult to correct them then.

4. Guide children to participate in family affairs. Many parents say to their children, "You just have to mind your own business, and you don't have to worry about things at home!" This is not right. In fact, children are willing to participate in family affairs, such as helping their mothers clean and do housework. When traveling abroad, we should refer to their opinions and improve their enthusiasm for participating in family affairs, instead of doing everything.

5, special exercises, parents can arrange some scenes in daily life, let the children have their own practices, and if there are mistakes, they can correct them in time. These contacts directly teach children how to care about others. If their parents are sick, children will know what to do. Through training, parents help their children overcome the bad characteristics of selfishness and cultivate their ability to think of others and deal with problems independently.