More often, when parents educate, they don't care about the way at all, whether children can understand it or not, just like chatting and complaining between adults;
Especially when children are "crying poor", it is easy to say "how is our time", and we should remember that bitter experience when we open our mouths and keep our mouths shut, which makes children very resistant.
Parents love to cry poor, and their children are timid, thinking that no matter what the family conditions are, all the money they should spend and all the things they should use should be spent on their children. This is almost every parent's idea.
As early as 30 years ago, there was a saying that "no matter how hard you work, you can't be poor in education", but some parents always like to instill in their children the idea that "our family's conditions are not good enough to compare with others". You know how hard it is for parents to make money, so you should save it. "
After a long time, children really feel poor at home. For example, if they want to study, they will consider that there is no money and no conditions at home, and they will not study.
I want to sign up for an interest class. I always want to have no money at home. Maybe my parents will object, so forget it. I want to go to summer camp or other party activities with my classmates, or I feel that I have no money at home, so I dare not think about it. ...
Such an environment will make children form a withdrawn, indifferent, inferior and unsociable character, gradually moving away from the crowd, unwilling to participate in public activities, unwilling to socialize, introverted and leaving a psychological shadow.
Parents love to cry poor, children feel inferior and their hearts are getting poorer and poorer. Times are changing, so are their ideas. Otherwise, why call some people "old fogies" and "old pedants" and others "stubborn conservatives"?
In the past, when people didn't have enough to eat and didn't wear warm clothes, they could say "save money" to their children. It is not easy to count families, so that children can understand their parents' difficulties.
After all, at that time, it was "the children of poor families took charge early." But modern times are different. The so-called daughter must be rich and must not be poor.
The so-called rich support does not necessarily mean spending a lot of money to create a luxurious childhood and a high-end living environment for children. After all, not every parent has such good economic conditions.
The core of rich support is to meet the reasonable and legitimate needs of children, and to be on an equal footing with peers, at least at a medium level.
The biggest advantage of enriching children is that they can broaden their horizons, increase their knowledge, develop good conduct and high-quality cultivation, and have their own opinions on aesthetics and taste, thus forming a correct outlook on life, values, morality and world outlook, instead of forming the idea of "getting rich" because they are afraid of poverty, laying hidden dangers for future detours in life.
Many misguided and stumbling women mostly come from the unsafe and harsh living environment since childhood, and the so-called "poverty" is more about the crying of parents.
Parents love to cry poor, and children can only struggle. When I grow up, I dare not find a good partner, for fear that I am not worthy of going to Guangzhou and Shenzhen. They often see some young girls running around in KFC, McDonald's, wedding photo studios, shopping malls and night shows. Many of them have several jobs, only sleep for a few hours every day, and are overworked at other times, afraid to talk about their ideals, think about the future and fall in love. They have only one belief in their lives: despair.
The reason why they are so insecure and desperate to make money is because their parents have been crying since childhood, making them feel that the world is unreliable except money. Even if I see someone else falling in love and getting married, I dare not think about it. They always feel afraid to look for it, for fear that they are not worthy of others.
Let children understand that life is not easy. This is what will happen in the future. We should guide and educate them as they get older, instead of just saying the same thing no matter how old the children are. In the final analysis, it actually means the same thing, just repeating it.
No matter how hard adults try, they should not show it in front of children. After all, children should not bear the social and life problems that are not in line with their age.
Parents need to realize that "I am responsible for making money to support the family and you are responsible for reading good books", so that children can grow up in a happy and relaxed environment, cultivate their hobbies and optimistic personality, and let them have a correct world outlook.