Hunan Satellite TV recently launched a variety show "Where is Dad?". It's just a thermal screen. On TV, the star dad turned into a super daddy, took his children to a strange village alone and started 72 hours of rural life. This program fully interprets a modern version of How We Become Fathers. At a time when parents have no time to take care of their children, the "People on the Road" by the father with cute baby has aroused many people's emotional resonance.
Everyone is a child from the beginning. Adults found the shadow of childhood through this program and regained their father's love; Through this project, parents re-examine their responsibilities and rediscover their children who do not fully understand. In this process of rediscovering each other, there are surprises, laughter, escape and courage, and parents and children feel very close.
Although parents and children found each other in this short 72-hour adventure and gained a short spiritual closeness, this discovery just proves that the gap between modern parents and children in time and space and mind may have been too far. It is not difficult for a parent-child TV program to make people feel moved instantly. The difficulty is that parents can always accompany their children in the process of growing up, get to know each other and feel each other. Under the pressure of real life and the traditional dilemma of father's lack of education, young parents have no time or are unwilling to accompany and understand their children.
From the "children are difficult to raise" at the beginning of this year to the recent "Where is Dad going?" "Hot Mom", "Daddy" and "Meng Zi" have become the new favorites of TV screens. Parenting topics have appeared in large numbers, and parent-child topics have been hotly discussed, reflecting the post-80s confusion about parenting education and their demands for a balance between career and family.
In real life, the post-80s parents not only have to face the helplessness of being too busy to accompany their children under the pressure of work and life, but also continue the confusion of family absence in traditional culture. According to the viewing data released by Hunan Satellite TV, the female audience in the first issue of Where is Dad going accounts for nearly two-thirds of the core audience. The proportion of this group aged 25 to 34 is as high as 36%. I can imagine such a scene: one night, a young mother is alone with her young children, watching "Daddy with Children" on TV at home, while her husband may still be working overtime, going out for entertainment, or just staying in the bedroom to play games and computers-their children are still continuing the story without their father. In fact, this phenomenon also happened to my mother. In many modern families, the responsibility of raising children is mainly shifted to the older generation, and mothers' participation in children's education is also low.
"Where's Dad?" It is such a puzzle: where did parents go in modern family education? Where will parents guide their children? If a child wants to grow up healthily and safely into a modern citizen with independent personality and free spirit, he must first follow in the footsteps of his parents, who are his first teachers. This is the consensus of modern education, and perhaps the real reason why many parent-child programs can get popular ratings and win resonance-where parents go, children go; Where children go, society goes.
This news reflects the common problems in social education. Why can't so many children grow up healthily? Why can't our society cultivate outstanding talents? Why don't so many parents understand the true meaning of education? What is the root cause? How to solve this big problem related to the country's prosperity? The most important thing is that there is something wrong with family education. Parents don't understand education, and put the responsibility of educating their children on the elderly and schools.
"Father loves mountains and mother loves water." Parents are the founders of children and the first teachers who accompany their children for the longest time. Parents' words and deeds directly affect their children's growth. If the child is born and raised by others, he can't get the warmth of his father's sunshine, and he can't get the nourishment and bearing like Mother Earth. Such a child can't go to heaven, can't go to the ground, has no foundation for being a man, can only grow up, but can't become an adult.
Even if parents educate their children, they can't educate excellent children without good educational methods, because efforts in the wrong direction are in vain, children's education is irreversible, and education is valid. Therefore, it is extremely important for parents to know how to educate their children correctly, and it is also very important to educate their children with what, that is, the books of wisdom left by the sages for thousands of years, such as the Book of Changes, the Tao Te Ching and the Xiaojing.
So how can parents guide their children to learn these treasures? Try not to educate children from generation to generation. Generation after generation, in China culture, is the relationship between grams. Grandparents give birth to this generation, and this generation gives birth to the next. Many grandparents don't understand education and only love children. If love, plus the word "pet", is harmful. Treat children as dragons at home and spoil them too much. Such children can't stand on their own feet at all.
Father did it, for gold; Mother is Kun, earth; The child was shocked, Xun and Mu. So, what is a log? What is the most useful thing for children? Water is wisdom and wisdom can give birth to children.
In family education, father's participation is far more important than mother's. Father is dry, for gold, and gold gives birth to water. Everyone should understand the profoundness of China culture. We have completely cracked the five-element relationship of this family, and let you know clearly. Boys and girls are divination and haiku in gossip, and belong to wood in five elements.
Knowing the five elements, you can understand what is the best raw material for educating children. Aquatic wood, obviously, The Tao Te Ching is an excellent material for educating children. The Book of Filial Piety belongs to gold, golden water, a gram of wood and a lifetime of wood, but they are all very important. No filial piety is not enough to cultivate children, and no wisdom is not enough to cultivate children. What is the reason?
Dad cares about education, which is the happiness of children. Father is gold, gold gives birth to water, and water is wisdom; Aquatic wood, the son is wood, intelligent adopted son. When children have certain ideas and are unwilling to study, the role of the father is "Jin Kemu". Father's participation in education is of great significance. In today's society, the important role of father is missing in most family education, which is the sorrow of contemporary social development. What is the significance of father's participation in education and the difference between father and mother? Mother belongs to the soil, starting from the relationship between the five elements, so mother is often subject to children, forming doting and conniving; However, the relationship between mother and father is natural gold, so if husband and wife can jointly undertake their children's education, it will be a great blessing to the family, the children and the society.
Of course, the father's concern is not necessarily manifested in being with his children every day, but in giving attention and guidance at an appropriate time, and the mother's implementation is enough. Generally speaking, fathers are more rational and intelligent, while mothers are more blind and disorganized in education, so fathers should assume the responsibility of educating their children.