Here's the thing:
1 1 year-old boy Xiaohua, a boy from Zhejiang province, told his parents that he felt particularly painful when he urinated, and he still felt that he could not urinate.
The X-ray examination in the hospital showed that some beads had accumulated in the urethra.
Under the doctor's repeated questioning, Xiaohua faltered and said that more than 70 magnetic beads were stuffed in the urethra.
This is not the first time that such a thing has happened:
A 7-year-old boy in Zhejiang province stuffed 15cm 1 ballpoint pen into his anus.
Sometimes, due to the lack of sports knowledge and a correct understanding of gender and body structure, children not only do harm to themselves, but even let the bad guys extend their evil hands to our children:
Single mother revealed that her 6-year-old daughter was violated by her neighbor 13-year-old boy. Family members of boys: She studied human body structure in the first grade, and she is willing to pay 5000 yuan.
Relevant survey data is also shocking.
Investigation report on the current situation of child sexual abuse in China: At least thousands of people have been violated in three years.
Tragedy of hurting oneself and being hurt often happens, the fundamental reason is that children lack the most basic self-protection consciousness because of the blank of physiological education.
Sports can't happen overnight. It needs to penetrate into daily life overnight.
Whether we are parents or teachers, we all play a very important role in it.
And our physiological education for children is not only the sexual physiological education, but also the education of gender equality, interpersonal relationship, intimacy and self-protection.
We advocate popularizing physiological education knowledge for children, not only to let them know.
By understanding gender differences, children can learn to protect themselves, and the ultimate goal is not to do dangerous things and be hurt by bad people.
However, in life, most of our parents still ignore their children's physical education repeatedly because they are ashamed to talk about it, or simply don't pay attention to it.
My cousin's 4-year-old son Lele just started kindergarten this year.
I thought I could liberate my cousin, but recently I'm more worried.
Lele, who is full of curiosity, comes back to ask her mother with 100 thousand questions every day.
Other questions are easy, but Lele always asks some physiological questions, and my cousin is not too embarrassed to answer them.
At the beginning, my cousin casually perfunctory past or simply left the problem to her husband.
What I thought at that time was that as a father, I should be more suitable than a mother to explain this problem to my children.
As a result, the answer the child gets from his father is always: you will know when you grow up.
Children who don't get the answer don't give up, but have the persistent exploration spirit of not giving up until they reach their goals:
Why didn't I come out of my father's stomach?
Jia Jia is a girl and I am a boy. Why can't we go to the bathroom together
And chasing mom's ass and asking questions every day.
I advised my cousin to say:
Children are curious and eager to explore. It is better to tell them well than perfunctory. He should know all these physiological knowledge. Even if you don't tell him now, he will know from other sources in the future.
And cousin's head shook like a rattle, solemnly said:
The child is so young, how can you tell him this? He will know when he grows up. Besides, the school teacher will talk about it later.
There seems to be no problem with this answer. After all, isn't that what most of our parents do?
In fact, due to the influence of traditional ideas, China's awareness of sex education is relatively weak. Many parents avoid talking about sex education, or are vague and embarrassed. In life, their thoughts and practices are exactly the same as their cousins.
This is also one of the sources that children constantly make dangerous actions that hurt themselves and children are constantly violated.
However, sex education should not be a difficult thing to say. Teaching children correct physiological knowledge can actually protect them from doing dangerous things and prevent others from hurting them.
In recent years, the news of children being molested or sexually assaulted has been frequently reported in newspapers, and we have gradually begun to reflect on the harm caused by the lack of sex education for children.
Some scholars have specially done this test: to test whether children will undress in front of strange uncles on the grounds of new clothes, and only one girl in six children will not accept it.
It can be seen that the popularization of children's sex education is imminent.
The research report of AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) shows that among children under 18, about 12%-25% girls and 8%- 10% boys have suffered various forms of sexual abuse.
An earlier report in China, Statistics of Child Sexual Abuse Cases and Investigation Report on Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Education in 20 16 years, shows that in 20 16 years alone, 433 cases of child sexual abuse were recorded, with 778 victims, an increase of 22% over 20 15 years.
For a long time, the absence of school sex education and the inaction of parents have made countless children miss the good opportunity to receive sex education. Children have been hurting themselves, and many children have become the food of animals.
We can't protect children around the clock, and we can't predict in advance what dangerous things children will do and whether they will meet good people or bad people.
The only thing our parents can do is to give their children correct physiological education and guidance in advance, so that children can avoid the harm of others while not doing dangerous actions themselves.
Physical education is not only necessary for children, but also should be as early as possible.
And the more developed countries, the earlier the time of children's physiological education:
Japan: From kindergarten, children are taught the difference between men and women and reproductive organs, the performance of boys and girls in their respective physiological periods, and how babies come.
USA: Physiology education is popularized in stages: teaching students to know themselves from primary school; Sex education begins to face and guide from middle school; What adults should do is to guide and reduce teenage pregnancy and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.
Britain: The compulsory education of the British government is a "national compulsory science course" for children over1/kloc-0. In fact, sex education in many schools is more advanced. Starting with dolls, primary schools began to get in touch with "introductory" knowledge.
China: Health knowledge is popular in primary schools. Junior high school students also have some physiological knowledge taught by teachers when they are studying biology, but most of them are taught by themselves through the Internet.
It can be seen that we often feel embarrassed and ashamed to speak. When we want to wait for our children to grow up and understand themselves, people with foresight have already walked in front of us.
The earlier the physical education begins, the more conducive it is for children to cultivate self-protection consciousness, the mode of getting along with the opposite sex and the intimate relationship in the future.
We can't grow up instead of children, let alone protect them for life.
The risks we avoid for our children will one day be fully repaid by life.
So, if you want your child not to do things that hurt you and avoid the harm of bad people, where should you start with physical education for your child?
Perhaps the following suggestions can provide us with some ideas:
1. Correct treatment, science education.
With the growth of age, children will inevitably ask some questions about gender characteristics. If a child asks a question that parents are embarrassed to answer, we should overcome the "embarrassing" mentality and answer the child's question positively.
On the contrary, perfunctory and prevarication will stimulate their stronger curiosity, which is even more unfavorable to the growth of children.
As for science education, we can start from the little things in life: for example, I often help my child know his body when taking a bath, emphasize his private parts, and tell him not to show them to others or touch his private parts casually, and learn to protect himself.
Or we can also use picture books or video materials to educate children:
For example, the Indian sex education film Sex Education between Father and Son.
The little boy in the film often asks questions that make his parents blush, but his father always answers vividly with various metaphors: tell the child how he was born with plants that grew from seeds, and use crickets as metaphors to convey the correct view of love to the child. ...
2. Understand the psychological characteristics of children of different ages and teach them according to time.
Different children have different psychological characteristics, and one-sided education cannot fully satisfy children's curiosity.
Only by giving children proper physical education at the right age can children not do anything wrong or get hurt because of curiosity.
Studies have shown that children's physiological education should be divided into three different stages according to their ages, namely, infancy (0-6 years old), childhood (7- 10 years old) and adolescence (1-14 years old).
The key point of early childhood is to help children establish different gender awareness between men and women and let them understand the differences between the sexes.
The focus of childhood is to correctly guide children to understand some intimate actions between the sexes. For example, when we see some intimate scenes on TV, we should let our children know that they can only do these intimate actions when they grow up.
The key point of adolescence is: positively guide children to understand the physical and physical differences between men and women, and let children learn to get along with the opposite sex calmly.
3. Grasp the scale and get along on an equal footing.
For the sensitive topic of "sex", we need to grasp the scale and pay attention to the strategy when we carry out physiological education for children.
When children ask these questions, we should treat them calmly like other problems and educate them in a casual way.
Get along with children as friends on an equal footing, and usually guide children to exchange things about school or life, so that children can realize that parents are the closest partners who can talk about everything.
In this way, children will communicate with us as soon as possible if they encounter any problems in the future, and avoid doing things that hurt themselves or others.
Therefore, children's physiological education is an indispensable lesson in the process of growing up. As parents, we should do correct education and guidance to help children protect themselves, avoid injury and grow up healthily.