With the development of science and technology and the progress of society. People's ideological awareness is also gradually improving, especially on education issues, with a higher level of understanding. Adults begin to lay a bright future for their children, and some make unremitting efforts for a long time from the birth of children to their families. They spend money to let their children learn dance, painting, handicrafts, electronic piano and so on. Since they entered kindergarten, and then grew up. In addition to taking part in the subjects studied, extra-curricular remedial classes are also added to turn children into machines that can only learn. This also verifies the words of the poor. Although adults take great pains to cultivate children, they often hear a sentence from parents: "What's wrong with children now? They don't worry about eating, eating or spending, but they just don't listen. " But parents and comrades, do you understand the inner world of children? What do they need most? What they need most is to be understood and respected because parents are always used to talking to their children in the tone of their elders. They can't move what you have to do and what you can't do, and sometimes they force their children to do it. In the long run, children will form such an understanding, and adults are unreasonable.

In fact, adults should learn to listen, listen to children's voices, know their real thoughts, and then talk to them patiently and guide them correctly. Only in this way can children trust you and be willing to communicate with you. If you don't calm down and listen to your children, even if it's a thousand reasons, and you throw a pot of water on your head, even if your children have endless words and endless complaints, they won't tell you anymore, but shut themselves up because they think adults don't understand and respect them. Over time, their personalities will get worse and worse, and eventually they will be incredible.

In fact, there are many ways for parents to communicate with their children. You can leave some time to chat with your children, play with them and surf the Internet together. Sometimes it is not appropriate to talk face to face. We can communicate by letter. Because some words will embarrass children in person, but it is easy to communicate through letters. But no matter what method you use, you should always remember that your child is ordinary and you should treat your child with a normal heart. Because our child is an ordinary person, not a great man. We adults should not be used to comparing other people's children with our own. Because your child is not a genius. The most important responsibility of us adults is to teach our children the principles of being a man, let them learn to compare with themselves, and encourage and praise even a little progress today than yesterday.

Nowadays, many parents keep saying that they care about their children's study and life, but they have never deeply understood their children's inner world. They only know how to earn a lot of money to let their children go to a good university and find a good job, but they don't know that children need something more important than money-understanding and respect. In fact, adults might as well change their mentality, think from the perspective of children and look at everything, because don't forget that we were children once, and we also have a side that is unknown. If you preach blindly, it will only make your child more and more annoyed, and the distance between you and your child is getting farther and farther. Because children listen to what you say every day, "study hard at school and listen to the teacher, otherwise you can't even go to a key high school, let alone a good university." Look at someone, how good you study, how sensible you are, and so on. "Some old sayings will only make children more and more disgusted with you. You should set a realistic goal for your child according to his own situation, a goal that can be achieved with a little effort. Such a big goal is concrete. Only by letting children experience the happiness of success can they continuously stimulate their interest in learning and finally realize their lofty ideals.

There is a saying: "Learn to be a man first, and then learn to be a man." In fact, this sentence tells us that no matter what kind of talents you are going to train your children, being a talent is the most important thing. It is common for some parents to lead their children to cry helplessly in front of the teacher. "Their children look very kind, but they always do some incredible things. When I get to school, I either fight with my classmates or contradict my teacher. Some teachers and parents reprimanded me, and they were still arrogant and dismissive. " From the eyes of these parents, we can see their helplessness and helplessness. But, my Lord, have you thought of it? Where is the ultimate root cause? In your family, because of problem children, it appears in the problem family.

There is a fourth-grade student in school who is usually quiet and looks quiet. But his classmates always accuse him of taking other people's things in the dormitory and being unsociable in the class. All the students call him a thief, and no one wants to associate with him. The class teacher called the child to talk, and the child told the family situation. My mother is away all the year round and has a bad relationship with my father. My parents ignore him and my sister. With or without parents, they are all the same. Alas! Such parents are too irresponsible for your children. Since you don't take care of your children, it's better not to have children at the beginning, because it's your children who suffer. We adults, don't always look down on children. There is something wrong with the child itself. If there is a problem, we should solve it bit by bit. However, this is not just a child's problem, parents are a mirror of children, and children's problems always have a complex family background. A family is reasonable, and your children will be reasonable. A child's eccentric personality shows that there must be something wrong with this family education. Ma Jiajue of Yunnan University killed four students. However, when the reporter searched for his life resume, I didn't expect that he gave the impression of being a good boy in the eyes of parents, a good student in front of teachers and students, and a good youth in the eyes of villagers. But after the incident, people found that Ma Jiajue had serious psychological problems through investigation. When Ma Jiajue 15 years old, he tried to kill his father when he heard his parents arguing! As can be seen from this example, children have their own problems. However, some parents pass on their expectations for the future and heavy pressure to their children, causing more problems for their children. In the period of social transformation, while people are unilaterally pursuing wealth and status, they often ignore the most fundamental things in life-love and tolerance. Therefore, a good student does not necessarily have a good psychological quality.

Many children are reluctant to communicate with their parents. Why? For example, the child got 90 points in math last time and 80 points this time. In fact, he was the tenth in his class last time and the eighth this time. But parents don't understand and understand the situation, and he has made progress. When you need affirmation, you give your child a scolding indiscriminately. Can children be at arm's length with you?

To tell the truth, it is not easy to be a good parent. Many of us, leading a unit and a company, do a great job, but the children are not in charge. What is the reason? It is worth thinking about by every parent. In short, parents are the children's first teachers and spiritual pillars. Although children are unwilling to communicate with their parents, the door to communication is closed. I don't think it's the children's problem, but the parents' problem. Children were so popular with you when they were young, why did they suddenly stop talking to you? You should think about it. But most importantly, I think parents should help their children adjust their psychology, which is much more important than urging their children to do homework or tutoring them. I also believe that as long as we are good at entering children's spiritual world and driving a spiritual through train with children, we can become good parents.