At that time, students like me were the mainstream, and many people walked and rode bicycles in groups every day. Few children need to be picked up by their parents every day. Only a few children who are far away from home will be picked up by their parents.
It's different now. Nowadays, children are picked up by their parents almost every day from kindergarten, even in junior high school and high school. Every time you pass by the school gate, you will always find the parents who are circled.
The members in this sea of people are also very interesting. If you distinguish carefully, it is not difficult to find. Many times there are old people, especially at the gates of kindergartens and primary schools. A kind old man with white hair.
In fact, many problems can be seen from the situation of parents picking up their children. If parents are too careless, it may affect their children's growth and development.
The most common scenes have different effects on children.
Scene 1: Old people pick up children (grandparents/grandparents)
This is the most common situation at present, because many families are husband and wife working outside, and most of them need the help of the elderly to take care of their children. Therefore, it is common for more and more elderly people to pick up their children, especially at the gates of kindergartens and primary schools.
These children were not only picked up by the elderly, but also mostly taken away by the elderly. Over time, children will be very close to the elderly, and the elderly will spoil their children.
In the long run, the intimate relationship between children and parents will be affected, and children who are overindulged by the elderly will become delicate and even charming. It is not good for the baby's growth education.
Scene 2: Parents pick up their children.
In addition to the elderly picking up children, it is also common for parents to pick up children. In contrast, such parents are certainly more cautious about their children's education and safety, so they should take time to pick up and drop off their children whenever possible.
Generally speaking, this kind of parents will have a heavier burden of life, but they are also happier, which is also very helpful for their children's growth. Such parents can be called model parents.
However, it should be noted that there are indeed some families in which parents pick up and drop off their children, but it is often a fixed person rather than parents who take turns to pick up and drop off their babies, which also has certain disadvantages for children.
Parents who pick up their children for a long time will be closer to their children. Another parent is likely to have some "barriers" with his children, which hinders the cultivation of parent-child relationship.
Scene 3: Nanny picks up the children.
Nowadays, with people's living standards getting higher and higher, many families with conditions have begun to hire nannies for maternal and child care. Therefore, in addition to the elderly and parents picking up the children, there are also families who choose to let the nanny pick up the children.
Nanny picking up children can reflect two messages. One is that the economic conditions at home are definitely good, and the other is that parents are really busy and have no time to pick up their children. This also has a negative impact on children's growth education.
Scene 4: Children go to school by themselves.
Generally speaking, this situation mostly occurs in the third grade of primary school, and generally the home is close to the school. Most parents in these families trust their children and believe in their independence. Parents really don't have much time.
The advantage of this situation is that the child's independent ability is exercised, and the child will be more independent and brave than his peers, and his personality will be more cheerful and lively. However, there are also some shortcomings, such as security issues that have to attract the attention of parents.
Even if parents can't pick up their children every day, some things have to be done by themselves.
1) I usually care about my children.
If parents can't pick up and drop off their children in person, they should try to reduce their working hours and spend more time with their children after returning home. After all, there is not enough time to spend with children every day.
Parents can ask their children what they learned today, what interesting things happened at school and so on. Then you can tell your child a story before going to bed and put your baby to sleep. Even if you can't pick up the children in person every day, more communication can warm up the parent-child relationship.
2) Communicate with your child's teacher.
If parents can't drive their children to and from school often, they may miss some things about their children at school. Therefore, parents must communicate with teachers more and know more about their children's situation at school, even if they can't pick them up often.
Whether it is good or bad, parents should try their best to understand, so as to better educate their children.
3) Actively participate in children's school activities.
When a school or kindergarten holds parent-child activities such as parent-child meetings, performances and sports meetings, parents must try their best to attend or go to the scene. These occasions often let parents know the other side of their children. For children, it is also a kind of parents' presence in person.
It seems like a trivial matter to send children to and from school. In fact, the meaning contained in it is quite different. Parents will miss the baby's growth if they are not careful. This kind of miss is often irreparable.