I heard a short story about a stupid bird flying first:
A child is called a stupid bird by his parents because of his poor grades. The child pouted unconvinced and said, "there are three kinds of stupid birds in the world, one of which flies first;" One is too tired to fly ... "
The parents asked curiously, "What about the third one?"
The child said, "This kind of thing is the most annoying. If you can't fly first, you will lay eggs in the nest and let the next generation fly hard. "
But nowadays, it's really useless. It is a common phenomenon that parents' generation left unfinished things or unfinished ideals to their children's generation to do.
But no one has heard the children's voices-do you really want to go to cram school after school? Do you really want to take an interest class on your day off? Do you really want to carry a bigger schoolbag than yourself?
The answer given is-don't want to! But before the child could say it, the adults blocked it with two words:
"Why don't you go to school? You know how to play every day! "
"I have to have you now this condition, just how to ..."
"You see Aunt Wang's son and Uncle Li's daughter, we can't lose at the starting line ..."
The Excellence in parents' mouth is always someone else's child!
Is it the biggest lie not to let children lose at the starting line?
Zhihu recently had a favorable answer:
This sentence is not a lie, just the wrong person. Let the children not lose at the starting line, don't toss the children in the past, but toss themselves now, because your children's starting line is you. Your financial ability, knowledge, morality and visual taste determine where your children start, where to run and how to run.
Some people say: "Losing at the starting line is a lifelong shackle for China's parents." Actually, that's it. As long as parents hear that their children are behind the starting line, they will try their best to help them catch up.
Spencer, an American educator, once said: "As parents, we should never pay too much attention to children's exam results, but should pay attention to the cultivation of children's thinking ability and learning methods, and try our best to retain their most precious interests and curiosity. You must never use the test scores to judge the pros and cons of a child, and you must never let your child have a sense of honor and disgrace. "
I think I'm glad that my parents' education is very open-minded. They are the kind of farmers who face the loess and face the sky. In their eyes, education can be summarized in one sentence-study hard and make progress every day.
My parents' education is very loose, because they think they have no culture and can't help me much. The biggest help is to support me silently, and the rest is for myself.
What kind of education should I belong to, from primary school, junior high school, high school and university. My parents didn't make much plans for my education, and everything was natural. They never expect me to achieve much, but only hope that I am as ordinary, happy and healthy as ordinary people.
In the process of educating me, my parents never thought that the stupid bird would fly first. I've never been to an interest class or a remedial class in my life. To be exact, I am a person who has never even attended kindergarten.
Unlike parents now, I don't know why, but I have signed up many interest classes for my children. Children work like gyroscopes all day, overloaded.
Actually, it's the same sentence. Do the children like those interest classes? What kind of education can family economic strength match? Is there any comparison between adults in children's education?
It should be more accurate to say that excessive education of stupid birds flying first is tantamount to pulling out seedlings to encourage them.