In the first album "The Concept of Micro-education", Mr. Zhu Xiaoping recalled what his teacher, Mr. Hu Daping, often said, "This world has nothing to do with us." "The world is inseparable from us." These two sentences sound contradictory, but when you think about it carefully, it tells us that the wisdom of life lies in grasping the "degree", that is, guiding the right behavior with the right ideas at the right time, and you can't hold on to a word.
"The world has nothing to do with us." Be yourself, don't care too much about other people's ideas and opinions, or you will have a hard time. "The world is inseparable from us." Is to let us know that everything does not exist independently. We should know how to deal with everything around us, consider other people's ideas and not go our own way. Therefore, we should guide the children according to the actual situation, otherwise, if the children hold a certain sentence and always act according to it, they will eventually lose something.
In the fifth series "The Connection of Life", Zhu Xiaoping once again told us, "Please don't treat children as children" and "Please treat children as children". It seems to be another contradictory topic, but it actually tells us to grasp the "degree" in educating children.
It is equality and respect for children not to treat them as children. Let's lower ourselves, get along with children as equals, look into their eyes and listen to their voices. Only in this way can we communicate with children normally, walk into their hearts, know what children need and guide them better.
Many parents treat their children as children when they should be. Many parents violate the laws of education, excessively let their children do things that children should not do at this age, treat what children do from an adult's point of view, and criticize them indiscriminately, which can neither stimulate children's interest nor damage their self-confidence. You should know that growth needs a process, not overnight.
A little boy looked at the world in the water with relish by a small ditch. His father ran over and shouted, "Go home, a stinking ditch, what's there to see?" Then I dragged the children home regardless of their fun. In fact, my father doesn't know that the sewer in his eyes is a colorful world in the eyes of children. This time is the age when the child's imagination is fully exerted, but dad unconsciously destroys the child's imagination!
There are many such cases, and many times we adults can't imagine the imagination of children. Look at the only child around us. They are very lonely. They will chat with their pets and tell stories ... they will sleep with dolls. We will never experience the fun they imagined. Mao Dun's lesson "Skylight" is about the fun that the skylight brought him when he was a child. For adults, the skylight is just a simple window that can penetrate sunlight, but for children, it is magical. Children can see clouds, stars, lightning and thunder through the skylight. They can imagine hordes of troops, eagles fighting and the magical world outside ... These adults can never imagine or understand. So sometimes, please treat children as children, let nature take its course and give them what they should have at this age!
The seemingly contradictory topics are actually inextricably linked. It is necessary to combine the actual situation, grasp the "degree" of life wisdom, adopt different solutions, and face all aspects of life 360 degrees.