Speaking of children, probably every parent has endless topics. The growth of children has devoted too much effort and love to us. Of course, children have also brought us countless joys. Children are growing up day by day, from babbling and toddlering to today's children, and their changes bring us surprises one by one. In fact, the growth process of children is also the growth process of our parents, and we are constantly learning and making progress in their schools. I really don't know whether we taught the children or the children taught us.
The birth of a child means the beginning of education, which can be divided into family education, social education and school education. Parents can't just care about their children's intellectual development and academic performance. In my opinion, parents should pay attention to: children's physical and mental health education; Emotional education; Social morality; The education of non-intellectual factors such as will quality is family education. Knowledge transfer and intellectual development must be completed by school education. Even if parents know this knowledge, they may not know how to solve problems, or even contradict the methods of professional teachers. Therefore, as long as parents do a good job in family education, they will support teachers' work. Below, I will talk about some of my experiences in children's education.
This process is really the condensation of our efforts as parents. There is also a lot of confusion. Let me talk about some educational ideas and experiences of our family.
First, the word "strict" took the lead and seized the critical period of primary school.
Hu Shi, a great scholar, once said, "When a person is young, it is most important. In the future, becoming a great saint, a great hero, a great hero, a great traitor, a great thief and a great thief are all divorced from this kind of family education. " Nowadays, there are more only children in society, family conditions are better, and there are more phenomena of discipline from generation to generation and even asking others to discipline children. In the process of children's growth, many parents often ignore the strict education of their children, "love" and "spoil" their children and spoil them. If they are rude to others, their parents and grandparents should do things for them themselves, talk while doing their homework, or ask an adult to accompany them. For example, among the college students and high school students I know, there have been incidents of asking my parents to cook for me. We should never think that this is a trivial matter. I call it an event because I think such a child is spoiled, selfish and self-centered. No sympathy, no self-care ability, no will to overcome difficulties. Trees are not born straight, but grow into trees with crooked necks.
The purpose of my family's education for children is to let them understand truth and virtue and become a sincere and sincere person. Everything should be guided correctly, so that children can develop the habit of understanding and attaching importance to morality. Children should be trained to think more about the public and try to get rid of selfish ideas. Children are required to have love, love the country, love their parents, love the society, honor their parents and respect their teachers. Study hard and don't slack off. Strive to be a student with all-round development in morality, intelligence and physique.
My family's habit of raising children is strict and lenient. In kindergartens and primary schools, children are obedient, easy to discipline and easy to form good habits. At this time, I am very strict with my son. As long as children form good habits when they are young, they will not be out of line if they are bigger and looser. This is a critical period, and any education has a critical period. It is most effective to cultivate children's behavior habits at this age. If this kind of education is carried out after this age, the effect may be much worse. The primary school stage is the most critical period to establish routine and cultivate good study habits. It is most effective to cultivate all kinds of good habits at this stage. Grasping this link is equivalent to grasping the child's future.
Second, cultivate a sense of independence, so that children have no thoughts of dependence.
Children grow up day by day, but no matter how long they grow, they will always be children in the eyes of their parents. We always feel that they can't do this or that and need our help everywhere. In fact, children's abilities are often beyond our imagination. The key is whether we will let them do it. Maybe we all have this experience. It seems that a child will do something overnight that we have never specifically called him. We will be surprised: how did he learn it? This is the child. As long as we let him take the first step, they will give us a big surprise! Maybe sometimes we think it is not so easy for them to do it by themselves, but children will do it two or three times at a time and will do it well one day! If you don't let him do it, I'm afraid he will never do it well. At home, we try to let children do what they can, such as serving food, pouring tea and sweeping the floor for adults. Communication ability in modern society is also very important, and we should also pay attention to training. On the one hand, we encourage children to communicate with others, on the other hand, we also give them some communication skills.
Third, pay attention to children's growth, communicate with children more, be good parents, answer questions in time and guide children correctly.
Our family is harmonious and happy, which provides a good family environment for the healthy growth of children. Family disharmony is often more harmful to children than adults, which will make children lose their sense of security, easily form bad personality and psychology, and lack sense of responsibility and love. A good family environment can provide necessary fertile soil for children's healthy growth. At the same time, my family attaches great importance to moral education, and only by being a man can we do things. Moral education mainly starts with such trivial things as asking our son not to lie, not to take other people's things and not to litter. The content of moral education also changes with the growth of children. Of course, we will do what parents ask our children to do first. Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, as Confucius said: "Being upright and acting without orders". The influence of parents' words and deeds on children is subtle. In addition, parents should not condescend to carry out moral education for their children, but should do it in an atmosphere of democracy and equality; In addition, children's education is a step-by-step process, which cannot be achieved overnight. We usually take a little time every day to pay attention to our children's growth: how is the homework done and how is the study progressing? What's new? Aren't you happy? Especially when children are confused, frustrated and make mistakes, communicate with them in time, give correct guidance and adjust their mentality. At the same time, from the people and things around us in daily life, children are subtly educated about life and values, so that children can establish lofty ideals from an early age, thus inspiring endless motivation in their hearts. At the same time, it is children's nature to love to play. Without too much extracurricular training, we never deprive children of the right to play.
Fourth, contact teachers frequently to learn about children's learning situation and performance at school.
Families and schools should always keep in touch and be consistent. Parents should take the initiative to visit the teacher at school, reflect their children's learning situation and ideological attitude at home, and ask their children about their learning attitude at school, whether they are serious in class and whether they speak positively. If your child is insufficient in some aspects, you can have targeted education after returning to China. We didn't do very well in this respect. Fortunately, the teacher contacted us in time, which avoided educating children to take detours and avoiding the formation of some bad habits.
Family education is a complex systematic project. My family's education for children is still not enough, and we are still exploring some methods. We will continue to work hard, learn from the successful experience of other people's family education, and discuss with teachers and parents, so that children can develop in an all-round way, become excellent students with all-round development in morality, intelligence and physique, serve the motherland and people in the future, and be a wise, moral, conscious and promising person.
Parents, children and grandchildren, do not dye bad habits. Children should be educated to study hard and work hard, and they will become the pillars of our country in the future. Benefit the people; First of all, we should carry out moral education for children, know reason and morality, and educate children to become sincere and sincere people.
Greed and laziness are the main causes of human depravity. In any case, we should guide everything correctly, cultivate children's habit of understanding and attaching importance to morality, cultivate children's thought of serving the public and get rid of all selfish thoughts. Children are required to have love, love the country, love their parents, love society, love all people and things, and respect their parents and teachers. Study hard and don't slack off. Strive to be a student with all-round development in morality, intelligence and physique. Stepping into society in the future is not for yourself, but for the benefit of the people.
Educate children to be ambitious. People can't achieve great things without ambition. Ambition is one's goal. Therefore, our family often urges children to have clear goals. Ask children to be ambitious. Clear the direction and study hard. Diligence does not shrink back. At home, ask children to be "parents call, not slow; Parents, don't be lazy. " At school, children are required to "respect teachers and listen to their instructions." Listen carefully in class, finish all the homework assigned by the teacher on time, unite students and learn from each other's strengths; Do as many things as possible that are beneficial to the public at school. Strictly abide by school rules, educate children to strive to be an excellent student with all-round development in morality, intelligence and physique, serve the motherland and people in the future, and be a wise, moral and conscious person. This is our family's expectation and education plan for children.