If parents want to get to know their children and let them express their thoughts, they should do it in a relaxed atmosphere like friends and make their children feel that this family is democratic. Whenever a child talks to his parents, parents should put down what they are doing as much as possible and concentrate on listening to the child. This can make children feel that their parents care about listening to him, let them feel respect and encouragement, and be willing to express their feelings.
1, parents and children should be honest. Parents should ask their children with the mentality of being curious about everything about their children and wanting to learn. For example, today, I heard that the kindergarten teacher taught a very nice song, and my father (mother) really wanted to listen to it! Can you be a little teacher and sing a song for me? No matter how the child sings, you should listen with interest. When he finishes singing, you should clap your hands and say, "Baby, that's great, the teacher has remembered it." Then talk about what he ate in kindergarten, who he played with, what the teacher taught today and so on.
In order to have good communication with children, parents' attitude is very important. Parents should not keep a straight face when communicating with their children, nor should they beat them in any rude and barbaric way, or communicate with them by interrogation, let alone condescending, so that their children can be equal to you. Only by treating children with a gentle attitude can children feel respected and valued, feel love and warmth, and be willing to talk to their parents about their feelings and receive education.
3. To achieve good communication, parents' gentle attitude is very important. If parents are always in a condescending position in front of their children, and always talk to them with a dignified face and harsh tone, children will be afraid, so they dare not communicate with their parents, and some children will even have rebellious psychology. This will not only fail to educate children, but also block the communication between parents and children. Only when parents treat their children with a gentle attitude can they make them feel love and warmth, and make them willing to confide in their parents and achieve the goal of being willing to receive education. On the contrary, parents beat their children in a rude and barbaric way, which will make them afraid. It is foolish to hit children, and there will only be two results in the end. One is to beat a bully. If you beat him, he will beat others. The second is to beat a loser, who is afraid. Is this what parents want to see? Of course not, so we still have to reason with our children and convince others.
4. treat your children as your friends. True friends are regardless of age, sex, position or status. If parents want to talk about everything with their children, they should stand in their children's perspective, pay attention to their interests and chat in their language. In the process of communication, parents squat or sit down, look directly at the children's eyes and speak, so that children feel equal. Only when parents and children get along on an equal footing and respect their wishes, will children regard you as a true friend and be willing to share their joys and sorrows with you.
5. Listen more and talk less when communicating with children. In the process of communicating with their children, many parents always say that they want their children to listen, saying a lot, neither good nor bad, and all their children are very successful. No matter what the child has to say, parents should listen to him patiently, and you should show that you are a very enjoyable and loyal listener. Over time, the child will feel that you understand him very well and are really interested in the things around him. The feelings expressed when listening to him are real, not intentional. This can increase children's sense of security, and children are more willing to talk and communicate with their parents and tell them their feelings and thoughts.
As the saying goes, when sincerity comes, it breaks the ground. As parents, as long as they really care about and care for their children, they will definitely try their best to communicate with them.