The book "The Secret of Making Children Become Talents" was edited according to the inspiration of the silent master about family education and life education in different periods. Maybe people will wonder, what good suggestions and methods can a monk have for children's education? Such doubts are exactly where we have problems in parent-child relationship and family education. It is believed that education is education and learning is learning, and the study of school lessons is separated from the exploration and study of life and from the practice of daily life. If you don't study well, you will arbitrarily think that children are not smart, don't work hard, and won't reflect on whether their words and deeds will have an impact on children, whether the relationship between everyone in the family will have an impact on children, whether their emotions and moods will have an impact on children, and whether the bits and pieces of daily life will have an impact on children.

The Secret of Making Children Become Talents clearly tells us that children can grow up by themselves as long as their parents are willing to change themselves.

So, delete "Do monks have any good suggestions for education?" With such restrictive thinking, Silent Master told us with the wisdom of Buddhism that all educational problems and life problems are not problems. Even if you are not a Buddhist, you can get good enlightenment from this book. This book is informative and has many useful suggestions, such as how to help children build their dreams. What if parents and children have communication barriers? What are the secret spells to help children become talents? Wait a minute. Not only in parent-child interaction, even people without children will gain a lot from reading, which is worth reading again.

Share the "8 ingenious ways to teach children" given by the silent master.

1, talk less and do more.

The silent master said that parents are originals and children are copies. Therefore, no matter how much truth parents tell their children, it is not as effective as personal demonstration. When you have any requirements for your children, ask yourself first, have I done it? How dare you ask your children to do things that parents can't do themselves? Shut up, do it, and be a role model for children, which is ten thousand times more useful than saying ten thousand words seriously.

2. The best education uses the third party.

This method means that what parents want to ask their children, if it is told by someone who respects and admires their children or by their good friends, will be more effective than what parents tell their children themselves. At this point, in fact, we all have such experiences in our lives. Sometimes close family members will not listen to what they say, and they will feel that they are limiting themselves. However, if friends say the same thing, or people they admire, they will listen more.

3, talk about children, try to encourage and give positive energy.

This is easy to understand. A large number of experiments in the book Water Know the Answer tell us that negative words have great lethality and positive sentences have great energy. Silent master said: people are nothing, just like an empty bottle, what they hold is what they are. Waste comes from constant blows, and the best comes from encouragement everywhere. Therefore, never use negative language to communicate with children again, and always remember to encourage children with positive affirmative sentences.

4. Parents usually develop good living habits, make good friends and establish good circles.

Parents have a great influence on their children. Therefore, the silent master suggested that parents should form the habit of speaking positive words, don't complain about the social country, and reflect on themselves. This is a free, intangible and accumulated virtue of doing good anytime and anywhere.

Parents must have their own dreams, and then help their children to build great, beautiful and selfless dreams.

I agree with you very much. After having children, I especially feel what kind of parents to cultivate first. If you live a muddled, aimless, muddle along, negative and decadent life, how can you help your children establish a positive outlook on life? Having a goal in life and working hard for one thing is the best demonstration for children.

6. Learn to pray and bless yourself and your children.

This sounds idealistic, but recently I have come into contact with many ideas that coincide with this point. In the book "Praying for the Joy of Life", it said, "When prayer went out of the religious hall and made its debut in modern western clinical treatment, science seemed unprepared and began to pay attention to this method that must be used in all religious and spiritual practices. Duke University uses the word' thoughtful and sober intention' to define prayer, which is interpreted as: keeping a clear consciousness, focusing on a specific goal, and exerting influence through the power of the mind ". Therefore, when you are worried about children, it is better to use sincere prayers and blessings instead.

7. Put children in a specific and energetic environment.

Here, the examples in the book are the winter camp and summer camp that Silent Master runs every year. My understanding is that as long as it is beneficial to safety, it can. Being with parents and friends with the same frequency and taking children to participate in meaningful activities can make both adults and children in a dynamic field.

8. Stocking rather than captivity.

This is easier to understand. Nowadays, children don't care too little, but they care too little. Parents use their children's anxiety to set obstacles for their children, which hinders their free exploration and self-management ability. Including many bad orientations in the society, it seems that they are all for the good of children, but they are getting farther and farther on the road of cultivating giant babies.

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