In particular, some impatient parents who are eager for success like to beat their children. Many times, parents beat and scold their children to vent their bad emotions and seize their negligence as an excuse. This kind of beating and cursing is based on parents' own irrationality and has no educational significance. It will only cast a shadow over the child's mind and plant hatred.
Introverted and timid children are often beaten and scolded, and the result is indecision, passivity and Nuo Nuo style. Such children are often bullied by their peers. When they grow up, their shrinking mentality and actions make them marginalized. Low career success rate and low self-esteem.
Outgoing and daring children, the older they get, the more rebellious they become. They often show provocation, contempt for authority and resistance to rules. I will also learn to imitate my parents' abusive behavior and treat others. The proportion of negligent crimes committed by such children is higher than that of the same age group with normal tutoring.
Children who are often beaten and scolded generally have lower academic performance than their ability level.
Children who are often beaten and scolded have lower self-esteem than their peers.
Children who are often beaten and scolded generally have interpersonal maladjustment and are generally rejected by the group.
Children who are often beaten and scolded in adulthood have a much higher incidence of mental illness than normal groups.
The shadow of childhood abuse will accompany you all your life.
Beating and cursing is the worst way of education.
Our society evolved from the feudal autocratic cultural tradition, and the educational concept of "no tools" still deeply affects us today. There may be complaints from parents, sometimes playing is not enough, but playing is effective. I don't deny that fighting is really effective, especially in the short term, children may correct it immediately. but
Permanent influence is very bad. Parents who think there is no other way but to fight mainly regard fighting as a magic weapon from the beginning, because fighting is the easiest. They haven't seriously studied other methods except playing.
According to my investigation, those who have a successful career and are well-developed have rarely been beaten or never been beaten since childhood.
Most children in juvie are victims of domestic violence.
The first thing China's parents should do to their children is to stop beating and cursing.
In fact, there are many ways to punish children. Please visit the website of Mr. Huichang Chen of Beijing Normal University for advice.