During my tenure at Peking University Preschool Education Investment Company, I served as a research-oriented professional lecturer, focusing on disseminating Montessori education law and training nearly 1,000 kindergarten directors, parent-child kindergarten directors and front-line key teachers. Over the years, we have developed and improved the curriculum system in parenting education through the research and exploration of "Montessori Education Law in China", enjoying a good reputation and extensive influence.
In 2007, he stopped in Nanchang and founded Qiqi Teacher Nursery Studio, serving as an educational consultant for many early education institutions and kindergartens.
Nie Yanjun has done a lot of work to spread and popularize Montessori education law in Jiangxi, and has been invited to give lectures in various pre-school educational institutions and well-known kindergartens. While being widely recognized and respected, Montessori education law has also established its authoritative position of deeply understanding and accurately grasping the connotation of Montessori education law.
The series "Application of Montessori Education in Family" has been shared for several issues. Because there are many new friends today, I think it is necessary for you to know some basic points:
Montessori education law is one of the greatest education laws in the world (the influence and essence of this education law can be found in Baidu, so I won't say much here, I will only talk about some phenomena that you can't understand through the internet and general channels), and I will try my best to restore what Dr. Montessori wants to preach.
I want to give you something (her education law is profound and all-encompassing, and it has developed for more than 100 years, while I have only studied 10 years, and I can only express a small part that I can understand). If you want to know more about Montessori's education law, please read her original works, such as Searching for Children, Absorbing the Mind, and Secrets of Childhood, which will make you understand the education law objectively and accurately.
(A qualified Montessori teacher has repeatedly studied Montessori's original works for at least 5 times, constantly combining theory with practice and verifying theory through practice! If the mother can read and understand these books patiently, then her children are lucky (teachers and parents generally react that these books are too boring to read, hehe. However, I am an exception. The more I read, the happier I am. The more you look, the more you feel! You can also try! ))
Unfortunately, many principals, teachers and parents began to make mistakes when they failed to learn Dr. Montessori's original work. Most of them followed the so-called "method" of Montessori, which did not study their original works, and did something that was not Montessori, which seriously affected the normal development of children. This makes me very sad! That's why I went to various places to train teachers and give lectures to my parents.
Do you know that?/You know what?
Montessori teaching AIDS are not equal to Montessori education law. Teaching AIDS are just a tool of Montessori education law. If you understand the essence of Montessori education method, you can still use Montessori education method without the so-called "Montessori teaching AIDS".
(Are parents of children who can't go to "Home of Love" or similar "Children's Home" or can't buy family Montessori teaching AIDS for their children a little happy because of their financial situation? ! )
Accept the suggestion of the administrator and focus on the "application of Montessori education method in family" in the group, which is a very broad theme (including how to implement sensory education/language education/mathematics education/science and culture education in the family; How to love children; How to help children get through the sensitive period smoothly? How to help children establish rules; How to help children "normalize"; The growth of "absorbing the mind"), let's take a look again: who are these rules set up for? Are they the same for everyone in the family?
What are the rules?
Rule: a system or constitution that stipulates that everyone should abide by. That is, everyone should abide by it, and adults should also abide by it (including fathers, grandparents). Such rules are meaningful and helpful to children's growth.
If the rules are only for children and adults do whatever they want, then children will ignore the rules like adults.
"Love and freedom, equality and rules" are inseparable. If there are rules, it will definitely embody equality and everyone should abide by them.
We should: "use the emotion of love to stimulate children's enthusiasm for growth;" Establish the initiative of children's self-awareness with free space; Guide and experience interpersonal harmony with equal relationship; Develop the standardization of children's behavior by internalizing rules. "
Therefore, the first point I want to say is that the rules are for everyone to abide by, not just for children! Don't set rules for children that you can't follow!
Secondly, let's learn about violence:
What is violence? John Redshaw, USA
Anything that violates a person's sense of "self" is violence.
In this definition, a person with more power, authority and knowledge interferes with the freedom of another person with less power, which is violence. It includes:
1, ignoring their health.
Step 2 abandon them emotionally
3. Hit, kick, push, pinch, shake, pinch them, send, hit them with something or threaten to hit them.
4, let them bump into the scene of various physical violence.
5. They can't be protected from their older peers, classmates or neighbors.
6. Laugh at the child's body
7. Unreasonable demands and expectations for children.
8. Refuse to set rules for children.
9. Not responsible for providing them with sexual information.
10, let them see adults or older relatives engaged in any form of sexual behavior.
1 1. Use them to meet your own needs of being praised and respected.
12, asking them to be successful, beautiful, good in sports and top in exams, just to fill their disappointment and sadness.
13. Use them as scapegoats for your anger and shame.
14. Refuse to solve the problem you didn't solve in the past.
Article 8-refusing to make rules for children is a kind of violence! I think many parents can't think of it! ?
Among them, 14, parents reflect on whether they have unintentionally committed violence against their children at home! ?
Third, how to establish rules?
1, rules and freedom are inseparable! ! And freedom has a "premise".
Let me quote a passage from the Montessori Education Law-Creation of Family Environment that I shared for the first time:
Many parents don't understand the meaning of "freedom" in Montessori education law, and they ask me in confusion: "Teacher Qiqi, isn't it chaotic to let children do whatever they want?" In this regard, I am in distress situation!
If you have similar doubts, please understand the following three "preconditions" of freedom!