It is necessary to understand that the wrong way of education will not only cause psychological trauma to children, but also cause different degrees of lack of temperament of children, and even cause very long-term harm to children. Parents must prevent the following abnormal parenting education methods.
0 1, punishing children and punishing cultural education can easily hurt children's self-esteem. It is necessary to know that the pain of flesh and blood can't make children remember their work experience. Only let children remember the pain and leave a shadow. Parents clench their fists and slap in the face, which can only crush the brand image of parents in their children's hearts, and the children's self-esteem will also be crushed together, which will not have all educational significance. Children who have been treated rudely will also treat others rudely when they grow up. This is a vicious circle. Educational methods with this problem can't solve all the problems, and it will drag on for a longer time.
Everything has replaced the right of many parents to forbid their children to do everything and make their own decisions. In the final analysis, they are afraid that their children can't do it or escape their sadness after encountering twists and turns. But for children, how can they learn from incorrect junior high schools without success? What's more, one day in the future, a child will eventually face a heavy choice in life. If we don't cultivate his ability to choose and work hard on all kinds of things, he can't grasp the future himself.
03. There are not many parents who take children as the core in daily life. Parents can keep their children as long as they like. That will make children feel taken for granted. When there is a slight disagreement between parents and children, children will cry and make a scene. In addition, in the treatment of children, it is also self-centered, and everything is better first. This is selfish and does not know how to share. The reasonable way for parents to educate their children should be to treat them as the main members of the family. In any case, it needs to be given to everyone, so that the baby can know how to share and care about others.
04. If you have a standard love for children, you need to get 100 points, and I will let you buy a remote control car that you are interested in; If you need help washing dishes, I will give you 30 yuan money and pocket money; After you finish tomorrow's work, I will let you watch TV for half an hour. Every time parents only need their children to make corresponding personal behaviors, parents will give corresponding standards. In one day, no matter what the child does, it is to better obtain that standard. Children will also feel that their parents just like their grades and some personal behaviors, but they don't really like him or love her. Slowly, when parents give the premise that children don't need, children will no longer be smart and will not continue to work hard.
05. Make comparisons frequently. In the process of educating their children, many parents often compare students with good test scores. This is the legendary "other people's children", which often happens to mothers. When many parents talk about learning and training, they will talk about their children's defects with the characteristics of others. This is actually not a reasonable way to set an example. On the contrary, if this continues, children's vanity will be severely hit.
Especially when there are others, it is best not to do so. Such sarcastic language will seriously hurt children's soft hearts, and they will degrade themselves, become more and more sensitive and even indulge in depravity.
However, there is a great pressure on children's daily life, which is also a realistic problem that many families must face directly. Parents always regard making money as the first task in their daily life, and the cultural education of their children ranks second. Now they think that children can make more progress in the future by earning a lot of money, sending them to a stronger university and buying stronger counseling books. Even some parents separated at the same time when their children were young, putting the responsibility of raising children on the elderly.
Parents don't pay much attention to the necessity of parenting education, but they never ask about their children's daily life, study and training, or even parent-child interaction in college. At first glance, children are endowed with stronger material conditions, but children who lack parental care in childhood must not have perfect thinking. It is difficult for a child like that to have a sound personality and a correct outlook on life when growing up.