First, the current major psychological problems of female college students
(a) Lack of confidence in the future and a weak sense of accomplishment. Compared with male college students, female college students will face more difficulties and obstacles on the road to success and development. Female college students enter colleges and universities by virtue of their own strength, and start a new round of competition with boys with their own wisdom and efforts. Compared with ordinary women, they are more self-respecting, self-reliant and self-reliant, and the improvement of this sense of independence is the psychological basis for creating good quality. However, the deep-rooted social prejudice caused by thousands of years of thinking patterns, especially some negative psychological stereotypes caused by employers' prejudice in job hunting, are also manifested to varying degrees. The survey shows that only 22% of female college students are confident, while 56% think they lack stable self-confidence. Some female college students have low self-esteem, lack self-confidence and dare not face the reality and future. This sense of inferiority directly affects creativity and leads to the self-burying of female talents. The result of lack of confidence is a weak sense of accomplishment, which is manifested in the fact that a considerable number of female college students have lost and vague goals. They regard going to college as the peak of their life struggle, and feel that they have completed their tasks when they go to college, lacking the ambition to do business. Due to the lack of goals in personal development, learning loses motivation, and enterprising consciousness becomes increasingly weak, which gradually runs counter to the road to success, gradually drifting away, and finally becomes the role of the weak.
(2) There is also jealousy and vanity. Jealousy is a psychological tendency to exclude or destroy the superior position of others, and it is a fierce emotion with hatred. Jealousy is caused by inferiority. Because in comparison, other girls are found to be better than themselves in some aspects, and they think they can't catch up with others, which will lead to jealousy. Jealousy is one of the weaknesses of human nature, which will lead to negative thoughts and psychological gaps, and the comparison will follow. Some female college students destroy other people's things because of jealousy, or secretly belittle each other, even at the expense of lowering their own personality, making irresponsible remarks or spreading gossip. This jealousy will inevitably lead to internal friction of female talents, which is extremely harmful.
Vanity is also caused by inferiority. Interpersonal relationship management points out that when people actively participate in social activities, if they pay too much attention to other people's opinions, they will often strengthen herd mentality and lead to vanity. A survey on the expenditure of several college students in a university shows that after deducting tuition fees, the expenditure of a student who has been in school for more than 9 months exceeds 1 1% of the per capita disposable income of urban residents in that year. Among them, 47.6% is used for eating, and only 4% is used for studying. Individual students talk about eating, speaking through, playing and not learning at school. High consumption has caused a series of psychological problems among students, especially among female college students. Some people lose their way because of vanity, blind pursuit and comparison of unrealistic things, and can't concentrate on their studies, so they will gradually be eliminated by society in the competition.
(3) Psychological problems in love. College students' love is restricted by many factors, so in the process of pursuing love, they will inevitably encounter various twists and turns, such as unrequited love, love illusion, lovelorn and other psychological setbacks in love, which are tests of college students' psychological endurance. If you have a strong tolerance, you can better cope with setbacks, otherwise it may have adverse consequences, especially for female college students. Therefore, it is very important for female college students' mental health to improve their tolerance to love setbacks. With the continuous maturity and expansion of social activities, female college students are eager for love. However, due to the lack of life experience and the influence of blind obedience in love, a considerable number of female college students have experienced setbacks in love, and a few female college students have emotional reactions such as depression, pessimism and even suicide because they cannot face up to the setbacks in love and get rid of the pain of lovelorn. Only a few female college students can achieve a reasonable balance between love and study, showing a successful integration.
(4) Learning psychological problems. Psychological problems in learning are mainly manifested in psychological confusion caused by insufficient motivation, improper methods, weak interest in learning and poor learning effect. Going to college is the ultimate goal of many female college students. After entering the university classroom, new goals have not yet been formed, and there are psychological States such as confusion and hesitation. Some students have always been top students in middle school, often praised by teachers, envied by classmates, praised by parents and feel good about themselves. After entering the university, the original sense of superiority is not obvious or disappears, and when you encounter problems in your study, your self-confidence will drop immediately and you will even feel inferior; Some students don't adapt to the study in the university, and their learning methods are improper, which leads to poor learning effect and increased psychological pressure; Other students, who didn't attend their ideal major, felt uncomfortable and didn't treat their current major with a positive attitude, which led to learning difficulties. Excessive anxiety leads to emotional instability, inattention and rigid thinking, which seriously affects the health of female college students.
(5) Psychological pressure brought by job hunting. There are various indications that female college students are in a weak position in job hunting for several reasons: First, it has a lot to do with the physiological differences between men and women and the different social roles. Boys are physically stronger than girls, can travel alone or be independent, can bear hardships, and are more willing to work at the grassroots level; Female college students have to bear more family responsibilities than men after getting married and having children, which will affect their career development to a certain extent, leading to many employers recruiting more boys than girls; Secondly, it is reflected in natural reasons, that is, the restrictions of industries and types of work. For example, construction enterprises and the military are more willing to consider boys; Third, some female college graduates don't know employment information, have poor professional foundation, poor job-hunting skills, have dependence, pursue stable jobs, have gender inferiority, and some even suffer from social phobia. They pin their hopes for employment on their parents, teachers and schools, coupled with the gender discrimination encountered in the process of finding a job and the majors limited by their teachers and sisters, these are all bad psychological States.
Second, how to strengthen the mental health education of female college students
(A) the correct self-awareness and self-evaluation ability counseling. Psychological research shows that psychological problems are often caused by not knowing yourself and not evaluating yourself correctly. Female college students often take other people's evaluation as the standard and pay too much attention to whether they meet other people's evaluation standards. The most important feature of health and maturity is the independent evaluation of others, and the objective evaluation and understanding of the true self can be completed based on personal experience. Female college students in their youth bear countless dreams in their hearts. They set a beautiful "ideal self" for themselves, but when they entered the university, they found that there was a huge contrast between reality and ideal. The desire for ideal self and dissatisfaction with real self constitute an important part of the development of female college students' self-awareness in this period. Therefore, in order to develop the mental health of female college students, we must guide female college students to have a correct evaluation of individuals, and they should not be arrogant and self-centered. Specifically, the following measures should be taken: First, help female college students set up correct ideals according to their own situation, and only with ideals can they have the motivation to act; Secondly, with ideals and beliefs as the core and positive guidance as the mainstream, we will carry out in-depth education on establishing a correct world outlook, outlook on life and values through various channels, including communism education, patriotism education, collectivism education, honesty and trustworthiness education, and hard work education. In particular, the education centered on "self-confidence, self-esteem, self-reliance and self-improvement" enables female college students to learn professional knowledge in depth based on this belief. Participate in social practice, make friends, open up and stay away from parochialism, so that every female college student can eventually become a good student with all-round development in morality, intelligence, physique, beauty and labor.
(2) Strengthen ideological and political education, carry out mental health consultation, and help female college students to vent their bad emotions. Psychological counseling and ideological education complement each other and influence each other, which plays a very important role in promoting the growth of college students. On the one hand, colleges and universities should make full use of existing teachers and educational resources, establish a stable psychological counseling team, strengthen the relationship between psychological counselors and female college students, and carry out psychological counseling extensively; On the other hand, we should urge comrades engaged in ideological and political work to strengthen the study of psychological counseling knowledge and shoulder the responsibility of helping students solve some simple psychological crises and improve their psychological quality. The combination of the two will help to find out female college students' psychological diseases and obstacles in time, as well as psychological problems caused by study confusion, love frustration and interpersonal conflicts, and seize the opportunity to give timely guidance and treatment, so that they can distinguish physical problems or psychological problems, ideological and moral problems or mental health problems among female college students, and comprehensively solve them to achieve better results.
(3) Strengthen interpersonal skills counseling and guide female college students to maintain harmonious interpersonal relationships. College students are in the stage of learning knowledge, understanding society and exploring life. They should not only face their study and life with a positive attitude, but also learn how to communicate smoothly in interpersonal communication. Interpersonal maladjustment is an important inducement that puzzles female college students at present. The psychological problems of female college students are directly related to their lack of knowledge and skills in interpersonal relationships. The implicit characteristics of one's own emotions and emotions also make it more difficult for people to understand one's inner world. Therefore, through collective consultation, colleges and universities should let female college students systematically master social adaptation knowledge, mental health standards and interpersonal skills, guide them to correctly grasp the direction and focus of interpersonal communication, choose, control, be sincere and learn from each other's strengths, so as to effectively play the role of interpersonal communication in exchanging information, communicating emotions, connecting friendship and promoting development.
(4) Correct concept of love and career counseling. The love of female college students is restricted by many factors, and it is inevitable that they will encounter various twists and turns in the process of pursuing love. Unrequited love, love illusion, lovelorn and other psychological setbacks in love are a test of female college students' psychological endurance. If you have a strong tolerance, you can better cope with setbacks, otherwise it may have adverse consequences. Therefore, it is an important task of psychological counseling for female college students to improve their tolerance to love setbacks and strengthen the counseling and guidance of correct love psychology. Under the guidance of female college students' concept of love, the core is to educate them to put their careers first and straighten the relationship between love and career. They should not spend all their precious time in love and relax their studies, let alone lose themselves because of the pursuit of love, and should establish a correct view of love.
Under the guidance of female college students' career concept, colleges and universities can help female college students to evaluate themselves correctly and know themselves through effective career consultation and specific employment guidance, so as to get out of the difficult employment situation as soon as possible. First of all, the school can help female college students realize that it is normal to encounter setbacks in their first employment through various lectures, including lectures by brothers and sisters who have successfully obtained employment, lectures by successful people, and entrepreneurial guidance. In the face of setbacks, we should not be complacent, look down on our work, abandon ourselves, fear and exaggerate setbacks. We should keep calm, build up confidence, find out the source of setbacks, analyze the reasons, find reasonable solutions, and finally put them into practice and grow up in repeated setbacks. Secondly, colleges and universities should actively organize various social practice activities, give practical guidance, help female college students to get in touch with and understand society, better position themselves, exercise their abilities, understand the difference between social reality and self-demand, learn to flexibly compromise between social requirements and personal abilities, better adapt to society, and finally realize the coordination and unity between self and society.
(5) Enhance female college students' learning motivation and cultivate their interest in learning. College students' learning motivation is caused by their learning needs, and it is a psychological tendency and attitude that points to certain learning goals. It is the internal motive force for college students to develop and maintain their learning activities. The learning needs of college students are the premise and foundation of direct learning motivation, which reflects their learning needs from their psychological attitude. It drives college students' learning activities towards certain goals. Schools should inspire students to have a correct understanding of social needs and expectations, create conditions conducive to students' self-orientation and self-guidance, and stimulate students' correct learning motivation. At the same time, we know that interest is the best teacher, so the school should guide female college students to cultivate a strong interest in what they have learned and promote them to maintain a positive learning attitude.