Wise and caring parents are not born. In the process of children's growth, parents should care for them everywhere.
1, you are the child's "clone" object.
The characteristics of family education are subtle and lead by example. Because children are highly malleable and imitative, parents are demonstrating their words, deeds and every move, exerting influence on children all the time. For infants aged 0-3, this effect is particularly important. Because people's personality and main advantages and disadvantages are mostly laid in this period. Children in this period have the most contact with their parents. Therefore, everything children learn at home, including intonation, movements, walking posture, personality and morality, will be branded by their parents. So some people say that children are parents' mirrors. If parents only care about eating, drinking and having fun after coming home from work, it will undoubtedly have a negative impact on their children.
2. Other children can't replace your children.
If parents want to educate their children well, they must first understand their age characteristics and personality characteristics. Age characteristics refer to the level and characteristics of physical and psychological development at a certain age. If children especially like games and stories in early childhood, parents can get twice the result with half the effort by playing games and telling stories to educate their children. If you keep preaching the truth, the effect will definitely be bad. Personality characteristics refer to each child's own personality characteristics, for example, some children are outgoing and lively; Others are introverted and tend to be shy and quiet. Therefore, we can't adopt the same education method. It is very important for parents to learn some knowledge about children's psychology. They should always observe and study children's personality characteristics and observe children's thoughts, behaviors and psychological needs from their perspective. In the process of tutoring, parents should never use "how are other children" to measure their children, because each child has his own personality characteristics. Wise parents want their children to be the best themselves.
Children have the same self-esteem.
Some parents never realize that their children also have self-esteem, blindly blame or despise their children's little progress, and inadvertently hurt their children. Self-esteem is an important psychological factor affecting children's healthy growth. Respecting children can not only promote their self-confidence and self-esteem, but also promote their innovative spirit and self-behavior control. Damaged children will inevitably have psychological obstacles in the process of growing up, such as inferiority complex and rebellious psychology. Therefore, parents must always pay attention to respect their children and protect and cultivate their self-esteem. In life, pay attention to children's little progress and give affirmation and encouragement in time. For children who are not as good as others, don't blame or be sarcastic. You can use other advantages to motivate children.
I have changed since childhood.
0-3 years old is the fastest and most basic period for children's physical and mental development. At this time, the plasticity is great, and the cultivation of good morality and character is the easiest to achieve results. Similarly, if a bad behavior habit is formed in infancy, it is the easiest to correct it. However, if you miss your childhood, it is much more difficult. At present, many problems in the behavior and morality of some primary and middle school students are caused by the lack of good education or improper education in childhood.
5. Love is not equal to justifying a fault.
Every child has advantages and disadvantages, but many parents only like to listen to praise and praise. If someone criticizes their children, they are often very unhappy. When you find your child's shortcomings, it is also a big deal and a small matter, and you hide them for your child. Some parents also try their best to excuse their children and even blame others. In fact, this is not the right way to take care of children. On the one hand, because parents protect their weaknesses, children will be fearless and even worse. Second, others no longer reflect the situation, which is not conducive to parents' comprehensive understanding of their children. But children's shortcomings are objective and will always be shown.
Step 6 strengthen good behavior
Children should find out their shortcomings as soon as possible, but it doesn't mean that they must stare at them until they die. Wise parents should use positive reinforcement. When educating children, giving affirmation and praise to their good behavior will make them feel happy and naturally willing to repeat this good behavior in the future. This practice is called positive reinforcement. On the contrary, some parents always focus on their children's shortcomings and talk about them over and over again. This is called negative reinforcement. Negative reinforcement can not only change children's bad behavior habits, but is easy to strengthen. If some children are partial to food, parents are anxious and want their children to get rid of it, everyone will say, "This child only eats fish, meat and eggs, and vegetables are irrelevant ... what can I do?" Especially criticizing a child's shortcomings in front of others will aggravate his shortcomings. The phenomenon that children are getting worse and worse is often caused by parents' habitual negative reinforcement. Therefore, making good use of positive reinforcement can often achieve the purpose of diverting the attention of the West.
7. "Conquer" children without violence
Some parents think that "if you don't fight, you can't do it", and your attitude towards children is often rude, which brings many bad consequences. The child's nervous system is very fragile, and rude attitude will make him nervous, damage his physical and mental health, and cause emotional estrangement between the two generations. Second, children are often afraid to tell their parents the truth for fear of violence. Over time, they will easily form the bad habit of lying and dishonesty. All three children are strong imitators and will become rude people in the future. Therefore, it is unwise for parents to "conquer" their children by high-handed means.
8. Don't treat TV as a "nanny"
Nowadays, in order to save trouble, a large number of parents regard TV as a full-time "nanny" for their children, which is unfavorable to their physical and mental development. One is to let children watch TV for a long time, which will directly hinder the language and emotional communication between parents and children, and is not conducive to the development of children's oral expression ability. Secondly, letting children watch TV all day will inevitably reduce outdoor activities and interpersonal communication, which will also have a negative impact on their eyesight. Third, watching TV requires passive attention. If you watch too much, it is not conducive to the development of active attention when you study hard, so that you can't concentrate for a long time when you study, and you are easy to get tired when you do things. Therefore, children should have a choice in watching TV and not spend too long. Parents should first take care of themselves and don't let their children become their "companions".
9. Mastering the best time to educate children can get twice the result with half the effort. Parents should explore with heart.
(1) The children have made achievements through their own efforts. At this point, he is in a state of excitement. He hopes his relatives will be happy for his success, and his parents must not be indifferent.
(2) Children unconsciously do good deeds or make innovative inventions. At this time, parents should give affirmation and praise in time and guide children to turn unconscious behavior into conscious behavior.
(3) There are major events in the children's living environment, such as someone being rewarded or someone being punished. At this time, parents should help their children distinguish right from wrong in time and let them form a concept of right and wrong.
(4) Children encounter difficulties and setbacks. At this time, parents should not only give their children the necessary understanding, but also help them analyze the reasons and find ways to overcome difficulties.
(5) The child made a mistake when he was in trouble. At this time, the situation is more complicated, and it is wrong to simply indulge. Education should be patiently persuaded.