First, praise is praise. In fact, this means that when praising children, we must pay attention to it. The central point is to praise children, so don't say anything else while praising them. When praising, our central theme is directed at children. When many parents praise you, they may say that you have done better than other children, or that you have achieved this goal, but you are not better than others. Maybe parents will feel that they are encouraging their children while praising them, but it is very likely that the center of children is not that parents praise themselves, but that parents think they are inferior to others. This is just a disguised criticism of children. Children's hearts are actually very naive and sensitive. They will pay more attention to whether their parents really think they are excellent. Therefore, when parents praise their children, they must pay attention to it. Praise is praise, and there should be no other words.
Second, don't always add buts, especially at the end of a compliment. I believe that many people will add a word at the end of a sentence when they speak, but it means a turning point. But for children, if these two words are added in the process of praise, they may focus on the following content. For example, parents may say, I think you did a good job this time, but there is still room for improvement. For adults, at first glance, this sentence may not be too big a problem, but for children, only the latter sentence is heard, that is, parents think there is room for improvement in learning.
Some children will selectively ignore that sentence in front of their parents, so what can parents do to praise their children? Because he will focus on the second half of the sentence and then keep thinking about what he can't do well. However, it is obvious that these words of parents are all praise for their children. Why did they finally let the children get lost in thought? So this means that when praising, we must focus on the central point of praise and don't add a but at the end of the sentence.
Third, don't exaggerate the fact. When praising children, parents don't need to exaggerate this fact. Many parents may deliberately let their children win in order to build their self-confidence. For example, in the process of parent-child games, they may let their children win and then tell them that you are really the best in the world. In this case, the child is likely to lose himself, not to mention that his victory in this game is only because his parents let go of water. In this way, it is very likely that children simply don't know where their level is and will blindly think that they are already very good. In fact, this kind of praise will not play any role at all, but will make children lose themselves.
Therefore, when parents praise their children, they should praise them based on the nature of things and don't exaggerate any facts. This also leaves room for children to improve, so that children can correctly realize their abilities and where they are.